i am going through a period of time right now where i have some very mixed feelings. i want to be sexually active, but...im not sure if im emotionally ready for it, or emotionally ready for what may happen afterward. i know im supposed to get these "cravings" for sex, but im not sure if i want to continue to ignore them. i dont want to "regret" anything but im not sure if ill even regret it. what am i supposed to do?
Posts: 63 | From: Virginia, U.S.A | Registered: Aug 2000
| IP: Logged |
MASTURBATE. Very simple, right? Yes, the cravings are normal, but if you have any doubts, don't do it. Kudos for thinking it over, and knowing that you aren't ready. So, listen to yourself. If you don't feel you're ready then don't do it.
------------------ Yeah, well I'VE got blood dripping out of a hole between my legs, do YOU?!? there is a difference between being stupid and being ditzy. i ought to know
Good for you for thinking it through. I think you may find that often, when we crave sex, we're craving a lot of things -- not just sexual activity. Thinking through what you're craving can help you satisfy those cravings a lot more effectively.
well if you have the feeling then do not rush into them. and if you do not want regrets then just make sure the person you are with is the one you love. thats what my girlfriend did and it makes it a lot better. if you feel like you are not ready then chances are you are not. just let your body and mind tell you when its time. Posts: 11 | From: canada | Registered: Dec 2000
| IP: Logged |
There should be no doubt in your mind that this is what you want to do. Have it planned out what you want to happen and who you want it to be w/. If it happens spontaniously, it might be great, but things may not turn out the way you want. You have the rest of your life for sex, don't rush into it right now.
Having sex too early in a relationship can screw things up ... seriously. You need to make sure yo'ure both ready and 100% prepared for the concequences (ie. babies, STD's, STI's, emotional ups and downs)!!
And it's alright if your first time doesn't work out exactly how you planned. I know mine didn't ... I'm happy about who i was w/ and everything, but i totally didn't expect it to happen that nite, and it wasn't planned at all. There's one time that sticks out in my mind vividly, but it wasn't my first ... weird huh?
If you are asking us these questions, I would wait. Im 16 and can barely handle my own cravings. I havent been a virgin for awhile, and the first time came up as a total spur of the moment thing and wasnt very romantic at all.
Best advice, to think it through and when you dont have to keep trying to answer all those questions and feel more comfy about it..go for it! After awhile, it gets QUITE fun!
Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998
Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.