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QuietDarkDeep Neophyte Posts: 25 |
posted 09-26-2003 03:56 PM
  
I have never been raped however I have had a bad sexual experiance that I still feel alot of shame and guilt about. I think about it every day and I was wondering how other people who have had negative experiances of this kind are able to have healthy experiances with sex afterwards I find myself thinking about what happened if I get aroused also in the only other sexual relationship I have had I found it difficult not to think about what had happened. I think this is probably because rightly or wrongly this was my first sexual experiance and therefore my association with feelings of this sort. As much as I know logically there is no real blame in what happened in my past in my head I still have shamefull and confusing feelings about it. Other people who have posted here have talked about having nightmares which are due to their experiances and I can really relate to that, I have often found it difficult to sleep in the dark and have even found myself being afraid of becoming scared if a nightmare did happen which made it difficult to sleep. it sounds stupid I know to let your life be affected by a negative experiance and I am in awe of the people who have to deal with far worse things happening to them. I would also like to say that this is the only place I have ever talked about this before and I really appreciate it. IP: Logged |
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QuietDarkDeep Neophyte Posts: 25 |
posted 09-26-2003 04:33 PM
I have never been raped however I have had a bad sexual experiance that I still feel alot of shame and guilt about. I think about it every day and I was wondering how other people who have had negative experiances of this kind are able to have healthy experiances with sex afterwards I find myself thinking about what happened if I get aroused also in the only other sexual relationship I have had I found it difficult not to think about what had happened. I think this is probably because rightly or wrongly this was my first sexual experiance and therefore my association with feelings of this sort. As much as I know logically there is no real blame in what happened in my past in my head I still have shamefull and confusing feelings about it. Other people who have posted here have talked about having nightmares which are due to their experiances and I can really relate to that, I have often found it difficult to sleep in the dark and have even found myself being afraid of becoming scared if a nightmare did happen which made it difficult to sleep. it sounds stupid I know to let your life be affected by a negative experiance and I am in awe of the people who have to deal with far worse things happening to them. I would also like to say that this is the only place I have ever talked about this before and I really appreciate it. IP: Logged |
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summergoddess Activist Posts: 268 |
posted 09-26-2003 07:20 PM
Sighs.. Scarleteen ate my post when i pressed enter!!! Okay.. *calms down* I will do my best to rewrite everything i said. I am not a victim of rape but i have been through ORAL sex abuse and verbal abuse from my ex-boyfriend Tim at the age of 17. I'm now 20. I was strong enough to know that i deserved better so i broke up with him nearly 3 months into the relationship. I want to say that i did not deflower my virginity to Tim. I deflowered it about 5 months later to another ex, Mark. I was both physically and emotionally ready to have sex for the first time in my life. Mark and I broke up not long after but i do not have any regrets. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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summergoddess Activist Posts: 268 |
posted 09-26-2003 07:21 PM
Sighs.. Scarleteen ate my post when i pressed enter!!! Okay.. *calms down* I will do my best to rewrite everything i said. I am not a victim of rape but i have been through ORAL sex abuse and verbal abuse from my ex-boyfriend Tim at the age of 17. I'm now 20. I was strong enough to know that i deserved better so i broke up with him nearly 3 months into the relationship. I want to say that i did not deflower my virginity to Tim. I deflowered it about 5 months later to another ex, Mark. I was both physically and emotionally ready to have sex for the first time in my life. Mark and I broke up not long after but i do not have any regrets. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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KittenGoddess Sexpert Posts: 4399 |
posted 09-26-2003 09:23 PM
Let's continue this discussion in the new thread created right here: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum9/HTML/000644.html ------------------ IP: Logged |
I love him so much. Isaiah's been so amazing, he has never once cheated on me or anything of that sort. He wants to be with me, not anyone else 
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