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Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-21-2012 11:35 AM
how does everyone else deal with a pregnancy scare? I seriously need help, I know that, I just need some support and advice, I feel like im going crazy, like I want to do something like run away.
SittingPretty12
Member # 94883
posted 12-22-2012 12:29 AM
Hey hun, First: breathe. Second: I have had a few pregnancy scares in my day -- and guess what? I never got pregnant. There is a HIGH chance you're just feeling anxious. Third: What kind of risk are we talking about here?
Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-22-2012 03:12 AM
Hi SittingPretty I just cant do this anymore, y'know? im going to see a dr/nurse today to get counselling, I feel desperate penis to anus contact, no penetration, precum but no ejaculation, and I took EC as a precaution. please help me, please. [ 12-22-2012, 03:22 AM: Message edited by: Cherylcakes ]
Heather
Member # 3
posted 12-22-2012 11:03 AM
Run away from what? I ask because I think that whatever that "what" is might actually be a big part of the answer here per how to help yourself.
Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-22-2012 05:37 PM
i feel really strange, emotionally raw and drained....i have opened up more in the past rwo days than i have for a very long time, perhaps even for the first time ever...and what really feels like a weight has been lifted was just talking to a friend about how the boyfs comment about conselling only schizophrenics really hurt me...i dont understand why talking about my relationship has lifted more of a weight than talking about my pregnancy fears??
Heather
Member # 3
posted 12-22-2012 05:42 PM
Well, again I'd ask you want to run away from what? My guess is it's possible some of what you might want to run away from could be this relationship, and talking about it has made you feel better because it might be a big part of the problem, if not *the* problem.
Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-22-2012 05:47 PM
i want to run away from feeling like this, the bad thoughts and negative emotions.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 12-22-2012 06:03 PM
Okay. But can you see why talking about your relationship has probably been making a difference? because clearly, some of these feelings and thoughts are being triggered by what's happening in that relationship, including around sex?
Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-23-2012 03:03 AM
yes I can, so clearly
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 12-23-2012 11:10 AM
So, having identified that, what do you think your next steps need to be? If what is happening in your relationship is a big part of this, what do you feel like needs to happen with that?
Cherylcakes
Member # 98294
posted 12-23-2012 04:18 PM
my parents say I need to tell him straight how I feel, how anxious I am and how I am seeking counselling whether he thinks its for schizophrenics or not SittingPretty, I wonder if you could speak abit more about how you dealt with your pregnancy scares? I really feel I need someone to talk to right now, someone whos been there, y'know? x
Heather
Member # 3
posted 12-23-2012 05:16 PM
I certainly think those places per talking to him are places to start. You know, I think it's safe to say that most of us who a) have a uterus and b) have ever engaged in the kind of sex that can create a pregnancy have been through at least one pregnancy scare. Of course, that doesn't mean we all have felt the same way about them or handled them the same way. If it helps, for myself, when I've been there, I've just used all the best emotional coping tools I have for managing stress that work for me until I could take a test to find out, or until my period arrived. For me, those tools have been things like hanging out with friends, spending time doing things I enjoy, especially things that let me let off some steam, hunkering down with things to keep me busy and put my mind elsewhere, and if and when an ongoing partner was the person involved in the sex that created that scare, leaning on them for some extra support and comfort. Sometimes, too, even figuring out a plan were I to in fact, be pregnant, also helped, because having some idea of what I felt I would do, rather than not knowing that, helped me feel more together.