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Member # 23248
posted 05-08-2005 09:16 PM
Well...lets just get this right out.
My mother has at the moment 5 dieases. It all started about 4 years ago. She had just gotten into a car accident. When she went to the hospital they decided after many weeks she had a diease, I'd say the name but I fear I will spell it horribly wrong. Then shes left my step father because he was giving her too much stress with getting the diease. Then a over the years, each year, she gets a new diease. She now also has epilpsy, lupus, ms, and mitocondria. I've been taking care of her and watching over my younger, 12yr old brother, and trying to be strong dealing with is. Shes 29 now almost 30, I'm just 13. Its been really hard but I kept it in pretty well until this year. My teachers even thought I might have been on drugs because I was taking the MS and Mitocondria dieases hard because she was in and out of the hospital alot. Another thing, around my school there is a rumor I was raped when I was 8. The thing is, its true. But I didnt live where I live now when it happened and I didnt think anyone but my closest friend knew and she wouldnt tell a soul. Everytime I find out someone else knows, I almost want to cry. Its really hard for me to deal with it.
Member # 1386
posted 05-11-2005 05:57 PM
Do you have any adult relatives with whom you could discuss this. It's a pretty heavy load for a 13-year-old.
I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.
Member # 23364
posted 05-12-2005 10:15 AM
Hunny you need to get help from somewhere. this is too much of a load for such a young kid to bear. Talk to an adult you can trust about this problem.
*Contraceptives should be used at every conceivable occassion*
Member # 23248
posted 05-12-2005 03:48 PM
I'm have to see a councelor once a week but I dont like talking to people I dont know. && I don't like to really discuss it with any family because neither do they...
Member # 9745
posted 05-12-2005 06:04 PM
When things at home are very stressful, it greatly affects other aspects of your life, and I'm sure you are feeling this. You become increasingly sensitive to outside pains because you are already dealing with a lot. You're not able to live a carefree life like the other kids. Or at least this has been my experience.
You are strong, and you and your mom and your brother WILL get through this. Do you ever see your stepdad? If you ever need a resource even just to vent to, try reaching out to a school guidance counselor. You don't need to pay them, and you don't need to bother trying to describe to them what school is like for you (as you might have to do for a therapist outside of school) because they're already familiar with it. Who knows, perhaps they might know a little bit about your home life, too. As for the rumors, I wouldn't let them bother you too much, even though pieces of what you hear the kids say is true. Listen up: Only YOU know what happens in your life and only YOU know how you feel about the things you go through. No one else can change that. Plus, people talk about people, it's a fact of human life. Unfortunately, some people speak meanly about other people. You probably don't have a lot of energy to focus on such things right now, but I can understand if it still kinda bothers you. Just try to make some time to do things you truely enjoy between taking care of your mom and your brother. Play outside, talk on the phone, read a book, listen to music, play basketball, paint your nails, whatever suits your fancy. If you need anyone to talk, I am willing
"It's something unpredictable but in the end is right i hope you had the time of your life"
Member # 23248
posted 05-18-2005 10:28 PM
thank you very much. it all very much appreciated. have a wonderful day everyone..reading your posts that are supportive helps. I just have a hard time when talking to people i know about all this.