Having recently been inundated with posts regarding penis size in regards to sex, labial size in regards to sexual body image, breasts in regards to sexual attraction and the link, I'd like to take a moment to sponsor a brief reminder about our bodies.
It isn't just propaganda: the largest sexual organ in every body is the brain, and it is the brain which is largely responsible for the root of ALL sexual response. Given that, people can be sexually aroused and fulfilled by ANY part of the body, by any sort of idea, and by a WIDE variety of sexual partners, ideals and activities. In fact, that wide variety is necessary for human survival as a species. If it didn't exist, we'd have gone the way of the dinosaur, kidlings.
In addition, yet another reminder: bodies and genitals are not just here for sexual attraction or sexual purposes. Largely, WE decide what is and is not sexual, what we do and do not find sexually arousing, and we can all do that regardless of our genitalia, of the state or appearance of our bodies and so forth. There are people who are happy, fulfilled sexual beings who do not HAVE functional genitalia at all. There are people at 60 whose bodies are well beyond the pristine state of the cultural physical ideal who feel sexy as hell and have wonderful sex lives and body image.
So, a little perspective can go a long way. More times than not, despite cries that the media and culture sexually objectify, PEOPLE sexually objectify. I see people do it here incessantly all on their own.
So, the next time something like this comes up, do your body and everyone else's body and mind a favor and remeber what the major sexual organ is, eh? And remember that you are more than your body, and that your body serves a VAST array of purposes, and sexuality is but one of many of them.
I now return you to your regularly scheduled posting.
I would like to point something out to the girls/women who say stuff like "I haven't got size 6000DDDDDD breasts, therefore men don't look at me" (exageration obviously). Think about it, if you had larger breasts, men would look at you more, but that's not a good thing, they'd probably just see you as someone to joke about or, at most, have a one-night stand with. They wouldn't see you as a person.
------------------ Life rocks
Posts: 125 | From: Leicestershire, England | Registered: Jun 2002
| IP: Logged |
Small breasts are not a handicap. Neither are large ones, nor any size in between. I think the message you're missing here, is that it's all good, not just one small, acceptable group of body types.
It's also important to note that not all men are attracted to the same thing, nor are all men prone to harassing women, nor attracted to women at all.
------------------ Milke, SSBD, RATS
Better living through Ctrl+C and Ctrl+V
Posts: 5122 | From: I *came* from the land of ice and snow | Registered: Aug 2000
| IP: Logged |
quote:Originally posted by AlwaysWorried: Think about it, if you had larger breasts, men would look at you more, but that's not a good thing, they'd probably just see you as someone to joke about or, at most, have a one-night stand with. They wouldn't see you as a person.
To add to what Milke said, I have natural 36D breasts. I don't think men look at me as a joke or a one night stand. I'm 17, a nice person, and I think everyone knows there's more to me then my breasts.
The point of this is, big or small breats, just love yourself. You shouldn't have to put down someone else to make yourself feel better.
------------------ 'You've got the eyes of ten women. Not in a jar! I wasn't accusing you. I just mean your eyes are really nice'-coupling
Copyright 1998, 2013 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998
Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.