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Member # 38098
posted 12-04-2008 12:23 PM
I've recently heard about how some people become a born-again virgin.. How do you go about doing this? What does it deal with? Please if you could help me out here
Member # 41400
posted 12-04-2008 01:33 PM
Okay. Born- again virgin is your second chances for not having sex until your married. I have no idea what is with it but that is what I know.
Member # 1679
posted 12-04-2008 02:39 PM
To be a bit more specific...
The whole "born again virgin" thing came out of certain movements aimed at encouraging abstinence until marriage. They coined the term to apply to those who had been sexually active in the past, but then make a decision/commitment to cease all sexual activities and abstain until marriage. Generally, there is a religious component to the promise as well. The term has been applied to both men and women. In some cases, women doing this sort of thing may choose to undergo surgery to reconstruct a hymen. (Obviously that sort of surgery is not something we would generally recommend or support here since it is totally unnecessary in the vast majority of cases, barring those where a woman might be at risk of being harmed or killed because of a lack of one and is unable to leave her current situation. We support creating a world where things like that do not happen, but recognize it as a viable alternative for those who are at risk and unable to escape right now.) There's not a membership-card that you have to apply for or anything...I guess if somebody wanted to, they could just stop having sex and start referring to themselves as a "born again virgin".
Member # 40774
posted 12-04-2008 03:48 PM
Also, the concept of "virginity" isn't medical. It's an arbitrary cultural idea that many people find harmful.
You might find this article helpful: 20 Questions About Virginity
Member # 38098
posted 12-04-2008 05:55 PM
I was actually wanting to become one.. so basically all I have to do is not have sexual intercourse until marriage, right?
Member # 139
posted 12-06-2008 10:08 PM
It depends on your definition of virginity. Oral sex and Anal sex still present their own risks, and still put you at risk for STIs, just the same as intercourse. Would you consider those to be sex?
You can certainly choose to abstain from sexual activity, but it's helpful to be able to define what sexual activity means to you.