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Member # 32224
posted 01-16-2013 12:06 PM
I'm currently in a stressful place again and this time there doesn't seem to be anything I can reasonably do to fix it. I've been unable to find work except for a part-time thing at a company my dad works for, which is making me unhappy because I constantly have to ask for help and feel like more of a hindrance than a help, and it's not paying me enough for me to be able to keep my flat. I'm having to move back in with my family, losing an awful lot of freedom, and I don't get along terribly well with them, but it's a better option than moving in with strangers.
I only just came off antidepressants, and I really don't want to go back on so soon, particularly since the adjustment period on the stuff I was on before isn't great. I do know where I can access a mental health treatment organisation for young people with not much money, but once I move back in with my parents they will be inaccessible. I've tried to find different work, and had no luck. I'm completely miserable about this and I don't know what to do.
Member # 3
posted 01-16-2013 12:15 PM
Are you sure that moving back in with your family is a better option that moving somewhere with flatmates? If so, can I ask why?
Member # 32224
posted 01-27-2013 05:16 AM
I don't know anyone who needs a roommate, and I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of moving in with strangers. I'm a bit easier with the idea now, though, we talked about it and obviously it's going to take a while to get the flat off our hands (we actually bought it with the intention of re-selling, it's not a rental, but money problems mean I can't move straight into a new place after we sell it). I'm also planning to talk to my boss about getting more hours, so the money should sort out soon. I'm just still kind of disappointed about having to move back, it feels like a big step backwards.
Jacob at Scarleteen
Member # 66249
posted 01-27-2013 12:47 PM
When I moved in with a group of people I didn't know before, we actually spent some time together and I started getting to know them while they were continuing to interview other people. I felt quite confident moving in with them and we're now really close friends. But part of what I think helped is that we did put some effort into making sure we weren't 'just strangers' and we both left the door open for rejecting the opportunity and explore more options. Does something like that sound better than the idea of straight-away moving in with strangers? Also, I was thinking about your original post where you say you felt uncomfortable asking for help and like a hindrance at work. For me work is work. It's great that you want to achieve stuff at work, but you have given your time, and so you deserve pay. If the company wants more for their money the responsibility falls on them to help you. It's bad enough that you're underpaid, so I'd say you're well within your rights to feel better about that work, and the help you need to ask for than the thoughts you've described. It's a side issue, but I'm sure you're doing as good a job as you can do, anything more evidently requires their input, and that's fine, it's their responsibility [ 01-27-2013, 12:51 PM: Message edited by: Jacob at Scarleteen ]