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J305
Member # 82020
posted 10-07-2011 05:01 PM
My friend that a guy well I told him that im a virgin and he ask me if i ever suck on a d--- and i said no and he ask me if i would like to suck on his d--- and said ok but we are only friends he has'nt done anything to me so one day he ask me by text can i be ur first and i told him if this a good thing to do bec we are only friends and he said that he does not mind sooo i told him that im not ready bec im scared and bec its my first time... soo i heard that if a women do sex or it her first time is to do it with the person that u really in love!!is this true?? and should i give it to him??? he did ask me!!! I sometime feel that i do want to... but his only a friend.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 10-07-2011 07:23 PM
You say you're not ready. That, right there, and all by itself, is really clear. When someone doesn't feel ready, they are very unlikely to have a good experience. It also sounds like most of this isn't about something you thought you also wanted, but only in response to what this friend has said HE wants from you, to you. Do I have that right? If he hadn't been asking any of this, was being sexual with him something you yourself have wanted at all? Just because someone asked us to be sexual with them doesn't mean we should be or that it's right for us. In your life, you're likely to have people ask or suggest sex with you to you: you probably will not want to have sex with all of them, and choosing to be sexual is about much more than just what someone else wants from us. There's no right answer when it comes to if sex is or isn't right if people -- women or anyone else -- do or don't have romantic feelings. There's just what a given person thinks they really want and think would be best for them. So, what do YOU want? What do you think would be best for you?
J305
Member # 82020
posted 10-07-2011 10:18 PM
I want to wait and when im ready that when ima be okay
J305
Member # 82020
posted 10-07-2011 10:21 PM
I want to wait and when im ready that when ima be okay
Heather
Member # 3
posted 10-07-2011 10:36 PM
Then there you go! That's what you stick to. Sex with someone else isn't just about them, after all. It's also about you. If they aren't down with that, you can know they would have been a really lousy person to have sex with anyway.