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Dark_Wolf
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From: England
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posted 11-20-2002 11:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dark_Wolf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A few weeks ago now, almost a month ago, a boy in our school was hit by a car. He died in hospital. I have thankfully not had much experience of death so this came as a BIG shock to me. I wasn't close to the boy at all. I knew him as an aquaintance...But his death has affected everyone. It just reminds you of how little life we have and how much we should value it and make every moment of it special. I am sorry for everyone's losses and I hope we can not mourn too long about their deaths, but instead celebrate the life they lived beforehand and the fun, laughter and joy they gave us while they were part of OUR lives. May they all rest in peace,
-Dark Wolf-

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Cherokee1696
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posted 11-27-2002 11:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cherokee1696     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I went in to school late on Tuesday morning. It was the last day before Thanksgiving break, and I knew we weren't going to be doing anything.
My mom and I heard the sirens about 7am, as we were sitting on the couch, drinking our coffee. Didn't think anything of it.
In fourth block the assistant principal- the one we all love- came on the intercom. When I heard his voice my heart just kind of dropped to my stomach- we all know that he only comes on when its serious- he hates talking on there. You could tell everyone else knew it was serious, too. We were all looking around, seeing which of our friends we there and wondering which ones we hadn't seen that day.
He said that there had been a tragedy. Matt (will leave off last name) and his mother were killed in a car accident on the way to school this morning. His younger brother is in ICU at Citizens.
We all new Matt, even though he was just a freshman. He played baseball, and he was good. Senior good- everyone knew he was going somewhere. He was so funny, everyone loved him.
And now, just like that, he's gone. I don't know whether to go to the funeral or not. I mean, I didn't even really know the kid, I had just seen him around, thought he was pretty cool for a freshman.
Seems like that black dress I bought last Spring is going to get a lot of use this year. This will be my fourth funeral since August, and that's only counting the kids I went to school with, not my great-aunt, who died in October of natural causes. They were all car accidents. None of them were even drinking or doing drugs- just not buckled up, speeding, etc.
Its so tragic, when someone so young, so full of life and possibility is gone... forever... just because of one careless mistakes. I know everything has a price, but should the price be that high?

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lilacvase
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posted 12-23-2002 07:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilacvase     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When I was 3, on Christmas morning, while I was opening the gift my mother gave me,a Precious Moments saying, Mommies are always there when you need them, my mother commited suicide, right in front of me. She stabbed herself in the heart. First I didn't know what she was doing. Then I saw her chest bleeding on the floor. I am an only child and I was still holding my precious moments and my daddy picked me up and locked my bedroom door. Not to brag, I was a bright child and I placed the precious moments on my dresser. I screamed and cried at the door screaming, "Give me my mommy! I want my mommy!" I just gave up and cried until my daddy came to get me. I would give up a million dollars for me to forget that moment. I really would. When I went to her funeral I kissed her and said I love you. I swear to this day that she smiled a bit,but,hey I was 3. That's why I respect all of you who have lost loved ones and close ones from violent and non-violent deaths. God Bless you all.

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lilacvase
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posted 12-23-2002 07:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lilacvase     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When I was 3, on Christmas morning, while I was opening the gift my mother gave me,a Precious Moments saying, Mommies are always there when you need them, my mother commited suicide, right in front of me. She stabbed herself in the heart. First I didn't know what she was doing. Then I saw her chest bleeding on the floor. I am an only child and I was still holding my precious moments and my daddy picked me up and locked my bedroom door. Not to brag, I was a bright child and I placed the precious moments on my dresser. I screamed and cried at the door screaming, "Give me my mommy! I want my mommy!" I just gave up and cried until my daddy came to get me. I would give up a million dollars for me to forget that moment. I really would. When I went to her funeral I kissed her and said I love you. I swear to this day that she smiled a bit,but,hey I was 3. That's why I respect all of you who have lost loved ones and close ones from violent and non-violent deaths. God Bless you all.

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roziline
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posted 12-23-2002 09:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for roziline     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
2 years ago this christmas my grandma died. I've been thinking bout it alot recently because its hard to have a happy christmas without her.

She died because she was a heavy smoker and she was 76 years old. I loved her to peices and when she died I had two weeks off from school to get over it. I didn't get over it though and all my friends were supportive except for one who told me to get over it because lifes too short.

I felt a bit distant for the first couple of months but although the strong sadness has gone I still think about her alot. I think my dad was the worst affected because she died on his birthday (10th dec) and we try to celibrate the event but It's hard to be as happy as we should be. This X-mas we're gonna toast to grandma because It would be cool for her to know That we still love her.

I'm crying now so Im gonna stop. thnx for listening

I <3 you grandma!

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rosie - the girl dreams are made of =)

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Daydreamer24
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posted 12-23-2002 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Daydreamer24     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aww, I'm sorry Roziline.

Remember that everything happens for a reason!

"Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean."

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"Some are able to release grief far more quickly than others. However long it takes, it is always the re-connection with the power of the heart that moves you past grief. When the heart is enlivened again, it feels like the sun coming out after a week of rainy days. There is hope in the heart that chases the clouds away. Hope is a higher heart frequency and as you begin to reconnect with your heart, hope is waiting to show you new possibilities and arrest the downward spiral of grief and loneliness. It becomes a matter of how soon you want the sun to shine. Listening to the still, small voice in your heart will make hope into a reality." [-Sara Paddison]

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True friends are those who, When you make a fool of yourself, Don't believe that this condition is permanent.

People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

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Angel07
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posted 12-23-2002 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Angel07     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
my grandma died about 2 years ago i guess...it doesnt seem that long ago actually though. her actual dying wasnt that bad, before was worst. she had alzheimers for years and when she died she had just had a stroke. she didnt even know who i was anymore. that was one of the saddest moments of my life when i was in the nursing home with my mom and brother and my mom was talking to her and said "do you remember *my name*?" and she just looked at me and then turns to my mom and goes, "who is she?" so SHE was gone before she actually died. it was still sad. and it came at a hard time in our family so it was even worse. my sister left that month and was gone for 6 weeks.

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