I have what is known as Female Orgasmic Disorder, or otherwords when you have intercourse and dont have an orgasm. Out of every intercourse Ive had, Ive never had one...and trsut me..it SUX!

I can not come ANYWAY besides using a vibrator. Oral sex or manual sex does not even work..

All in all, I was wondering if there was any type of cure. My bf knows and it doesnt bother him, and I do not let it get me down or whatever when we have sex, but just I wish I could get rid of this disorder somehow.

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I have what is known as Female Orgasmic Disorder, or otherwords when you have intercourse and dont have an orgasm.

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Actually, that's not "female orgasmic disorder", that's perfectly normal . About two-thirds of all women can't reach orgasm from intercourse alone!

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I can not come ANYWAY besides using a vibrator. Oral sex or manual sex does not even work..

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Different people have different "orgasmic thresholds" - meaning they need different amounts of stimulation to reach orgasm. This can be affected by things like medications (some anti-depressants make it much harder to reach orgasm), but it also just varies enormously from person to person.

Some women (I'm one of them) have a very high orgasmic threshold and so can only reach orgasm with the strong stimulation provided by a vibrator. It doesn't mean there's anything "wrong" with you.

One possibility might be to experiment on your own and see if you can gradually learn how to reach orgasm with your own hand instead of the vibrator; if you can do that, then you could try showing your boyfriend how to stimulate you. Some people find this works for them, some don't.

But if you and your boyfriend aren't bothered by the fact that you need a vibrator, then it really isn't a problem. Nothing stops you from including the vibrator when you're having sex together.

have you made the diagnosis of female orgasmic disorder yourself after reading about it in your psych class or has a health professional made that decision?

While there *is* female orgasmic disorder, from what you write, it seems to me like what you're experincing is not clinical but quite normal for someone still getting to know their sexuality, their bodies, their orgasms.
From what I read on the diagnosis of it, I'd be very hesistant to put the label on any female teen having trouble orgasming. In fact, I personally completely disagree with the idea that women who can't orgasm from intercourse are sick. My view of female sexuality is a bit less coitus focused, I'm afraid.

I think logic gave some excellent advice above: no orgasm is better than another, no one puts up rules *how* you *have* to orgasm at any given sexual activity. If you orgasm best with a vibrator: FINE!

In any way, if this worries you a lot (which it doesn't have to) and you haven't been diagnosed by a doc, it might be a good idea to discuss this with her/him and see what you can do here. (S)he might take a look at what kind of prescription meds you're taking for example.

In any way, (and I know that sounds trite) don't stress too much: that is the perfect way to ensure you don't orgasm.

Merck Manual: Female Orgasmic Disorder

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Caro
~Scarleteen Sexpert~

"Through repetition the magic will be forced to rise."
Alchemical Precept

If you haven't done so already, you might want to read this article: Sexual Response and Orgasm ? A User?s Guide

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Kythryne Aisling
Scarleteen Sexpert

"The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform."
-- Alfred Kinsey

(sexpert mindmeld!)

So not reaching orgasm because you're not getting the stimulation you need, however much that is (and many, many women don't get enough stimulation to reach orgasm from intercourse alone), or because you haven't yet got to know your body fully, is not "female orgasmic disorder.