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Member # 41680
posted 12-24-2008 11:57 PM
I've read so much about penises with a curve, and all don't answer one thing: Does a curved penis cause pain for a female virgin having sex for the first time?
I have a left bend of about 30 degrees on my penis, so it is definitely significant, but normal due to circumcision. I've never had sex before, but neither has my fiance. Is this going to be a problem when we do have sex? I know that the first time can be a bit painful because of stretching that has to occur, but my bend is causing me excessive worrying as I think about the first time we are intimate. I don't want to cause her pain, and to be honest, I would really like to let her know beforehand to be (fair??) but the thought worries me a lot, too. I know there are various positions, etc. that make penetration with a curve easier, but I can't help but wonder if that will really ease matters during first time intercourse. Basically, just another lost and somewhat insecure guy thinking about that first time with his future wife. Help anyone?
Member # 3
posted 12-25-2008 12:08 AM
Vaginas are stretchy, muscular tubes (which also have their own curves: the vagina isn't straight or static). As well, the idea that vaginas need to be "stretched out" in some permanent way (or can be) is myth. When we're not talking about the hymen, the vaginal opening and canal loosen when a woman becomes very aroused at any given time, but when that arousal passes, go right back to where they started.
And I'd hope that if you're going to be having intercourse with someone that well before y'all got to that point, you and a partner would have spent some time with other activities first, for a whole bunch of reasons. But in addition to all of those, she'd know full well what shape your penis has and be familiar with it. If you're worried about pain with intercourse, I'd say that's much more likely to happen due to things like rushing into it, not spending plenty of time with OTHER sexual activities that most women tend to enjoy more first, not being relaxed, not using lubricant as needed, the works, than it would due to a common variation which, indeed, is usually just a matter of any two people finding out by experimenting what feels best to them. Check it out: . From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse [ 12-25-2008, 12:10 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]
Member # 41680
posted 12-25-2008 02:10 AM
Yes, other activities are inevitable, but we both want to save intercourse for marriage. The hymen is what I am most concerned about. I don't want any more pain than normal to occur because I have a bent penis or because it irritates the vaginal canal. Could a bent penis cause more discomfort when the hymen is passed through, or should it not effect the process too much?
Thanks for the help so far!
Member # 3
posted 12-25-2008 09:35 AM
If you two are engaging in plenty of other sexual activity before this, and your partner is at least an older teen, chances are she will only have a partial hymen at that point anyway. It may even be fully eroded by then.
But regardless, penis curvature isn't going to make anything any different for a woman who does have some hymen left to wear away when she starts having intercourse.
Member # 108677
posted 10-17-2013 02:39 AM
I am also facing with the same kind of problem like yours. My penis bent left side almost 30 degrees, but i never had a problem of paining during erection. Can you please tell how you had overcame your problem at first time you had sex.
Member # 25425
posted 10-17-2013 05:39 AM
BUDIKI, this post is 5 years old and the original poster has not been around since. It is extremely unlikely that they will come back and respond. If you have any questions, you can start a new post of your own and we'll be happy to help you.