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Member # 1071
posted 03-29-2001 02:13 PM
I got this idea from the bullies topic.
Is there an actual point where teasing gets too be too much? Like, are you just supposed to take it no matter how constant it is? Or is there really a point where your ONLY option is suicide?
Some of this probably depends on the person. If they're emotionally unstable in the forst place, a breaking point is probab;y much more likely.
If you were in the girls situation, what would you do? For me, it's so absolutely horrible I couldn't think about it. I would probably kill myself, if I couldn't stop it.
Sin by thy lips? Oh trespass sweetly urged, give me my sin again!
Member # 2050
posted 03-30-2001 01:45 AM
It all boils down to what you think about yourself.
All my life, people say i am too skinny and while that sounds like a compliment, it isn't. And I could hide myself in baggy clothes and stuff my face with food to make them happy but I don't.
I love myself and I believe that
my opinion matters the most to me.
So it probably wouldn't affect me but I can't say I would do the same thing if I was 4 or 5. I would probably just cry my eyes out.
Member # 94
posted 03-31-2001 12:10 AM
I don't think that there is ever a point where suicide is your only option. You always have the option of getting yourself together and moving on. I don't think you can blame bullies directly for anyone committing suicide- it's the decision of the individual.
Having said that however, yes, I do think that words can hurt an awful lot. Even you you know, within yourself, that it's not true, having people taunt you all day long is sort of like having a fly buzz around your head all day- the longer it goes on, the louder and more annoying it is, and the less you can ignore it.
Member # 2105
posted 04-01-2001 01:59 AM
Suicide is never ever ever the only option. It is all too often the easier option. Why live in hell when dying is so much easier? I don't know.
I think that name calling can get to be too much rather quickly and many people just throw the old sticks and stones excuse at you if you tell them about it. But words do hurt, and self esteem often takes longer to heal than physical wound. Well, I suppose if it was something like a massive head trauma or something it would take longer to heal, but now I'm just being silly.
Member # 3118
posted 04-01-2001 01:09 PM
Well, I'm pretty damn glad suicide isn't the only option. All through grade school and junior high I was teased relentlessly. Luckily, where I'm attending high school now, the kids are a bit nicer, though I know I still get whispered about and pointed at once in awhile.
When I was younger, I considered suicide many times. Its easy for a lot of people who aren't in that kind of situation to say "you just have to hold your head high and move on". Its just not that easy when you're surrounded by inescapable hatred for years on end. I still suffer from low self esteem to this day. I'm getting better, thankfully, but I know I'll never really have a good image of myself, like I had before I went to the school where I was bullied.
During seventh grade, I luckily discovered some music and some people outside of school that helped me get through those last years of junior high. I view life, now, as something of a test. The Powers That Be are gonna throw everything They've got at you, and committing suicide is like just laying down and giving up. That may sound bitter, but it's how I feel.
...an angel who didn't so much fall as saunter vaguely downward...
Member # 1168
posted 04-02-2001 12:28 PM
I know that words can hurt and if there are no words that do not hurt then some people feel that they have no other option. Every human needs someone to depend on for love and support. It's difficult to have inner strength without at least some outer support. I know that as of now, because of the love and belief that I had when I was little (from my parents) I'm much stronger emotionally than some. SUpport is necessary, because no one is self-sufficient.
Member # 713
posted 04-02-2001 05:44 PM
Yes, teasing hurts and can be damaging. But suicide is never the only option. Even if all reasonable methods of stopping the teasing don't work, the person being teased should realize that school, and thus the teasing, won't last forever. I'm all in favor of telling that fact to and giving support to people who are being bullied, particularly the ones who already have emotional problems, but if someone can't realize that teasing is a temporary state and not the end of the world and choose to kill themselves because of it, then their death is ultimately their own choice.
I was teased, myself. It hurt. A lot. But by the time I was in middle school, I knew that killing myself over something that would be over in a few years was rash and a waste of life.
To the rational mind there can be no offense, no obscenity, no blasphemy, but only information of greater or lesser value. -- Jennifer Diane Reitz
[This message has been edited by Lynne (edited 04-02-2001).]
Member # 1371
posted 04-02-2001 06:21 PM
What I think that teasing can do is multiply and compound the problems that people with depression face.
If you are depressed, you have lovely voices in your head telling you that you are worthless, lousy, lower than whale poop, and you deserve to die. And these feelings don't go away, and they never end, and it feels ilke there is no end in sight.
And then you go to school and people are *telling* you that you're worthless, lousy, and lower than whale poop. so all of a sudden you have external evidence for your internal reality. And because of your depression shrouded fog, you can't really feel any hope that it will go away.
So yes, ultimately the death of a suicide is their choice, but I don't think it's as easy as "they chose to not understand that it was temporary." Depression feels like permanent lifelong hell, and when it's exacerbated by the deliberate and wanton cruelty of others, can make death feel like an extremely wonderful option.
Been there. Done that. Got the souvenir keychain. NOt going there again.
Member # 3087
posted 04-12-2001 05:59 PM
suicide is never the ONLY option.
there is always another way out. i had a friend who used to be very over weight and all through jr high people made fun of her really bad. she cried alot, and felt awful. the funny thing is, the second she got to high school, the teasing stopped. she met other people that "are even fatter than me!! " sooner or later eveyrone is going to realize that everyone is different.
Member # 2971
posted 04-13-2001 01:46 AM
I would never kill myself, and i would never think of killing myself. I'm the kinda person who always manages to find the bright side of stuff and be pretty passive. I've never really been bullied, so i dont' really know how i would react in that situation, but i think for some, it just gets to the point where they can't take it.
I'm so lucky to have a supportive family, and if something like that were to happen to me, my mom would be the first to know, and we would do something about it. I hope others are as fortunate as myself, and have someone to reach out to.
"A six foot tall anorexic bimbo,with plastic breasts is making me feel weird about my own body." -Miss Bif Naked