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Dancypants
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You are probably sick of hearing about this but I'm one of those girls who hates my body. I think I look like a mutant or something. I'm 5'8" and I only weigh 124 lbs. Plus I have no boobs, I'm barely a 32A. It sucks because my mom is only a 34A so I know I won't get any bigger and plus I'm already 16. I'm like a skinny freak. All the guys at my school seem to go for the gorgeous, short curvy girls. It's just not fair! (but hey, I know life isn't, but still...)
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phsygnosis
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My girlfriend is same, 5'4" and only weighs 98 lbs. I have to keep guys of my girl!! HEHE You shouldn't have doubts or hates about your body. It will only bring you down and make you hate it more and more. My girlfriend isn't even a size A (bra size). I really can't help you with it, the only thing you can do is have self confidence. All creations of god are beutiful as I see it.

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Lucky1402
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I think all of us have some kind of insecurity about our bodies. I'm constantly disliking parts of my body, but it's really nothing that I can change. (like my hair and my large chest) You should try to like yourself and your body, because face it- you're born with it. I know it's hard sometimes to like your body, what with the images the media portrays about how a woman "should" look, but think of your body as original and unique. Besides, the guys who only date girls w/ curves and big boobs and gorgeous looks aren't worth your time. Any guy that you should be interested in should like you for who you are and not your body image. I know alot of guys who like very slim girls, and to alot of guys the boobs don't even matter.

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StarryRedhead
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You know what? Even if some guys go for the short curvy girls, there's other guys who go for tall, thin girls, and others who go for medium heavier girls, and so on and so forth! There's soo many guys out there, they can't all possibly go for *one* type, right?? It takes time, but have confidence in what you have. I'm sure you're a beautiful person and how you feel about your body shows itself on the outside.

I'm 5'1" 110lbs, white as a ghost, can't tan for my life, red head, freckle faced, and this summer when I went to the beach all I saw were skinny, perfectly fit, tan, blonde, girls, I was so convinced no one would notice me amongst all the truly beautiful girls (at least in my opinion I was sure guys liked them more than me). Then one night this *very* cute guy came up to me and told me I looked so beautiful. And it hit me that, maybe not *everyone* thinks I'm beautiful, but someone does.

And I can assure you that someone thinks your body is perfect, actually I can assure you that more than one person will think that.....you should realize that about yourself too.

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Lin
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Dearie, I am 1.72m and barely weigh 45 kg. Someone tell me how much that is in pounds.

I am a 32 AA and my bf loves me regardless. Sweetie, it doesn't make a difference if you are short or tall, thin or fat. It really doesn't and if people tell you otherwise, tell them to fly a kite.

Guys are not necessarily attracted to short, curvy girls only. Just like how they are not only attracted to thin, big breasted women. At the end of the day, it is personality that counts as many people on the board will tell you.

If being thin really gets to you, go to the gym and lift some weights to tone your body and build up bulk which is what I did. For a while at least.

Coz I don't think you will be truly happy if a guy likes you for your appearance alone. We are not perfect too. None of us are.

BUt what's most important is that you are healthy so go consult a doctor to see if you are alright. I had to do so coz my parents were so scared I had worms in my stomach.

[This message has been edited by Lin (edited 01-04-2001).]


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Gumdrop Girl
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y'know, the more people come here and just vent that they can't stand their bodies, it just kills me a little more. it's sad. it's sad that we collectively have so much trouble accepting ourselves for what we are and make the most of what we've been given.

it'll be ever-present -- we'll never be completely happy. and we've only got one stock reply, and that's to just try to like yourself and accept it. different people have different preferences. easier said than done.

this is why plastic surgeons can afford multi-million dollar homes on the beach and four sexy cars in the garages.

to hell with that, i'd like to go somewhere where i can do good. oncology or epidemiology or cardiology or something.

and screw cosmo, vogue, madamoiselle, GQ, haute coutour, calvin klein, fashion, telelvision and magazines that have worked so hard to destroy positive body image of human beings everywhere.

i am thoroughly fed up grrr...

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phsygnosis
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This is to Lin. You are 5'5" and wiegh 100lbs. This will probablly help you out.

-Phsygnosis


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Heather
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Know what else?

Basing your body image on if someone, or lots of people, find you attractive is a losing game. There won't always be times in your life when ANYONBE finds you attractive and lets you know, no matter how beautiful you are.

The only person you can get a good body image from is Y-O-U. Even if everyone you see tells you you are gods gift to the universe, you can still believe or feel you are unappealing. So lose that idea now. Really. It's of no use to anyone.

Your body is yours. It uniquely reflects you, and it is always a work in progress, and it's aabout far more than how it looks. I find that once people let go of shallow ideals of beauty and really appreciate their body for what it enables them to do, they discover it's beauty. Because lemme tell you, when you're 60, if you can't love your body beyond it's appeaal aaas a sexual enticement, you're doomed. You won't always be young, yanno.

So, what does it do for you? What can you do with it? And how does it serve you not to love it?

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Gumdrop Girl
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this makes me sad http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/news/archive/2001/01/04/international1427EST0629.DTL

it's about a british girl who is getting breast implants for her 16th birthday.

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Lin
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Oh this is so cool. Thanks phsygnosis. Geez, your nick is really hard to spell. Hehe.

Gumdrop - yea, that article was splashed everywhere in all the Singapore papers. I know. It's sad that girls think that having bigger breasts make them more popular, confident, successful etc. WHat happened to brains and character and personality?

Now, the secret is out. All you need are 32C breasts. I guess that means I am doomed for failure. Sheesh.


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HarvesterOfSorrow
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I understand where Dancypants is coming from. My girlfriend is very self-concious and doesn't like the way she looks. She's 5'5", 110lbs. She's very beautiful. Unfortunatly, her eye is far more critical than mine. I'm 6'1", 180lbs. I'm not particularily toned and trim, but I'm not fat. But to her, it doesn't matter. She is so *pure* in that she doesn't care what I look like or anything like that. She does though, care about what's in between my ears, and that's the most important part

Back to her, she's very self-concious. She goes to the gym, runs, eats right, etc but she still doesn't like the way she looks. She tells me that when she *fixes* something on her body, she actually feels worse because she's fit into that mold that she must look such and such a way.

It breaks my hear to see her like this. She's had a couple of rather ugly relationships where *he* was only looking for sex. This has does a tremendious amount of damage. I lover her and love spending time with her, but I also try very hard to reverse the damage that's been done by these previous relationships. She's certainly not some *project* for me, but I figure that this is what *significan others* are for. To comfort you, make you feel good, etc.

Please Dancypants. PLEASE. Don't let this rule your life. Any guy who won't go out with you because of what you look like IS NOT YOUR TYPE! There are guys who will look inside and see if you're attractive there. I'm sure this sounds like cold comfort, but I speak the truth. Love yourself, and others will love YOU.

HarvesterOfSorrow


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KittenGoddess
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You know, no one is completely satisfied with their body. And do you know why that is? Cause no one is completely, totally, absolutely perfect. But then that makes you have to think about what 'perfect' really is, and who has the right to define the term. I'm about 5'5" and 110 lbs, and there are things about my body that I don't like...but I try not to think about it. I try to focus on the parts that I like best, like the small of my back...I don't know why, but I think it's really cute! You can't let your body image define who you are, because you're so much more than that. You're a soul, and a heart, and a mind...and all those things are so much more important than what you look like on the outside.

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VeNT
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can i just say
LIVE LIFE FOR YOURSELF
not for anyone else
WHO cares if they think that your thin or tall or short or fat or whatever!
like it matters at all?
i can't stand people who try and impose that kinda thing on people!
you know the ones that are always hanging around in all the desiner gear just because it is insted of because it feels good or that you like the style
don't try to be part of the IN crowd
i tryed it for the first week of college
and then i gave up!
because all the people who i was hangin with where FOOLS! they could nto find there arses with a map and a flashlight!
and if i had kept trying ti keep up with the in crowd i would not be with my girlfrend <of 1 and a half years> atm!!
so just stop worrying about how other people percive you!
hell its a lot more fun to do something for yourself rather then for what other people think!
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sugamimi
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You and I are in the same boat! (only I have more titty than you...I'm 36A). I'm also 5'8", and I weight 120 pounds. The guys that I like like that *** , and I have NONE. My butt is really REALLY flat. But it's okay. I've learned ot live with it.
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Ophidian
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I dont know where I read this but the Grandmasters of Wisdom tell us that you are beautiful because you are loved. Not because the Hollywood preaches a certain "ideal" size and shape for a woman. Be proud of who you are, in psychology we call them *imperfections*, but there hardly that. Little things about you make you who you are not whether or not you fit into the cookie cutter mold of what the rest of the world wants you to be. The media and glamour industry preys on you to think: "you know my life is empty and Im a pariah without so and so measures and this and that size breasts."
But it really has nothing to do with what other people perceive you as. Am I the only guy here who doesnt salivate over breasts and figure? What every happened to talking to someone before deciding they werent worth your time or didnt "look it".

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Quite frankly babe, I wish I was in your situation. Everyone dies to be thin, and big boobs aren't really fashionable anymore (ignore porn and the models, they lie). So anyway, be grateful for how you are. It's so much easier to gain weight, and you have hope your boobs will grow. When theyre too big and you're fat, it takes a hell of a lot of work to get that fixed...

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i think the point sort of is, the grass is always greener, you know? the girl with the curley hair is gonna want straight hair, the one with straight, curley... the fat girl wants to be the skinny girl, the skinny, the fat... the short, the tall, the tall, the short... etc etc...

we all have those friends out there who say theyre jealous of us, when we're jealous of them, right? it just doesnt make any sense to worry about who is cuter.


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laynefan
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It made me really sad that the other girls here have bad body images. Everyone was talking about their weight/height and they are thin! Just one day in this life I would like to experience that. I am 5'1", 220lbs. I have tried so many ways to lose weight....I know just accept it. The only problem is that most men don't like heavy girls. I feel as though I will spend my life alone, without a partner. It also doesn't help that I am 29 years old. If you can go to the store , a regular store, and by clothes in your size....please don't have a bad body image...you are normal! Stores don't even carry my size. I have one store at the mall that I can shop in. So please if you are under 150-160lbs, don't feel bad about yourself.

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wmskick007
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Hey, don't hate your body!! Bodies are wonderful things. I'm about the same size as you. I'm 5'8" and weigh around 120. I don't get many guys either. Same at my school, tall and curvy or short and curvy. And the guys like *** -> I don't have one. But hey girl, don't worry about it! If the guys don't like you for your body then they're not worth your time anyway!! Just wait around and there'll be a guy that likes you for you. )
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dont feel bad! people always tell me how gorgeous i am, but somtimes i feel the same way as you! but im on the short and curvy side (im not that short) but sometimes i wish i was tall and stick straight. i guess the saying work with what you've got comes into play here. dont worry, you probably dont look half as bad as you think. we're often more critical of ourselves than others are.
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LovinAmbs
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Hey, i am new here and saw this, i do not want anyone this applies to to tak eoffense but normally at my school (i am only 13 in Hisgh School next year) the girls with Curves (what they have at this age anyway) and huge boobs are usually so sure of themselves that they are stuck up, plus i dont even go for boobs! I would say that the best physical feature of my girlfriend is her butt! Hey guys, some like boobs but i will settle for butt! So instead of looking at your negative parts of your body such as your boobs, look in the mirror and check out your butt!! maybe yours is as nice as Ambers!
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Essiekl
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Hey, don't feel bad about how you look. To be honest, I wish I was in your situation. I'm 5'8 and 200lbs and I'm only a 36A
I thought I would never find anyone who would love me but I recently did. (and he's gorgeous!) I guess some of the best things in life come if you wait and I'm sure you'll find that someone who worships you soon.

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