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Member # 3
posted 06-27-2010 11:57 AM
As you may have noticed, sometimes older adults - those over 25 -- will come to the boards with their own questions (either as parents or about their own sex lives), or add the topics here.
It's very important to us as an organization that the services we provide are primarily for, and relevant to, people in their teens and early twenties. That's what we do, and with what funding we have, what we are funded for. As well, younger people have less resources -- per finances, access, transport, rights -- than older adults, who are usually in a much better position to find help and information elsewhere. However, we talked to some of you a while back about how you felt about us answering questions for older adults, and including them when they are not staff or volunteers, and/or not here to expressly try and help and support you. Most of you voiced that you felt just fine about that, and a couple of you even said you felt like you might benefit from seeing older adult questions. That given, the volunteers and myself have been talking about it, and feel like we can add an extra area to the boards for those over-25. It'd be a place where they could ask their own questions, within limits (and with the understand questions from those under 25 will always come first), have conversations with some of you, including asking you for advice or support, etc. We have been having our own conversations about rules and guidelines to set, but I also wanted to check in with those of you here under 25 about what, if any, specific rules, guidelines and precedents you might want in this, since this really is YOUR community. Share your thoughts? Thanks!
Member # 47482
posted 06-27-2010 12:47 PM
I think adding a subforum for older people is a good idea because teenagers like me would benefit from non-judgemental communication with average (non-sexpert or -volunteer) adults sometimes. As in, we all have the same struggles. However, considering a recent question about strippers, the rules for that area would need to include an extra reminder that there are certain things too "adult" for these boards.
Member # 3
posted 06-27-2010 12:50 PM
For Science: want to list some of the topics you think would fall under that umbrella?
Member # 3
posted 06-28-2010 02:22 PM
Bumping this because it's important, and we always want to try very hard never to make big changes around here without assuring what we change works for as many of you as possible.
Member # 43628
posted 06-28-2010 05:08 PM
While I see the benefits of adding this, I'm kind of worried that there will be so much traffic from older adults that everyone else will be pushed aside. Although I don't know, maybe there won't be an overwhelming number of older posters, I'm sure you (Heather) would be better able to gauge that.
Also I don't know if younger posters will feel comfortable addressing questions from older adults. Speaking for myself, I wouldn't feel comfortable trying to help someone much older than me. But I don't think it's a bad idea. I guess it could be worth a try.
Member # 45255
posted 06-29-2010 12:03 AM
It may also possibly keep them off our areas of the board. Give them their own space and they won't clutter ours.
Member # 3
posted 06-29-2010 09:23 AM
Thanks for the feedback, both of you.
Coralee: I don't expect a flood of older people, but who knows. However, we intend to make very clear that that area will always come last. In other words, when myself, CJ or the volunteers come here to answer questions, we'll look at and tend to posts in every other area first before tending to anything in that area. That will also be made clear in that area. Our priority has and will remain teens and young adults, and it's very important to us that that does not change. Per younger people helping older people, that certainly will be optional. However, my hope is that something like this might also help some of you kind of counter adultism and recognize that your perspectives and insights are valuable, regardless of your age. I mean, I don't come to all of you with my relationship or body issues, but that's primarily because I'm the ED here and it's important for me to keep healthy boundaries with all of you. In a different position, given the opportunity, I'd very much welcome some of your insights a lot: I think all of you have a lot to offer. Age can certainly keep teaching us more and more (not always, but often), but that's hardly the only thing that gives us perspectives. Nightshade: that's one of our hopes, actually. You may have noticed that often we need to tell older people who currently post who this site is primarily for, which obviously takes time away from all of you, and, as you said, "clutters your space." I want to also be clear that this is something where if it turns out to be a failed experiment, we'll just axe it. We don't owe older adults anything: again, that's not who we are funded to serve or who we say we serve, so if this area just doesn't work, I have no problem just making it go buh-bye.
Member # 47739
posted 07-02-2010 06:21 PM
I'm newly registered here, but I've been quietly reading on the boards for a long time. I think that having a small section of the boards for adults is a cool idea. And not just because I'm 23 and I'll be too old to post here soon! =) I feel like there's a lot of overlap between our questions anyway. When I read other people's posts, it's not like I can always tell how old they are, unless they mention that they're in high school or something like that. And maybe it's because I'm getting close to 25, but I'm curious about the problems that older people struggle with. I might read something that will help me out later on in life.
Member # 42926
posted 07-11-2010 01:27 AM
I think that it's a good idea.
I think that as long as the areas of the board for younger people come first, there wouldn't be a problem. Like Cloverdance, I also think it would be interesting to read the problems that adults have, so that I could prepare myself for them (I read a lot of the "Ask Scarleteen" questions that don't apply to me, just in case I need the information later). And I definately wouldn't have a problem giving advice to someone older than me. I think that everyone needs to see their problems from a different perspective. I know that I get a lot out of the "been there, done that" experience that older people have. Maybe some adults could see that teenagers and young adults have valuable input.
Member # 46095
posted 07-31-2010 07:53 PM
I wouldn't mind! And I'm totally cool with helping adults with their problems.
As per the question that arose earlier, things that would be too adult or inappropriate to ask about... I'm not sure what I'd be uncomfortable with adults asking. If you suggest some things, I could say yea or nay, but I can't think of anything off the top of my head. [ 07-31-2010, 07:55 PM: Message edited by: Devanie ]