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ookuotoe Advocate Posts: 2548 |
posted 01-15-2003 08:38 PM
  
Advice from an Abuse Survivor An abuse survivor talks about her history and lets you know why you need to get out of an abusive relationship if you find yourself in one. [This message has been edited by ookuotoe (edited 01-15-2003).] IP: Logged |
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Willowy unregistered |
posted 03-06-2003 07:14 PM
I was very touched and impressed by this article. I felt the the writer's stark, deadpan tone was very effective in conveying her message. While I am not a victim of abuse, I felt the article was helpful to me, in that it showed me (and perhaps other girls like me) the world in which victims live. So many of us, I'm sure, wonder why anyone would let themselves go through such abuse. This article really shows that abuse from a boyfriend/husband is a frighteningly complex thing, a total psychological tempest. I think what really touched me the most was the fact that even today, the writer suffers repercussions of her former abuse--the way a touch is dreaded. Thank you to the writer for braving the memories and sharing your pain, I believe it will make a difference. I wish her happiness. IP: Logged |
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ViletChildofTime Neophyte Posts: 1 |
posted 06-03-2003 12:55 PM
I loved the article, itself , but it didnt ahve any help as to HOW to begin to get out of an abusive relationship once you realize you are in one. IP: Logged |
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Lin Activist Posts: 2294 |
posted 06-03-2003 02:04 PM
Actually I think the article did just that.
quote: I realise this might not sound like alot and might not sound like detailed information. I have no idea if you are currently in an abusive relationship but I was and this piece of advice really is the most important one. We could get you to call the police, talk to your parents, avoid your partner etc. But at the end of the day what is most important is that you are willing to walk away and have the determination to stay away. The author understands the psyche behind alot of peoples' reasons why they stay and she goes on to break all of them down in the article. I called the police, I told my friends and I screamed, shouted and cried at my then partner. Nothing worked because I wasn't willing to step away from the relationship, dismissing each abuse as a phase, as him being unable to control his anger. And that was the problem. I had all the resources I needed at my fingertips but I didn't utilise them because I was not ready to leave. IP: Logged |
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PupRaiser Neophyte Posts: 2 |
posted 07-12-2005 06:31 PM
Your story hits close to home, not because I've been physically abused, but verbally and emotionally by my mother, and in legal terms "sexually assaulted" by my ex-boyfriend. It took me 4 years to get away from my mother, mainly due to the small technicality that I"m still not 18, and two years to get away from my ex- boyfriend, I still haven't figured out what I was thinking, why I stayed, or even why I still "care" for him, maybe its because he was "my first love" (better stated as my first boyfried because love can't possibly be the right word for that one). We've been apart for 4 months and I"m only just beginning ot deal with all of the after affects. IP: Logged |
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Ilovemydoggy1 Neophyte Posts: 12 |
posted 08-03-2005 10:10 PM
*gasp*...you got thrown out of a moving car!, how fast were you going, I'm sorry that was rude of me to ask, I hope you are ok, and I was very moved by the article, I know there are abusive relationships, but I didnt think it was that bad...good luck! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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google Neophyte Posts: 3 |
posted 08-24-2005 10:00 PM
This is a very informative and a well-balanced place. Nice to be here [This message has been edited by google (edited 08-25-2005).] IP: Logged |
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Miz Scarlet Sexpert Posts: 19846 |
posted 08-24-2005 10:33 PM
FYI? For most people, NO form of abuse is easy to talk about or bring to light. And many abuse survivors have survived a combination of abuse, and battering -- the term for emotional abuse -- almost ALWAYS comes with physical and/or sexual abuse. As well, you should understand that there is NO data to support that batterers -- emotional abusers -- are primarily women. And believe me, in the culture we live in, if there was, it'd be all over the place. While as a whole, more women are abuse victims (of all types) than men, battering is statistically pretty gender-blind at this point. I empathize with you feeling pain, but tossing misinformation around helps no one, and the same can be said for dismissingt the struggles of all types of abuse survivors. I'm not sure how you're defining emotional abuse, but there very much are laws pertaining to battering, no matter the gender of the victim. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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google Neophyte Posts: 3 |
posted 08-25-2005 08:55 PM
This is a very informative and a well-balanced place. Nice to be here [This message has been edited by google (edited 08-25-2005).] IP: Logged |
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mzkris Neophyte Posts: 1 |
posted 09-20-2005 09:57 PM
I gave too much information which was found on google. Please delete my post and profile. Thank you. [This message has been edited by mzkris (edited 10-09-2005).] [This message has been edited by mzkris (edited 10-09-2005).] IP: Logged |
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