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Only In Dreams
Member # 3661
posted 01-02-2002 09:08 PM
A few months ago, I was on an outing with my Orthodox Jewish cousins. I mentioned that I was in choir, and asked my oldest female cousin if she was still singing (as that side of the family has always been very interested in music). She just said, "No." flatly, and left it at that. I was a little surprised, considering I remembered the days when she and her sisters would run around the house singing loudly and we couldn't get them to stop! When I asked my younger cousin if there was any particular reason why she had stopped singing, she said thoughtfully, "Well, there's a rule in old Jewish laws that women shouldn't sing or perform in front of men because they might attract 'attention' from men. I personally don't believe in it, but I guess she does." I was incredulous, but there are a lot of things though taboo because they could attract sexual attention. Post any you've heard here.------------------ "Your Honor, we find the man who stole the mare not guilty." -Welsh jury verdict
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xprocessor
Member # 6393
posted 01-02-2002 11:58 PM
Well, it may seem a little absurd that singing is prohibited because it may attract sexual attention, but that makes perfect sense.You may now be under the impression that an activity shouldn't be banned simply because it attracts sexual attention. Doubtful though, since I'm quite certain you don't support exotic dancing at churches. It's all quite relative.
Milke
Member # 961
posted 01-03-2002 12:45 AM
Music can be very sexy, or sad, angry, joyful, beautiful, or just about anything else humans can be. And just because it's one thing sometimes doesn't mean it always has to be. Of my two most favourite bands, I'd consider one quite sexy, and the other most definitely not, though, strangely enough, the latter band sings about sex a lot more. I don't mean to be offensive, but I don't see the ban on music for women as fair in the least (how can anything so unrelated to gender that's still discriminated on that way be?). I also don't understand the singing/stripping comparison, especially since one activity is designed to attract sexual attention, and the other isn't, and besides, not everyone find the same things appealing. xprocessor, you express your opinions, and not necessarily those of the rest of us (most certainly, not mine), so please don't phrase your comments as though you do.
Beppie
Member # 94
posted 01-03-2002 01:07 AM
I've heard of many things like this, ranging from the burqa to the idea that women shouldn't wear miniskirts because it supposedly makes her look as though she's after sex.There are really two issues to be looked at here. Firstly, one has to consider the way in which activities, body parts and objects that are not intrinsically sexual are ascribed a sexual nature and consider the purpose of doing this. Often, I think, it is used as a means of controlling others (usually women, but not necessarily) through their sexuality, by saying that the responsibility for ALL sexual feelings lies within the features of one half of the party. While I don't want to deny that this could happen to men, throughout history it has often been the case that women are held responsible for the sexual reactions of men, but not vice versa, and as such womens' activities and bodies are hidden.
Secondly, why is it that some people consider it wrong to illicit a sexual response anyway? So long as that response is handled appropriately by the person who is having it (ie, they don't harrass or embarrass anyone), I really don't see a problem with it, as it is completely natural. Teaching that sexuality is shameful only makes problems like this worse.
xprocessor
Member # 6393
posted 01-03-2002 03:10 AM
This reply is simply to Milke. Any assumption you make about how I "phrase" things is your assumption. I don't presume to represent the opinions of the general population, or yours.
Milke
Member # 961
posted 01-03-2002 11:02 AM
Stating that something 'makes perfect sense' suggests that it is fact, not opinion, x.
Milke
Member # 961
posted 01-03-2002 11:02 AM
**Double Post**[This message has been edited by Milke (edited 01-03-2002).]
xprocessor
Member # 6393
posted 01-03-2002 01:39 PM
Milke:When I use the term "makes perfect sense" in that context, I only mean it literally. I'm not saying that my opinion is the correct one. I'm not saying that it's fact. I'm ONLY saying that it makes perfect SENSE. I'm saying that it is LOGICAL to assume that such a ban would be in place, despite the apparent absurdity.
Also, this is only my assumption, but you may have misunderstood where my opinion stands. Nowhere in my original post did I state that such a ban is correctly in place, or that I agree with it being there. I simply explained how (in my opinion), it makes SENSE that such a ban would be in place. NOT that it is RIGHT for it to be there.
TenohSetsuna
Member # 6092
posted 01-03-2002 05:05 PM
Well, xprocessor, if an activity should be banned simply because it attracts sexual attention, maybe all sex should be banned. ------------------ "I never said I was a boy." - Tenoh Haruka, episode 92, Bishoujo Senshi Sailormoon
xprocessor
Member # 6393
posted 01-03-2002 06:45 PM
TenohSetsuna:I do not believe, nor have I ever believed, nor have I ever STATED that I believe that an activity should be banned simply because it attracts sexual attention.
TenohSetsuna
Member # 6092
posted 01-03-2002 08:17 PM
"Well, it may seem a little absurd that singing is prohibited because it may attract sexual attention, but that makes perfect sense."-- xprocessorIt makes sense that you should prohibit singing because it might attract sexual attention, but you, xprocessor, do not believe, nor have ever stated that you believe an activity should be banned simply because it might attract sexual activity. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't prohibited and banned synonyms?
--Haruka
------------------ "I never said I was a boy." - Tenoh Haruka, episode 92, Bishoujo Senshi Sailormoon
Gaffer
Member # 2105
posted 01-03-2002 10:39 PM
I guess dress codes at school is a really big one. Also, there's this whole dancing issue, like certain types of dancing aren't allowed. And things like gender seperate bathrooms and locker/changing rooms I think exist because of this sort of thing. It pretty much permeates every aspect of life, as creepy as that is. People really aren't supposed to do or say things that perhaps could attract sexual attention, and that has to do with everything--it's the way we live our lives.I wonder what the world would be like if this weren't the case.
(I love the heading of this post; I am still laughing.)
Only In Dreams
Member # 3661
posted 01-03-2002 11:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by Gaffer:I guess dress codes at school is a really big one. Also, there's this whole dancing issue, like certain types of dancing aren't allowed. And things like gender seperate bathrooms and locker/changing rooms I think exist because of this sort of thing. It pretty much permeates every aspect of life, as creepy as that is. People really aren't supposed to do or say things that perhaps could attract sexual attention, and that has to do with everything--it's the way we live our lives. I wonder what the world would be like if this weren't the case.
(I love the heading of this post; I am still laughing.)
Thanks! Anyway, I know what you mean about dress codes. While I don't exactly think people should be wearing certain things to schools, the other day a friend of mine got yelled at because her shirt lifted up slightly and showed her stomach. After they finished, I told her sarcastically, "Yeah, that's dangerous because anyone that sees your navel will be overcome with a violent urge to make passionate love to you!" They go a little too far sometimes. As for gender separate locker rooms, we had an incident at choir camp (stop making fun of me! ) where one of our gay choir guys wanted to stay in a girls' cabin, just because he had lots of female friends and felt more comfortable there. They decided against it, because there could be a scenario where heterosexual guys were saying that just so they could get into girls' cabins. I didn't agree with that, but I guess they were just trying to be safe. ::Sigh::
------------------ "Your Honor, we find the man who stole the mare not guilty." -Welsh jury verdict
"We could start a glorious day..."
Confused boy
Member # 1964
posted 01-04-2002 11:49 AM
TenohSetsuna your getting the wrong end of the stick.Xprocessor was merely considering the thought processes of THOSE who do not want "sexual attention." He has not shown any view one way or the other, all he has done is explain why THEY decide to ban singing and dancing.
------------------ 'An Anarchist is a Liberal with a bomb' Trotsky
TenohSetsuna
Member # 6092
posted 01-04-2002 12:47 PM
Ara? You've lost me here. I'll concede once xprocessor confirms what Confused boy has said. ------------------ "I never said I was a boy." - Tenoh Haruka, episode 92, Bishoujo Senshi Sailormoon
LilBlueSmurf
Member # 1207
posted 01-04-2002 01:11 PM
Hate to be a pain in the butt, but can we please get back on topic here ... The topic is banning things that attract sexual attention, not debating what a user meant when they said something. Please, and this is for all of us, be more clear in your posts and use "I" statements when saying what you feel. If you don't necessarily feel that way, say so. Saying what's right or wrong is generalizing and making moral value judgements, which we don't do here.
Thx.
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