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Member # 50934
posted 02-08-2011 04:37 PM
My school councilor is a nut! I don't know how to trust her no more.
1. She says stupid things that ain't true so I would do the right thing. Don't ask what. 2. She once said, after I already told her I'm a lez, "If an extremely hot dude came in, and said 'Stefunnie, you are so hot' and asked you out, what would you say?" I said no and she went, "No you wouldn't! You're being silly! You'd say yes! Don't lie!" It happened last year but I don't know if she still thinks that today. 3. I told her how sometimes I pray and apologize for my sexuality. Then on another topic and told her about the time I wanted to sleep w/ a guy. She went "Stefunnie, lesbians wanna sleep with women. Why do you have to apologize for being gay." I told her "Who are you to jump to conclusion like that? This happened a long time ago. Whats wrong with you? Leave me alone." She's even said to me "Oh, lesbians don't wanna date guys." That was jank! I tell her to get out of my life. There were reasons. Good reasons. On the other hand, she's a lez too. Why would a lez say that? That is bogus! All those things she said to me, I wish she said that on here. Then she'd learn to respect this. I don't know how to talk to her about this. I wanna talk about this w/ my mom with her. I wanna talk about it as a group. I can't seem to have a chance to. What should I do?
Member # 25425
posted 02-08-2011 04:51 PM
Have you confronted your counselor about any of this and asked her to clarify? If not, that's where I'd start. You can print out this post and bring it in with you, if you're not sure how to start that conversation.
If she's doing/saying things that you think are inappropriate (especially whatever it is that she lied to you about), then I suggest you talk to your mother about this. She could help you take other steps, such as talk to the counselor herself, or to someone from your school's administration.
Member # 50934
posted 02-08-2011 05:45 PM
I said that I wanna talk to her about it, but I'd rather do it with my mom in the room w me. I don't wanna do it myself. I don't wanna do it during the day and she can't do it after school. How do you think I can work it out?
Member # 3
posted 02-08-2011 06:16 PM
It sounds to me like this is something you're going to need to work out with your mother and your counselor in terms of scheduling, and may also need to make some compromises yourself, like perhaps by doing it during the day if that's the only time that can work for the two of them.
There's nothing we really do to help with these kinds of scheduling issues between people.
Member # 56874
posted 04-22-2011 07:08 PM
I think it is an inaccurate statement to say that lesbians only want to sleep with females. A lot of people's orientations are not as black and white as to say they ONLY want to sleep with one sex and/or gender, but that they generally swing towards this sex and/or gender. The sexual desire and the want to sleep with someone are completely seperate from each other...so it depends on what you meant by this...Well, that is how I classify it, wanting sleep with someone for a thrill versus the sexual desire for them...or just my general curiosity about sex...
I have had adults make misconceptions about this before...with my mother and father mostly...and my friends and how they assume people of certain sexualities and styles *dress in particular* are.
Member # 56874
posted 04-22-2011 07:11 PM
Also, on the point of "why would a lesbian say that?", a lot of my friends think that fooling around or dabbling in the world of dating the same gender pegs you as someone who isn't straight...but it is ultimately up to the person themselves to decide how they define their orientation, so I think that it is very admirable that you stood up to her on that point. I wish the best of luck to you on this