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this may sound like an odd topic, but lemming and i were discussing it earlier, and i wanted to get some other opinions on it.
do any of you remember when you first started masturbating? i'm curious about other girls especially, though male input is always welcome, too. ;-)
lemming and i remember it starting around age 5 or 6... we didn't necessarily know what it was we were doing at the time, but we were definately doing it. a lot. and it continued regularly all through chidlhood, puberty, and adolescence. and we're still doing it, of course (self-sex is the safest sex! hehe).
i was just wondering if it was typical for girls to start that young, or if we're in a minority... curious to hear y'all's thoughts... =)
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I remember masturbating at that age. Lots of pillow- rubbing going on then. At about 10 I stole my parents back massager. Then I discovered the art of manual stimulation and managed that way until I hit the magical 18 and was able to buy a vibrator of my own. :::love song plays softly in the backround::::
actually, the first time I masturbated, I was probably around 7. I did do it a lot, and still do. ;]
a girl I was sort of friends with showed me how (by rubbing herself) when we were in a back room at day care after school.
and I didn't know what it was or that there was any stigma to it till I got to 9th grade and heard someone talking bad about a girl because she "fingered" herself. I guess I sorta figured it out from there, between that and Judy Blume books.
and then it was on to reading, reading all the time and now sex, non-fiction, was the subject. fun, fun - but at least it gives me information to share with you guys, right? and the guy who must have had a huge impact on my sexuality, my first boyfriend, first kiss, first admitting to anyone else (and someone of the opposite sex!) that I masturbated - and the guy who discovered that he's gay. wow.
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I dont remember exactly when i started.... i was probably 8 or 9. I remember i was masturbating the first time i got my period just days after my 11th b-day. However i just used phallic objects and never knew exactly what it was untill i was in 7th grade and i heard about orgasms for the first time. i had never had one before. To be 100% honest i didnt learn to orgasm untill just AFTER i first came to this site. that was sometime this past summer i think. After i learned to climax i would do it several times daily. Now i just do it every once and a while.
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I don't really know the mechanics of masterbation, is the general meaning just anyway you can sexually satisfy yourself by yourself? Hmm i've probably done it before, but i've never i think actually tried. i guess im a prune hehe
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Let me just put my former Kindergarten and Pre-K teacher hat back on for a minute.
Folks, if you really want to know if most people masturbate when they're young, go sit in an afternoon at a Kindergarten or Pre-K classroom where they have nap time.
Because lemme tell ya, I'd be hard pressed to think of a kid in nearly ten years of teaching who I did NOT at one time or another have to softly walk to their cot and whisper in their ear gently "Sweetie, that's something to do at home, okay?"
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Quite right Miz Scarlet... I definitely remember masturbating at that age. I used to do it at day care, too, with the felt puppets they had... I'm so embarassed now, but I didn't think it was weird back then. Anyway, I started really young, probably around age 3.
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I remember having fun with my pillow around 4 or 5, it didn't seem wrong cause I was told it was something mommies and daddies did and like most others I didn't know what I was doing in a sexual sense.
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me errr since i was 8/9 maybe a bit eirlyer but not mutch my girlfrend well since 2-3 months ago!
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i always feel so much more *normal* after discussing stuff like this. i used to wonder if i was strange for having started so young, but now i know better. ;-)
i still know girls - 18, 19, 20 years old - who deny ever masturbating and say it is a depraved activity reserved solely for depraved people.
i feel sorry for them for feeling that way!! ;-)
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Well, i had to convince my boyfriend to masturbate. There were times when we were 2000 miles away and he was feeling a little.... frisky... but he would refuse to masturbate. He thought that it was gross and that he had enough self controll to wait untill he could have me. But i was able to cinvince him to just TRY it for me. Turns out it actually kinda feels good!! WOW. He still thinks its weird but he enjoys himself. He was 17 the first time he masturbated and knew that was what he was doing. So that takes him out of the 2% who doesnt masturbate. (and trust me, he is way more in tune with his sexual self now )
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The first time I remember doing anything like that I was about 12 I think. Even at 12 I know I had no idea what I was doing or why, but I had found my mom's romance novel collection, and started to wonder exactly what was going on down there. And at the time I really didn't get anything out of it, except a better understanding of what all that stuff was. And then I started going to a Christian school, where anything like that would have sent me straight to hell, so there was a healthy does of guilt tacked onto any sexual feeling...so it didn't really occur to me to even consider masturbating. Then I got into college, and it took a while, but I shook off that guilt. And while I don't masturbate very often, at least I know what's going on, and I don't feel bad about it anymore. Maybe after I get this whole "orgasm" thing figured out it'll get better...I dunno.
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I was 14 the first time I masterbated. I remember "touching" myself at an earier age..but it certainly wasn't masterbating. It was just...umm....exploring?? LOL.
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I think I started around age 6 maybe. It was kind of funny..I was sitting in a chair at my grandmother's being bored, and she was snoozing on the couch, and well..it all goes from there!
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I remember playing "doctor" and "changing diapers" in the girls' bathroom in kindergarten... I had a stuffed penguin at home with a long stiff beak who was my "doctor" at home at that age. I don't remember such things from gradeschool though, although I *do* remember having very elaborate, well, in retrospect I guess they were sort of the childhood equivalent of sadomasochistic fantasies. In the car sometimes I'd think about people being tied down and put on conveyer belts through various spikey lashy torture apparatus. And every now and then I'd sit on something spikey at home or something like that. This was when I was, oh, 7 - 9 years old or so. I remember talking to a girl friend from school, when she came to my house just before she moved away, and finding out that she liked doing that too. Some years later, when I was 11 or so and my best friend was over, we were playing with our dolls and started talking about those torture fantasies--turned out she'd had them too! has anyone else experienced that sort of thing? Was I just more repressed than usual?
The first time I masturbated to orgasm, or knew that I was masturbating, was when I was eleven. I remember being totally thrilled with my new discovery. It was a Friday night, and I spent the rest of the evening thinking to myself, "Wow, now I never have to be bored or unhappy again! If I can't sleep, I'll just play with myself! If I don't feel well, I'll just play with myself!..." and so on. I also remember looking up the word "masturbation," 'cause I knew there was a word, but I couldn't remember it. I enjoyed it a great deal for, oh, almost a year, and then started feeling guilty about it. It was free floating, unjustified guilt, although the usual excuse I made to myself was "It's not BAD, it's just that, there are OTHER things that I SHOULD be doing instead..." but I really did feel pretty bad. After a couple years though, that faded away though. And even when I felt bad, I still did it a lot. I used piles of pillows and long thin things and spit and vaseline, I read graphic descriptions of animals doing it in my collection of natural history type books, I acted out fantasies with my dolls... we had one of those shower massagers... I always wanted a vibrator, and even considered trying to make use of the vacuum cleaner many years ago, but I realized it'd probably land me in the hospital. Of course, MOST of the time I didn't use anything but me, myself, and my hand.
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I don't remember exactly at what age it was but I guess I was about 11 years old. I was about to take a shower when I got hard and I started playing with myself. I didn't had an orgasm that time but I learned to get one after "practicing" some time.
I still do it and don't always get full satisfaction but I always enjoy it. But at least I have control on myself.
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maybe im just plain wierd, but i grew up going to christian schools. i dont recall ever masturbating. im now at a public highschool, with normal kids, and they all do it. but maybe its not for me, being that i never really learned about sex. ha ha, in 6th grade i lost my sex ed permission slip, and never bothered to get a new one. so i sat in the library that week reading books about magic. so call me crazy, but i never have masturbated
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*whew!* im relieved! and i thought i was the only one who started at a young age. i remember i was about 4 or 5 when i was watching tv with my dad. i saw these two people kiSSing in a car and i duNNo, something just haPPened! i discovered that it felt nice and i stiLL do it today.
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I too started at an early age. Actually I don't remember a time when I didn't masturbate. I know that by the time I was three I knew what masturbation was. One night when I was about 3 I was in bed with my parents watching TV and I was under the covers. For whatever reason, my mother thought I was masturbating(I wasn't). She said, "-------, if you want to masturbate, you need to go to your room." I remember being really mad because I wasn't masturbating at all, just watching TV. Whatever. And then when I was 5 I started playing BDSM fantasy games with my friends. I played those games with 3 friends, all of which were girls. One of us would be the princess, and the other one would be every other character in the story. Somehow, at the end the princess would always end up being tied up and spanked "in the middle of the center of the town square." Of course, it was ALWAYS the middle ages. Oh, we were imaginative little ones. I still talk to the original girl who I played with. She claims not to remember any of it.
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I didn't start till I read one of those "growing up" books in fourth grade. I read about it and I decided I wanted to try it. It was really nice, but then my friends decided it was gross, so I didn't do it again for a while. Then after I got a boyfriend and he fingered me I remembered how good it felt and I'm back to doing it again.
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Hmm...I don't really remember when I first started to, but I do remember rubbing my hymen wondering what it was. I would also use my Barbies and this big bear I had. After one night I used it, I put it in the back of my closet because I was so "dirty". I really starting masturbating in 7th grade, but I didn't have my first orgasm till 8th grade. After I watched American Pie for the first time and figured out what an orgasm was I thought I'd give it a try. Ever since then I been hooked.
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Hi I just joined and this is my first post Hopefully I won't sound like a geek
Hmmm..I don't remember when I first started "touching" myself... I've been doing it for as long as I can remember. I had no idea what I was doing..all I knew was I liked touching my body.. especially my nipples and 'down there' When I was about 10 years old or so, I found a book of (ewww) my mom's called "101 Ways to Have an Orgasm Whenever You Want" I kinda knew what an orgasm was, but I had no idea how you had one, so I started reading the book. The first chapter was about masturbation. It took me a lot of practice to be able to achieve orgasm. I got close alotta times, but I always stopped. Now I do it all the time My boyfriend is waiting till marriage to have sex, so we pretty much stick to.. I guess itz phone sex... which is great. We even showed each other how we like to masturbate and now we do it for each other.
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after lying about it for years, i guess i'll go ahead and admit that i started when i was 11 years old by accident. i still do it, though there were a coupld of years when i tried to stop. needless to say, i think the longest i went was two months.
i'm just glad to know that i wasn't the youngest. what a relief.
quote:Originally posted by Dead Dog: this may sound like an odd topic, but lemming and i were discussing it earlier, and i wanted to get some other opinions on it.
do any of you remember when you first started masturbating? i'm curious about other girls especially, though male input is always welcome, too. ;-)
lemming and i remember it starting around age 5 or 6... we didn't necessarily know what it was we were doing at the time, but we were definately doing it. a lot. and it continued regularly all through chidlhood, puberty, and adolescence. and we're still doing it, of course (self-sex is the safest sex! hehe).
i was just wondering if it was typical for girls to start that young, or if we're in a minority... curious to hear y'all's thoughts... =)
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Well, I can't think of a time when I didn't masturbate or participate in sexual play of various forms. So I started really early as well - Whatever I did simply had no name for me. For a while, I felt guilty about it (when I was about 11 or so), but I can't remember what trigegred it, because I was never told off or something and never believed it was "bad" per se.
Anyway. There have been times in my life when I have masturabed really regularly and times when I simply didn't feel like it for a few months, but it still is and will prolly always be, a pretty essential part of my sexuality.
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Am I the only one that DIDN'T start masturbating in grade school? ::grins, pretending to feel all left out:: When I was in grade school, I'd sometimes rub against things at just the right angle so that it felt pleasurable, but only for a few seconds, and I never realized what I was doing. In middle school I had a very rich fantasy life, and often fantasized to near orgasm, without knowing what I was doing. However, I didn't start masturbating until I was fifteen, when my future boyfriend decided that I was missing one of the great pleasures in life and started convincing me to try. It took a while, but I am now a masturbation convert, so to speak . . .
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As a guy, I'm not sure I should be posting here, but I will anyways.
I didn't really start masturbating until I was 12. I had known what is was since I was 11, but didn't bother trying for a while. After getting to know a bit much about sex from the 'net, I just *had* to try! (never stopped for that matter either )
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I don't remember exactly how old I was but I think I was in kindergarden so that would have made me 5. I didn't know what I was doing either until I was like 11. I totally thought I was a freak!
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i started doing it since i was maybe like 6 or 7 and my babysitter and my teacher started noticing it. I didnt really know what i was doing but i knew i liked it. Then my mom thought something was wrong with me so she took me to the doctor. it was so embaressing to go in there with my mother and the nurse was asking me why im here. I had no clue why i was there like i said before and that was something that i wish never happened because i knw my mom knew what i was doing
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LOL.. I thought I was the only one who played the spanking games with my kindergarten friends. I'm really laughing right now. I guess I was a late bloomer though.. didn't actually masturbate since I was 14.. and now it's turned into a horrible, horrible addiction. j/k.. ;-)
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I just wanted to mention, guys can definatly post in here too. It's an old topic and was prolly created back when there was a men's and ladies room...Anywho, i was trying to find a topic i thought would go good with this, about first orgasms, but i cant seem to find it anywhere. If anyone wants to do a quick search for me, feel free.
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Well, I remember fingering myself and pressing my pillow against my vulva when I was really young, about 7 or 8. But when I really started getting into masturbation (using objects and reading more meterials concerning the subject) was when I was 11 or 12. I started getting cramps when I got my period, and I read that masturbating has been known to help ease cramps, so I tried it. It helped a lot, but then it got to where I would do it just for sexual pleasure. Right now I use objects around the house. I've been using condoms on my dildos (which are actually hairbrush handles) ever since I was 15, when I read it would be a good idea to get you used to condoms.
There was a time, when I was 6, though, that I masturbated with my best girl friend who lived two houses down from me (that was back when we lived in Texas.) We would get into her closet and finger eachother and play with ourselves. We didn't know what we were doing, we just knew it was exciting and it felt good.
Well, that is pretty much my story. I LOVE masturbation, but I would choose a hot night with my boyfriend over masturbation any day. (Except for when we aren't speaking to eachother. Those times are few and far between, though!)
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Well, I guess I'll be the second boy to post here. We're a rare species, Shadow Stalker! Anyway, I think girls probably start masturbating at an earlier age than boys, who in general seem to start around the time of puberty. I don't know that for a fact, but that's my experience and that of everyone I've talked to about it. I started when I was 11. My first experience was not a very good one--I was rubbing lotion into my genitals and a little bead of semen appeared. I was very freaked out, although at least I knew what it was from the Health class that I was in at the time, in 6th grade. I didn't do it for several months afterwards, but then that summer, I discovered the joys of masturbation. I'm currently up to 454 ejaculations over approximately three years of masturbation. I suppose I'm very weird for keeping track...
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I was probably around eight or nine when I started. I got curious after seeing part of a movie where a woman was grinding against a guy as they kissed, so I thought I would try it out against a pillow, sans the kissing. All I knew was that it felt good, so I kept doing it. I didn't start using my fingers until I was 16 though because, and this is embarassing to admit, I didn't know there was penitration involved in sex until I read "The Witching Hour" by Anne Rice. I had to reread several parts trying to figure out what she meant, then when it finally dawned on me, I branded myself an idiot. A few years later, my first online boyfriend asked me to try using my fingers and I did, though I was in a swimming pool at the time, so it didn't feel that great. I didn't attempt it again until almost year later when I first had phone sex.
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i used to think i was an utter freak for masturbating very young...but i'm clearly not. i reckon i started around 6 or 7. i particularly remember that on saturdays, when i had my swimming lesson, i'd go home, tell my parents i was tired [heehee] and have a lie down in my top bunk bed, and masturbate. like some other people i used some cuddly toys too, i still have one of them, and pillows. i didn't 'discover' penetration til i was about 11, i think, tho it's now completely part of my masturbation -ritual-. i did not, however, discover my g-spot until just the other week. and that was fabulous! now that i'm 18 i'm also seriously considering buying a vibrator. for my own benefit and i think it could add some fun to partnered sex!
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I was about 7 or 8 I think. It was when I was playing with my barbies.
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There was never a time when I didn't masturbate. I remember once when I was 3 years old (thats right, 3)..me and my pillow! Posts: 118 | From: California | Registered: Nov 2001
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When i was young, i never knowingly did anything because it felt good. I remember sitting with my leg under me and my foot rubbing at a weird angle and thinking "this feels pretty good", but it never convinced me to do it again... any time i did do it again was through accident. I never actually started masturbating until i was 15. I had been on the phone to a guy that i fancied, and he seemed totally shocked that i had never reached orgasm (we were very open with eachother about everything). So i started to masturbate. I started with things like pens... It's weird how i have never actually used a pillow, or a cuddly toy... But yeah, so things started, and so they go on, not so much with pens any more - usually just fingers (mine or my boyfriend's).
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I remember in 4th or 5th grade me and my neighbor (she was a grade below me) were really close, so we's go into the bathroom together and everything We'd try on pads together, too. Oh I miss those days so much!
Anyway, while I was just sitting on the toilet reading or whatever, Heather would be in the bathtub under the faucet masturbating. I would always see her eyes rolling upward because she was excited, but I never that this process was known! Anyway, she'd always tell me to try it, and I did, and she'd have to pry me away from the faucet...
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I started "rubbing" myself around the age of 4. I'd use my teddy bear and pillow and stuff. I never really knew what it was until some cousin of my friends told me what I was doing when I was about 5. I didn't really understand though. I still touched down there, but didn't understand fully until I was 9-10 years old. I didn't fully masterbate till about 6th grade, then in 7th I started to really like it. Now, in the 8th grade, I masterbate all the time (even with my mom's vibrater...heehee) and I also let my boyfriend finger me *~PurpLeMisTy14~*
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Purplemisty, it is generally not a good idea for two people to share things like vibrators. If vibrators are EVER shared, condoms must be used to cover the vibrator each time it is used, and it should be thoroughly cleaned after each use. This is important to stop the spread of infections (like yeast infections), bacteria and/or STDs.
And don't forget the latex gloves and lube for manual sex.
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Ok I know there hasn't been a reply in here for a while. But I had to this is my first post and I just got done registering. Well I'll be one of the few guys replying in here.Cause I'd like to say unlike most guys I start masturbating at a very early age. I was not much more than six! Now I didn't start the normal "jerking" way. lol I started with what I could think up which was some wierd rubbing thing. But anyway I started doing this because my one friend told me about head and I wanted to see what it would feel like and my rubbing thing was the most I could think up at the time so...lol. OF course I couldn't cum yet so I was left doing it for hours and getting all sweaty ewww I know but what can I say. Well I kept doing it and continue to do so today and guess what I can cum now lol . But thats my story on when I started!
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As a little kid I would sit on my foot and rub against it. My mom always asked me if I had to pee. Other than that, I didn't do start at a young age. I was about 14 when I actually started to explore myself, and discovered my ability to orgasm earlier this year!
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my first time masturbating was probable when i was about 9/10 years old. Im sure i touched myself ealier but i never really new what i was doing until my friends told me what an orgasm felt like, then i knew what i was doing.
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i cant really remember when i started masturbating, probably around 5th grade, but i remember about a month after my 15th birthday was when i first orgasmed. i was in bed and got aroused, so i did it, and came all over my sheets. i felt like an idiot. i changed the sheets and put the dirty ones behind my bed. in the morning i had to wash them. sorry if i got kinda graphic.
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To the boys who say they never masturbated as little kids: Whatever! I've babysat lots of little boys over the past few years, and all of them played with their dingies at every possible chance. I'd have to push their hands out of the way when changing diapers, only to have them shoot right back down there...
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