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Africana, i know we can't hear tones on here, but i think that was unnecessary. Everyone is different, and many people start masturbating in different ages.
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quote:Everyone is different, and many people start masturbating in different ages.
And just to prove it, I'm going to 'fess up to being a seriously late bloomer in this respect ...
I first tried masturbating as a teenager (after reading about it), but didn't really get anywhere and just found it kind of frustrating (later, I found out that because of neurological problems and medication side-effects, I need a lot of stimulation to get anywhere near orgasm).
I was well into my twenties before I finally figured out what worked for me (and bought a vibrator) and had my first orgasm.
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Actually, I started pretty young too. It think around age 7. . . Or at least that's the first time I can remember. The truth of the matter is, I didn't figure out what I was doing until freshmen year of highschool or so. I mean, even with the sex ed. I had no clue. I remember being little and trying to show my friends what felt good to me, and it didn't work. You see, I don't have to use my hands. It's a matter of tensing muscles for me so since I had only heard of the conventional way I was completely oblivious to what I was doing. It wasn't until I realized what an orgasm felt like (I knew what it was), and that that was what I was experiencing, until I had any clue that that was what I was doing. Weird I know. But hey, no hands!
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i remember that i started at the age of 4. I know it's too early, but i just remember that i used to touch my genitals and i had orgasms. I used to do it, when i was watching television, when someone kiss or have sex with someone else. That turned me on. During the next years i thought it was sin, but then i discovered that it's totally normal and has a name: masturbation. I really don't introduce stuff in me, i just stimulate the clitoris area, and i got orgasms. Masturbation is a normal and natural way to know better your own genitals.
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I'm really glad to read that i'm not the only really early starter it seems so weird to confess to people that you've been at this since 3 or 4 but it's alot easier to deal with when you can talk and realize your not alone and have grown up
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Age Twelve. In the car, my mother went inside to visit some lady. I had an hour alone. Everything progressed from there. Highly recommend it.
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Paraphrase of Bill Maher: When I was a teenager, I believed I would stop masturbating in my twenties. When I was in my twenties, I believed I would stop masturbating in my thirties. In my thirties, I accepted that I had a lifetime hobby.
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I remember watching a soap opera (GENERAL HOSPITAL) with my friend Liz when we were really young and seeing two people making out in bed. We were sitting on the floor watching it and decided to act it out. My mom was in the other room, and I guess she heard us, because she asked us what we were doing. We said "nothing", and then went up to my room to try it more. That was my first real experience with sexuality.
I didn't find out what masturbation was until 5th grade when I was over at a friend's house and started reading a book that her mom got her about "growing up". It mentioned that sometimes girls touch their clitoris to bring them to orgasm, so when I got home, I tried it. It took me a while to find my clitoris... I was rubbing my hymen for a while, thinking, "how is this "clitoris" supposed to feel good?" until I finaly found the right spot. I orgasmed that night, and I've been addicted ever since! Of course now I know more about masturbation, and I even hav a vibrator that I treasure very much
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I can remember having ::AWESOME:: fantasy life when I was 10, and I can even remember having an orgasm.But that's all - I think I might start masturbating tonight because it sounds like fun!
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This is a total laugh!I can remember playing a game with my friend, Sarah, called "Spanking Doctor".LOL.We were always scared that her older sis would walk in the room.I can't believe I'm not the only one!
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Hmmm.. Masterbation... Yeah, i was 12, and i used to hump on pillows and my stuffed animals (usually the teddybear).. Not long after, i figured out what was going on in my vaginal area, so i casually moved my hands there, and inside. It felt good.. i kept doing it with myself till i was 17, then one of my ex-boyfriends' bestfriend was the first guy who helped me masterbate, and from there, i had my first real "organsm" I still masterbate to this day too
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Whoa...it's been said before, but reading all this REALLY makes me feel better about myself. I started masturbating some time in preschool, I think, and it wasn't until sixth grade that I even sort of realized it was sexual, even after learning about masturbation in sex ed. I can actually remember thinking, "Oh, but it says masturbation is touching yourself, and I rub myself, so that's different." Even as a small child, I felt weirdly guilty about it, and the fact that my parents were understanding almost made it worse. That whole "Sweetie, that's something you should do by yourself" line really had the adverse effect on me. I freaked out and assumed I was an oddball- not that I stopped, I just kept feeling guilty. Going to Catholic school didn't help, where even if the other girls did masturbate, they sure pretended to be grossed out by the topic. So I never really had the girl-girl friend dynamic that some people have mentioned. But then I found Scarleteen, and the world is a happy place! No more guilt tripping for me!
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what a fun topic! i always thought i was weird because i started masturbating at 5 yrs...and i would have never guessed that anyone else did! good to know that i'm not alone...um....i use the pillow, used to use the dolls (wow that's embarrassing). Nothing out of the ordinary. But i've never been one to do it with my own hand...maybe one day i'll get into it...who knows.
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well im a guy and i didnt start masterbating until i was liek 11. someone said that guys are lying because at a young age we are always playing with our penises. i know i did this but it really isnt masterbation. it wasnt for me anyways. it really wasnt pleasurable. it was just something that catches our attention. there is something sticking out of our bodies and we dont know what it is. im on home videos when i wasnt even a year old and i was playing with it.i know for a fact i wasnt masterbating before i was a year old.
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To be honest, I really cant remember far back to when I was 3 whether I actually took any pleasure from rubbing myself against a pillow or something!. Maybe it never occured to me, or maybe I did the deed and have now clean forgotten about it. But reading all your replies about how early you started masturbating, and also reading about Miz Scarlet's Pre-K experiences (!), I got started on some serious thinking. This might be considered a bit off-topic here, but honestly, I never thought that kids at 3 would have any sexuality, and thus wouldnt gain any pleasure from any kind of stimulation. I know that when we are all around that age we supposedly want sexual pleasure just like we want food and drink, but is it really true or was it just an abstract Freudian theory?. I have read about the Oedipus/Electra complex and Penis Envy etc, and for the life of me, I cant understand HOW a 3 year old would understand or gain sexual pleasure in any way?. Do any of you mind explaining this to me please?!
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I'd say I first tried when I was about 5 or 6, I was in the bathtub. But my mom was always telling me that it was "icky" for girls to touch their "privates" so I didn't. Then when I was 11, I used my parents back massager and got my first orgasm on Christmas Eve. I overused the thing, because it was so old, but now I'm 15 and I'm pro at manually. Yep, that's my story on it.
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Well, having something sticking out of your crotch will probably make you feel curious enough to make you want to touch it in several ways when your alone, (almost) naked and bored, but that's not necessarily too pleasurable... I had read a bit about masturbation in my early teens, but I didn't bother much about it - when I first tried it, I didn't know you needed an erection, so it just felt like an annoying waste of time. However, one night when I was about 14, in bed yet unable to sleep, I started rubbing my foreskin around the head, even without an erection - for some reason I found myself persisting, and eventually it felt weird and the underwear got messy - fortunately it had all sorta dried up by the time I woke up. From then on I persisted quite a few more times with that, and to this day it's something I handle in phases - there are periods of time when I do it about once a day, and others when I refrain from doing.
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I first started when I was like 8 years old. I first realized it when we had recess and I was climbing the pull-up bars when this tingly-feeling struck me. When I was 11, I found out what it was. I felt like a freak. Posts: 9 | Registered: Jun 2003
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YEAH! MASTURBATION!!! I think I started when I was about 5 I spent most of my time alone as a kid, and i think I did it quite a lot, But then I stopped until I was about 16 and discovered it all over again... a friend of mine hasnt done it for 2 years he wants to make it to three... good luck
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quote:Originally posted by retarded_brat: But reading all your replies about how early you started masturbating, and also reading about Miz Scarlet's Pre-K experiences (!), I got started on some serious thinking. This might be considered a bit off-topic here, but honestly, I never thought that kids at 3 would have any sexuality, and thus wouldnt gain any pleasure from any kind of stimulation. I know that when we are all around that age we supposedly want sexual pleasure just like we want food and drink, but is it really true or was it just an abstract Freudian theory?. I have read about the Oedipus/Electra complex and Penis Envy etc, and for the life of me, I cant understand HOW a 3 year old would understand or gain sexual pleasure in any way?. Do any of you mind explaining this to me please?!
Just because a child doesn't have a consious knowledge of the concept of "hunger", does than mean a child can't desire food? I don't think it's an issue of having or not having "sexuality", but rather not having a label for that concept. For children, pleasure and enjoyment are just that...pleasure and enjoyment. No matter what their origin. So in some sense, the enjoyment they may gain from masturbation is not a whole lot different from the enjoyment they have when playing with a favorite doll or truck. They don't really have a concept of one act being "sexual" while another is not, because they don't have a concept label of "sex". Does that make sense?
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I remember first around 4th or 5th grade. By sitting with one leg under me and rocking on my foot. My mom asked me if I was antsy or had to pee. Then in 5th grade..around that summer..I discoverd the wonders of the shower and multiple massage setting on the shower head, and reaching orgasm from that *mmmm* also sitting underneath the faucet. In about 6th grade my friend Samantha and I played this game where we satopposite each other onthe bed and rubbed each others Clitoris' with our feet. But I never reached orgasm that way...I remember my mom flipping thru the HBO and MAX channels and seeing those softcore porns for a few minutes...also, my dad had the porno channels and when everyone was at work I'd watch them...feeling a tingling sensation. Now I just use the end of my remote control and the softcore usually does the trick
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I started _I believe_ around 10. But I didn't fully "achieve" anything until I was about 14; when I actually got more interested in what sex was all about.
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Wow, great thread. I think I've been masturbating since before I can remember. Age 4 at least. Although at that time, I didn't realize what I was doing. I thought doing it kept me from needing to pee! At least that's what I remember telling my mom when I was 4-5 and she saw me doing it.
Anyway, I apparently refined my "technique" fairly quickly, because it's still what works for me today!
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I was like 6 i think...and i dont know why or how i even thought to touch myself but i did...and i thought it was funny because it made me have to pee. I think i forgot about it for awhile until i was about 12 or so...and one day i suddenly remembered that when i touched myself it made me pee, and thinking it was funny i tried it and i had quite a different result!! I think i definately had my first orgasm that day! I thought i was really young, it's definately an ease of thought to know that there are many MANY other people who have had the same experiences at that age! Posts: 227 | From: New Jersey, USA | Registered: Mar 2003
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Its so normal. Every little kid does it. Just watch them! They dont know what there doing but they just do it. I did when I was very young too. Its human. Its kinda funny cause when your a kid you dont care who sees you!!
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**To sum things up I enjoy masturbating, and I also enjoy describing my experinces in detail. However, since this site is an educational one aimed at teens, and not an erotic literature collection, from now on I'll tone down my descriptions and just stick to the basics.**
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WOW. THANK YOU. I thought I was a super disgusting pervy kid! I started (unconscously) when I was probably around five ish. Especially the bits about experimenting with friends as kindergarteners - i was SO WORRIED that was strange. And then, I didnt know anything about sex till I was in seventh grade health, and heart the word 'masturbate for teh first time', and then I tried but it made me feel gross so I stopped. After mulptiple attempts, I decided it wasnt too bad afterall, and now masturbate kind of a lot. o.o Man, I thought I was so sketchy. *WHEW* I still have not orgasmd, alas alack!hopefully that will be remedied sometime soon.
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Another owner of a penis here (although I definitely do not call myself a guy). I agree with the guys so far. The first time I intentionally masturbated ("played" with it to produce a direct result) was when I was 11. Interestingly, I was in a christian school at the time, and I hid in a single bathroom. I'm not sure how I found out or why I wanted to immediately try it, but I was definitely 11. That seems to be the most common male age from the male responses so far.
As for the Fruedian claim that all women inherently desire penises... To quote Zoe from Venus Envy (http://venusenvy.keenspace.com) "*looks down* BULL----"
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I started at 14, because I actually felt pretty stigmatized about NOT masturbating. All my friends insisted I was missing out on something really great, even though I had no desire to do it. I tried to no avail. I went to sites specifically for female masturbation to get tips, but nothing there worked either. The alphabet tracing, bathtub stuff, none of it. Honestly I might as well be rubbing a piece of velvet or something: it physically feels good, but not even that great, and there is nothing sexual about it to me at all. I pictured myself with different partners (of both genders!), but no go there either. I've never had an orgasm. Not even close.
I'm trans though, and I think that's probably my trouble. I just don't have the equipment for what I've got to do, so I'm not going to be able to get my fix until I can afford surgery, I guess. Do you have any *idea* how bad it is to be unable to masturbate properly? =\
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wow...I thought I was really the only one that used pillows and stuffed animals...I muts started at age 9 or ten (the first time, but I didn't know it was called masturbation, it jus felt real good) I was with my cousin, and we were both layin on the floor with two teddy bears, and all of a sudden we jus started "humpin away" (we imagine the bears were guys!~lol)- then I didn't do it again, till I was bout 11 (after my first period)...I was at home, talkin to my boyfriend (and I got real horny...by that time, I kinda knew what bein horny was!) then I was in my room, and started humpin my pillow (then I got caught by lil sister...at that time 7) and she asked me what I was doin, and I said that I had to put a pillow in between my legs for my back (what a lame excuse..lol) then I guess I jus kept usin my pillow, till I read a book that my older sister had bout different ways to masturbate...then when I was bout 13...I started usin my fingers!...but I feel somewhat normal now, knowin that I';m not the only one that has done it with other ppl or started at a young age!
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Dude, I thought I was a weirdo all my life! I must've started when I was 7 (humping pillows and stuff), but like most of you, I had no idea it was sexual until a long time afterwards. All I knew was that it felt good
Heh, my bf and I had a discussion about this a while back - his 2 ex's denied ever having masturbated, and he thought it was great that I admitted to having done it and was still enjoying it. He started at 7 as well, but by then he already knew it was sexual. What a corrupted little boy...
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I am sooo glad to know I was not weird. Although, mine is particularly bad. I was around five and I did not know anything about sex, but I would hold myself up on the pew in front of me in church and stimulate my clitoris. When I started getting orgasms I figured this must be wrong, but I still did it. Then I would feel guilty anytime my parents noticed.
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