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Member # 25425
posted 10-17-2008 07:46 AM
Aside from Scarleteen, I also volunteer at a counseling center for sexual abuse. This morning, my co-worker and I did a presentation at an elementary school about how to prevent and/or deal with sexual abuse. One of our questions for the kids was "who would you tell if something happened to you?". We wanted the kids to come up with two trusted grown ups, aside from their parents, that they could talk to if they were sexually abused or felt uncomfortable with someone.
And although you ST users are clearly not 4th graders anymore, we do often advise you to seek out the help of a trusted adult in certain situations (such as abusive relationships, sexual abuse and rape, difficult family situations, depression, eating disorders, etc) and we often get as a reply that they don't have anyone to turn to, either. So why not extend this morning's exercise to us, as well, and try to think of a few people we could turn to when we find ourselves in a tough spot? It can be a really good idea to ruminate on that while you're not in the middle of a crisis, so you already have an idea of what to do in the unfortunate event something does happen. Good people to turn to are older siblings or other adult relatives, such as an aunt or an uncle. Your school is also a good place for help: school counselors are trained to help teens with all sorts of situations, and teachers can provide support as well. Other people you interact with daily may also be of help, such as a coach or a family friend or the parents of a friend or partner. Now it's your turn. Who would you turn to for help?
Member # 28780
posted 10-24-2008 09:31 AM
It's easier for me to talk about this now that I'm out of it: when I was dating the heroin addict I turned to my little "circle" quite regularly for support and advice. These are all people who have seen me at my best and worst, know the weaknesses I tend to fall back on in relationships, and aren't afraid to tell me how it is even if it's not what I necessarily "want" to hear. In fact, these are all the first people who told me to dump that guy, and they were the first to be SO happy I did
My Mom Heather Corinna My best friend M My friend D from the studio I work at My friend A Everyone needs a support group and everyone needs someone to talk to. I think that's what makes the message boards at Scarleteen so awesome. Great thread Joey!
Member # 3
posted 10-24-2008 10:08 AM
(fallchild, you just paid me quite a compliment. I had a rough day at the clinic with a client yesterday who has been stuck in an abusive relationship for years, and that just made my day.)
Member # 25425
posted 10-25-2008 05:02 PM
Thanks, fallchild! And you know, I'm glad to hear that you got out of that relationship and are feeling better.
I'm going to reply, as well, to keep this going, because I think it's important. People I would turn to in a crisis: -my mother -my partner -my ex-partner/close girl-friend -my close friends S, C and J -fellow Volunteers here on ST
Member # 3
posted 10-25-2008 07:07 PM
- my father - my three closest friends - colleagues of mine in helping professions for these issues - my partner - an objective counselor who does not know me or the other party involved
Member # 33665
posted 10-25-2008 08:47 PM
-my oldest sister
-one of my professors (she's known me since I started at my college) -here -my mom -my cats (sounds weird, I know, but when I'm feeling really sad, they instinctively know and curl up right against my body and lick my hands and face) [ 10-25-2008, 08:48 PM: Message edited by: orca ]
Member # 28346
posted 10-25-2008 09:48 PM
-my best mama friend -my big sister -my mom's best friend/my adopted aunt
Member # 26516
posted 10-27-2008 09:10 PM
Depending on what the crisis is, I would turn to one of these people...
- my boyfriend/best friend B - my best friends G, N and M - my friend H, who's also my aikido instructor and a psychologist - here - my counselor
Member # 23917
posted 10-30-2008 11:03 PM
-my therapist -my mom -my girlfriend -my GSA advisor/favourite teacher
Member # 40203
posted 10-31-2008 10:22 AM
Everyone need someone who they can turn to anytime they needed. I'm lucky enough to have a great relationship with my mom, I know I can tell her anything, she's also my best friend.
Also my older brother. He's always been there for me and I know I can count on him for anything. Also my boyfriend, he's my best friend and I know he will always be there to support me through everything. And finally since I've discovered this site, I found that is a great place with people who really care and are there to help out, so I would probably also turn to Scarleteen for more advise. - My Mom. - My Brother. - My Boyfriend. - Scarleteen. - My Mom. My Boyfriend which is also my best friend. - My Brother.
Member # 40774
posted 10-31-2008 12:29 PM
-A teacher/mentor from high school I still talk to
-My partner -My therapist -A friend of my mother's
Member # 29269
posted 11-07-2008 02:14 PM
I think the three main friends I have to turn to are my friend in London, my friend in Michigan and my friend here in Birmingham (lives just upstairs from me at uni).
I think, though, that the one place I'd definitely come to is here; whether in public or by email. This is more or less the one place I can be come and never be judged, never give too much information. And I really appreciate that - thanks so much for what you do here, Heather!
Member # 40172
posted 11-07-2008 07:10 PM
Who DID I tell?
-My best friend -My boyfriend -My newspaper advisor
Member # 41292
posted 12-09-2008 07:35 AM
This topic made me realise I don't really have anyone to turn to..
but I guess I would tell one of my friend but don't want to be a burden and orca I like your post, haha yea when I'm sad I talk to my cat too, don't think it wants to listen though, it always run away.. lol
Member # 26390
posted 12-10-2008 12:07 AM
Tsubi- I know it's hard, because I've been there before, but don't think that your friends will consider you a burden if you come to them in a time of crisis. I for one, have felt very loved and trusted when a friend comes to talk to me in a time of need, especially if I know that particular person has a hard time trusting. It makes me feel special. That's very cute about your cat though ^^; lol, it loves you in its own feline way.
I would turn to: -my boyfriend -my favourite cousin -any friend that feels appropriate at the moment, depending on the situation -Scarleteen -depending on the situation, my mom. But I tell her more out of habit of closeness than because she makes me feel better she often doesn't. I know she loves me though, and I love her. -once I called RAINN.