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TenaciousD14 Neophyte Posts: 1 |
posted 10-14-2001 04:59 AM
  
How does a 14 year old male loser (like me) in 9th grade meet people? Most of the friends that I have now started talking to me, so I don't know how to start a conversation with people or what to talk about. Basicaly I'm just plain socialy chalanged so I play games and surf the web all day, wear almost the same clothes every day not knowing what else to do. So what should I do? Thx in advance for any advice whatso ever and if you have any questions I'mm be glad to answer them for you. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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John Doe Activist Posts: 475 |
posted 10-14-2001 06:48 AM
There are plenty of 14 yo's who are shy and awkward, so you are not alone. You might try wearing a variety of clothes. I would imagine that the on es you are wearing get a little ripe. How about moving into a rotation with your clothes. Have say 10 different outfits and wear a different one each day and when you get to day 11 go back to wha you wore on day 1. As for talking to people, try starting with harmless stuff, say about how your HS football team did on friday night. Then you might steer the conversation around to things that you are interested in, like some of the games you are playing or interesting things you have found while surfing the net. Stop defining yourself as a loser, it is the ultimat self fullfilling prophicy. IP: Logged |
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Alaska Sexpert Posts: 4499 |
posted 10-14-2001 08:15 AM
Yup, Ten, I agree with John here - you're not a loser, chap! Many people are shy or go throug a shy phase in their lives, and even those who most of the time have no trouble meeting people come in situations when they are shy. So give yourself a break here. John gave some good advice here, and I can only add that you simply make slow steps and set some small goals for yourself, such as saying Hi to people you're in class with, and starting conversations on simple stuff, such as classwork, or school teams or whatever else. And once you are pretty comfy doing that, I am sure the chats with the people around you will move to other issues, too. Also, are there any clubs or teams in your school or area that you might want to join? Maybe a new sports class or a computer class? - Doing somethign new is usually a great way to meet some new people, when you all do something new in a group of people that don't know each other, everyone is at the same level and a bit shy. So get out a bit, chap, and I am sure you can do it! Good luck! ------------------ "Through repetition the magic will be forced to rise." IP: Logged |
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Gumdrop Girl Sexpert Posts: 11271 |
posted 10-14-2001 12:23 PM
i'm a geek, so i've been there, too. do you have clubs at your high school? maybe you might want to join some of them. my HS had clubs for computer nerds, and I was pretty active in those (as well as all the academic clubs). You can even start a club. Like music? Then get a teacher to sponsor a music listeners' club, and put up fliers around school to advertise meetings. but my favorite method is just to start saying "hi" to people you sort of know. then after a while, if you get brave enough, say other things, too. it's a pretty simple way of going about meeting and talking to new people. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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MoonChild Neophyte Posts: 21 |
posted 10-14-2001 03:08 PM
Smile....i swear, being happy and having a positive attitude solves everything. IP: Logged |
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littleone Activist Posts: 83 |
posted 10-14-2001 03:10 PM
Ooh geek girl over here!! tenacious, take a deep breath and relax. you are not a loser, that is a silly term that people use on others to make themselves look better. be proud of who you are if you are a computer geek, then be proud of that i know i am, and so is my boyfriend and so are my friends  as for the clothing...take johns advice. do you have any female friends? maybe get them to go shopping for clothes with you. believe me some of the most interesting people i know and practically all of my best friends are geeks who surf the net 24/7 (except when we are all hanging out) and they are NOT losers. so cheer up...highschool is most certainly NOT a reflection of real life. IP: Logged |
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BruinDan Activist Posts: 2727 |
posted 10-14-2001 11:40 PM
quote: I thought I was the only one in the world who remembered that awful Huey Lewis and the News song from 1985. ------------------ BruinDan's Blog! IP: Logged |
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DreAm*GurL Neophyte Posts: 28 |
posted 10-16-2001 03:40 PM
hey coming from someone who talks to everyone its just happens walk by and casually say hello! do u have msn, yahoo, icq? its a miracle worker some of my best friends, we began talkin on icq its amazing my bf too. but make sure u keep to talking to people from your school and VIOLA! or if u don't in the hall say hey how r ya? ask some of your freinds to introduce u to new people.. its a big circle it'll all work out don't worry life gets easier, being happy is a good key as well happy and bubbly but not annoyingly is the key! GOOD LUCK?!!!!!!!!!! 
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Alaska Sexpert Posts: 4499 |
posted 10-16-2001 04:24 PM
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quote: Oh no.....I am afraid more people remember that horrid song - after all it has an eternal pedestal in a full chapter on Huey Lee Lewis in Bret Easton Ellises "American Psycho". Yay. Serial Killer music. ------------------ "Through repetition the magic will be forced to rise." IP: Logged |
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Gumdrop Girl Sexpert Posts: 11271 |
posted 10-16-2001 11:48 PM
OT: are you folks dissin' Huey Lewis??? don't *even*! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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