posted 12-30-2001 09:16 PM            

Can a mod please delete the thread?

Thanks for all replies.

~Joanna

posted 01-01-2002 08:56 PM            

Breasts are breasts and breasts, and each are different due to genetics and overall body type, but lest we forget, they aren't there for decoration. Like hands, or feet or knees or mouths, they have a purpose on our bodies, regardless of what you or anyone else may attach to them, and it's a good idea not to get too caught up in how they look.

Breasts will sag, again, that's due to skin type, fat composition, and again, genetics. There isn't a thing wrong with that. Not all breasts are "perky" and spring "upwards" and in fact., most that do are either in very young women or in surgically enhanced breasts. Normal breasts like other body parts, are subject to gravity.

If you're really in a snit about it, ask your doctor if your breasts are normal and okay. But my guess is that they're just fine. The bigger problem likely lies in simply accepting your body as a real body, not an ideal.

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posted 01-02-2002 01:31 AM            

if you are *really* bothered by it and have a few hundred $$$ lying around, sure you can go to a plastic surgeon and have them lifted. it's a very quick procedure involving cutting away of some skin and some stitching. it also requires 6 weeks to heal completely.

or, if you want to put some work into them, you can always go to the gym and do butterfly exercises. That's the machine where you have your arms up at right angles in front of you, and you press to the center, working your pectoral muscles. Working your pecs can give your breasts the appearance of perkiness by bulking up the muscle underneath the breast. Of course, with any sort of working, out can burn fat, including the fat in your breasts, which may cause them too look smaller.

or you can stop worrying about the whole matter because it's nothing that's gonna harm you.

posted 01-02-2002 03:28 PM            

Sometimes if I'm letting my imagination think certain parts of my body are ugly, big, small, whatever, I'll stop looking at the mirror and think in my head "Gosh, you are SO pretty" and then look back at the mirror. Then I believe it. If you tell yourself you're ugly, your mind will believe it. It works the same with telling yourself you're beautiful, and you are.

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posted 01-04-2002 03:53 PM            

If I thought my nose or ears were different than everybody else's it wouldn't be a big mystery whether or not they *were* different because I'd be able to compare... I can't ask strangers to lift up their shirts for me!

So thanks a lot.

posted 09-06-2003 07:10 PM            

**No need to quote the whole post!**

posted 11-04-2003 09:31 AM            

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a very important point someone brought up is about women who've had mastectomies. we always tend to wish we have what someone has who is luckier than us, but it is so important to be grateful you're not worse off.

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But it's also a very important point that there are many women who've had mastectomies who are perfectly happy with their bodies .

posted 11-20-2003 07:35 PM            

I too have breasts almost exactly like yours it seems. I also have, and am still struggling to fully accept them and understand what they might be catagorized as and how to think of them. maybe sharing my experience will help you with yours.

I always have loved breasts and looked foreward to having them when i was a little kid. My mom had great natural breasts, my older sister grew the *perfect* 34 C, perkey, full, round, small nippled, breasts, and i was sure I would follow in suit.

But i didn't.

I got breasts like yours and I visited several doctors trying to figure out what was wrong with me.

Mostly, the doctors weren't much help. One told me that I had a mild version of tubular breasts, a defect that is determined at birth, not by anything I might have done "wrong" developmentally.

Another male doctor, upon seeing my bare chest (a very difficult thing for me to do at the time, because I was so selfconcious), said, "Now, what exactly is the problem with your breasts? they look normal to me." This made me angry because it was only that the room and his hands were freezing so my breasts had "perked up" and the nipples had gotten hard and smaller, the way i'd like them to look all of the time.

I contemplated surgury to deal with what I considered my "deformity", and I suppose in a way it was. However, I never could accept surgury for probably the simplest reason, that i'm am terrified and disgusted with the idea of someonne cutting my body and more, my consent to it! But also because every time I thought about really truly changing my breasts for good, after al lthe surface dreams of the "perfect breast", I realized that I had moral issues with changing my figure to meet a perceieved image of what ideal was, something given to me by media and culture.

I thought of the sagging breasts i'd seen on even young women in African and Amazonian tribes and thought, that never seemed to get in the way of men, or themselves thinking that they were beautiful.

The first time I showed a boy my breasts was an ordeal for me. In a way, i think having breasts like mine is good for me, because it made me consider seriously my actions and how far I wanted to go and how far I could go comfortably with someone before the fact. We were falling in love, and he was older than me and I was terrified that he would be disgusted with me (silly really, since I knew he cared deeply for ME, but still a very real concern at the time). When I took off my shirt and bra, I was on my back lying down, because I thought this would help mask the fact that they were "droopy". We made out and he was rightfully awed by seeing breasts. Later on I cried and he asked me why, and I told him all about what the doctors had said and that I had a deformity.

my boyfriend just hugged me and said that he thought they were beautiful, hadn't noticed anything particuarly odd abuot them, everyone's was different, and that even if they were truly hidious he wouldn't care because he cared about me and not a part of my body. He would love whatever came with the package.

It still took me months before I was comfortable with him naked and with with my breasts in all their forms, sitting, standing, jumping, swaying, warm and cool, aroused and not, etc... But the comfort did come. I realized that I was undeniably sexy, and that the sexiness had very little to do with my breasts, but more about my attitude and persona and face and touch and care.

I suppose it is backwards to care more about someone else's opinion than your own, or to need another's approval before you can give your own, but I needed my boyfriend's confirmation and acceptance to help me on my way to accepting my breasts myself.

Now, we are separated, and my comfort with my breasts hasn't changed. I still wish that they looked different, and am hesitant to expose myself to new guys, but that's a good thing, because it forces me to really take a good look at whoever I'm with. (none of the other men i've been with have had a problem with my tubular breasts either.)

A favourite quote of mine from a guy friend I know went like this:

"A boob is a boob, and that's a good thing"
basically, any breast is a good breast.

Most gusy (I am heterosexual..i think....more on that in another thread) that I have encountered, have agreed that seeing and being permited to touch a womans breast is always exciting and breathtaking ,because they can't believe how special it is that a woman would let them do this.

Ultimately, it has to be you who decides to like your breasts for yourself and on your own standards, but I do also know that it helps on your journey to acceptance to hear how other people have percieved breasts like yours.

i hope that helped some.

-ceilidh

posted 12-03-2003 03:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Lynnsee2:
I wear a 36d and they used to sag horribly.

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posted 12-03-2003 04:39 PM            

Often we see photos in magazines that show women with large, perky breasts, which can make you feel like yours just aren't right; however, when you look around at women who aren't actresses or models or airbrushed, you realize that what you have is totally normal.

At the same time though, a good bra (and I've found getting a good one means shelling out more money than I'd want to but a high quality, lasting one is really worth it) can help make you feel better.

And how are you sitting right now? Are you slouching over at the computer or sitting up straight? Good posture will automatically make your breasts "perkier." The next time you start thinking your breasts are too saggy, just sit or stand up straight and you'll probably notice an immediate difference you'll like without much effort at all!

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posted 12-03-2003 04:58 PM            

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posted 08-25-2004 04:08 PM            

From my experience, sexual attraction is so diverse and varied, not only from person to person, but even within a same person. On some girls I like some things, and on other girls I like other things. If you would have asked me at any time previous, I would have told you that hairy nipples would make me throw up, but when I saw my girlfriend's, I was very much aroused.

Its not a science, there's no objective standard of 'ugly' or 'sexy' when it comes to this sort of thing. Even general statements, like modern American men tend to perfer skinnier women is way too broad to be accurate. Its like with personality- everyone is so unique and has such unique tastes that there is no reason to beat yourself up about any particular "malfunction." Believe it or not, even a third breat would be intensly attractive to a substantial number of men.