All he ever wants to do is sleep. He always wants to be alone. He barely touched me after I found out I was pregnant-- he actually got agitated when I tried to get him to hold me! He's not acting like himself at all and no one can get him to talk. His band mates have tried; I keep calling and leaving messages saying I love him... but I wonder if it's making him feel worse?

I really don't know what to do!!! I am so worried about him and it's really hard not to take his reaction to this way personally. I'm starting to feel like he may regret the abortion and because of that resent me. And that’s really hard because I want him to be okay with this!

I thought about making a romantic gesture like taking flowers to him at work in hopes that I could get him to agree to talk to me but I don't know if that's a good idea?

I'm really upset and worried. I'm only 17 and I feel like he is the only person who can be here for me through this... but he won't! And I can't blame him because I know he's not dealing with it well... or is he just a jerk?!

He says he’s fine. And if he is fine then ignoring me during this situation would make him a jerk. But he said he’s had nightmares! And I think he’s depressed.

Oh, what should I do?! How can I make sure he's okay and if he's not okay how can I convince him to get help? He won’t even talk to me! I can’t rely on his band mates to get him through this… and his parents aren’t even in the equation because he and hasn’t told them I was pregnant (He’s 22 and … we see them on holidays)! If I talk to them about it he will feel so betrayed. But maybe I need to so he can get the help he needs?

Certainly, he's going to have his own feelings about it, but this should not be a crisis-type scenario for him, as he isn't IN crisis. This behaviour started with him from the start of your pregnancy, so it's likely not just about the abortion. Partner behaviour w/pregancy can be pretty unpredictable: sometimes even the otherwise coolest of partners behave badly.

YOU need support right now: ask for it. He says he's fine, you say YOU are not fine, so ask him to step up. Seriously, YOU need to be your primary concern right now, and he needs to pony up and realize you are the one who has been in crisis here.