T O P I C R E V I E W
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-11-2011 11:48 AM
You might have heard someone describe you or someone else as "fishing for a compliment" at some point. The thing is, sometimes we want and need validation or recognition, and there isn't anything wrong with that. So, do you want a compliment? Ask for one, and someone else here can deliver it to you gladly.
patrickvienna
Member # 29269
posted 08-12-2011 09:18 AM
I would like one please. While I'm here, Heather, you're a really wonderful person who's inspired me for years now to be more proactive about making sure people feel valued, and able to enjoy their sexuality, and able to get informed, and calling out hurtful or unhelpful comments people make, identifying what in my world I want to change and how I can do it. That's not to mention you being my champ for so long and helping me to develop my own agency for myself and my sexuality. Yay, thank you! (:
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-12-2011 09:24 AM
Aw, bless! And happy to give one! What I think is really cool about you, Joseph, is that having observed you (that sounds so clinical, but I don't mean it that way) move through being a younger teen to an adult during your time here, you seem to have done this really cool thing where you've expanded who you are, and outgrown some things that clearly weren't serving you, while retaining the spirit of who you were in all the best ways. I've always appreciated your openness and your candor, your willingness to try and look at things beyond your own lens (while at the same time standing up for your own ideas), and what's very clearly big-time good-heartedness. I also really admire how compassionate you are with others, and how much of yourself you obviously put into your interactions with other people.
Jill2000Plus
Member # 41657
posted 08-12-2011 02:50 PM
Um, can I have a compliment please (and I'll also have the cheesy chips and the raspberries and strawberries with cream).
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-12-2011 03:27 PM
You so can! I LOVE your creativity, Jill. It's practically in every post of yours. I also admire how deeply you obviously think about things and the way that you stand up for what you believe in.
treetops
Member # 44381
posted 08-12-2011 03:48 PM
Could I have a compliment, pls? (Also, Heather, thank you for engaging with my comments on your Slutwalk article (I forgot to log in. Derp.)) [ 08-12-2011, 03:50 PM: Message edited by: treetops ]
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-12-2011 03:50 PM
treetops, you're a badass! And I mean that in the best way possible. I love your passionate politics.
Atonement
Member # 42492
posted 08-12-2011 10:50 PM
I'll take one, . In a community like this, you learn a lot about people who you don't even have a face to put to, and it's always cool to see what someone notices about you! And while I'm here, I'll join the bandwagon and leave one for you, Heather. Well, not so much of a compliment as a rather flattering fact. Any time I see a news article or a news clip that mentions you or Scarleteen (I recently remember seeing one from a Chicago paper that you posted on here, which was the coolest, since I think Chicago is the most awesome city EVER), I get this feeling of pride that says "Yeah, that's right, I know her.". It makes me feel really cool to know that I've had so much firsthand contact with "the expert". [ 08-12-2011, 10:58 PM: Message edited by: Atonement ]
polyprotic
Member # 45568
posted 08-13-2011 03:36 AM
I'll take one as well, please
patrickvienna
Member # 29269
posted 08-14-2011 10:38 AM
Hi polyprotic! I haven't known you that long, so I took some time to go back and read through your old posts. It's clear to me that you're an awesome communicator, someone who really takes how other people are feeling into account at the same time as being awesome for making big efforts to look after your own needs. You take a lot of time to help other people out on here in a super empathetic way and you clearly have an all-around reserve of awesomeness you share with people, too.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-16-2011 08:33 PM
Atonement: you've always struck me as such an incredibly thoughtful person, who really digs deep in your thoughts and feelings, even when the surface of things would be much more comfortable. You also are clearly very, very caring about others. I also have seen you take a couple of risks in your life where you weren't so sure, but felt you needed to take that journey, an adventuring spirit I think is admirable.
eryn_smiles
Member # 35643
posted 08-17-2011 08:12 AM
Hmm hope everyone isn't limited to one compliment Jill: I like how you challenge stereotypes about Aspergers syndrome and about being queer and make me think. You're not scared to be different. You're kind, strong and not afraid to talk about social justice and human rights. You inspire me . Me too? [ 08-17-2011, 08:23 AM: Message edited by: eryn_smiles ]
Jill2000Plus
Member # 41657
posted 08-17-2011 03:03 PM
Eryn, I admire how you're living your life as a queer asian woman with so much bravery and trying to change people's lives and challenge their prejudices to make a better world, and thank you for checking up on me when I've been at my lowest, it means so much and shows how caring you are, you're very empathetic and I can see how much you care about your family. Also, that was a very good compliment [ 08-17-2011, 03:06 PM: Message edited by: Jill2000Plus ]
Kawani3792
Member # 48854
posted 08-18-2011 02:01 AM
I feel sort of silly saying this, but...could I have a compliment?
ananab
Member # 76493
posted 08-20-2011 02:24 PM
I've only been here for a day and I've only posted a few times but could I get a compliment iou for when you know me better? [ 08-20-2011, 02:25 PM: Message edited by: ananab ]
Alice
Member # 28346
posted 08-20-2011 05:24 PM
I'll give you one right now, just from reading your last post ---ananab , you seem like a really caring and empathetic person. You care a lot about your friend who is having issues and you even asked us how you can help. Caring about people, feeling empathy and wanting to help people out when they're in tough situations are pretty awesome qualities to have in our world - so great job and big hugs. :-) And Kawani3792 , I've noticed you helping out fellow users on the boards and that's SO GREAT. You give awesome insights and even go so far as to dig up links and such for them to look at. You have such a wonderful balance of asking questions, helping others and also contributing to our little community here - you're like a model Scarleteen-er.. we should really give you a badge. :-)
Haleylynn
Member # 47356
posted 08-20-2011 09:50 PM
I would love a compliment!
moonlight bouncing off water
Member # 44338
posted 08-22-2011 08:48 PM
I think this thread is an awesome idea! I'd like a compliment please.
Cian
Member # 44405
posted 08-24-2011 04:22 AM
I feel silly asking because oftentimes, the only way I can get compliments is by saying something mean about myself so someone could tell me the opposite. I could use a bash-free-compliment. As I need to dart off now I think I'll return later to give my compliments to others.
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 08-24-2011 08:15 AM
haleylynn: One comment that stuck out from you was where you posted "I look forward to the rest of my life just the way I am." You have something so many people strive for in life - a happiness and contentment to be who you are. you're a strong and positive individual who is not afraid to be yourself - and that's amazing! moonlight bouncing off water: I see you as a genuinely caring and helpful person. I see from this thread here that you help care for your other you know when they need you, and from your time posting here that you do the same with people you don't know - showing a compassion for humanity Cian: You have what I've always called the "breath of fresh air" quality about you. You've gone through some rough patches, and find a way when things turn out okay through a lot of work and time to sit back with a "Yep... it's okay." It reminds some of us that are run-run-run to stop and enjoy the little moments where something is just right or too perfect, even if it means just stopping and literally smelling a flower once in a while.
Karybu
Member # 20094
posted 08-24-2011 08:43 PM
This thread is so fantastic! And, uh, I could use a compliment. (Are volunteers allowed to ask?)
georgiexx
Member # 51769
posted 08-31-2011 05:27 PM
....i feel silly asking, but could i have a compliment? not sure if anyone even has read my posts
eryn_smiles
Member # 35643
posted 09-02-2011 08:14 AM
Karyn: From seeing you on the boards as a volunteer, I think you are very caring and patient in how you interact with people. It's lovely how you share parts of your experience that people can relate to, so they don't feel alone. As well, I think (?) you do sex education as your day-job which is something I really admire. Most of us wouldn't have the urge or ability/talent to do this well, although it is such important work which changes peoples' lives. georgiexx: You sound like a sensitive and sweet person who really cares about your Mum. But you are also very strong and doing a great job of dealing positively with more than your fair share of recent tough challenges. Do hang in there and take care of yourself, ok?
moonlight bouncing off water
Member # 44338
posted 09-03-2011 07:38 AM
To EVERYONE on Scarleteen: You are all awesome! The community here is fantastic, I feel comfortable sharing some of my most intimate thoughts with a group of people I've never met in person. I know that no one is going to make fun or be rude (or on the off chance that they do, they're going to receive allot of flak for it) and that my questions are going to be answered with accuracy and plenty of information. You all rock!
skiesofgreen
Member # 46170
posted 10-18-2011 02:03 PM
You know, I think I could use a compliment. =)
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 10-18-2011 06:21 PM
Skies: Having seen you around the boards, I can tell you're a very strong willed person. You continue to work through problems and hardships with a high head and I've seen you helping others around the site find information - so obviously thoughtful and caring about others.
WesLuck
Member # 56822
posted 12-13-2011 08:33 AM
I don't need a compliment, but I wouldn't mind one. <grin>
loneranger
Member # 78998
posted 12-13-2011 09:22 AM
i feel extremely silly to be asking for a compliment, but i guess i could really use one today.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 12-24-2011 11:40 AM
loneranger: that's easy! (And sorry for the wait!) You're clearly more fearless than you think you are. You're also obviously pretty amazing at following your heart and being true to it, even when you feel scared. I thin that's a really amazing quality. WesLuck: it's been great having you here at the boards! I really value how supportive you are of people and how thoughtful you are. I also really like the way you move discussions forward and are clearly a big thinker. Your sense of fairness -- your expectations of people to be their best in that respect -- also is really awesome.
Shahla
Member # 58955
posted 12-24-2011 02:31 PM
Since this is my first post here apart from my own queries, i would like, instead of ask, to GIVE a huge combined compliment to all the Scarleteen volunteers for being so amazing and patient and always there And a specific compliment to Heather for all the good work over the years. I admire you so much!
thumb tack
Member # 60502
posted 12-24-2011 06:07 PM
ditto Shahla!
WesLuck
Member # 56822
posted 12-25-2011 09:43 AM
Can't go past that! I agree. Oh, and Merry Christmas to all (just under 20 minutes to go here), and happy Boxing Day (26 December in Australia) for those who have already ticked past midnight.
loneranger
Member # 78998
posted 12-25-2011 10:43 AM
thanku Heather... that was a wonderful christmas gift for me
naplement
Member # 46362
posted 01-08-2012 03:37 PM
hi... if anyone remembers me, I'd like to do some fishing, too. If not, there's no problem, I have changed my ID no that a long time ago. Also, checking what I have written under this name, I have re-read a post where I have tried to explain what an other user might have been thinking using mainstream concepts about attractions and gender, and ended up hurting others because I didn't clarify that it was meant to be just a translaton, so sorry again.
Seashy Rae
Member # 49582
posted 01-09-2012 07:02 AM
naplement; I remember you! I wouldn't worry about that other thread; it's so easy to be misunderstood on the internet - it happens to all of us. I really think you're a person that will do and already does a huge amount of good in the world. You're extremely aware of the gender role culture puts on us around sex, and you raise awareness to get those harmful ideas broken down. Keep fighting the good fight! You also go out of your way to support posters here and are often standing up for those in tough spot. You're a fantastic person to have on one's side! You write beautifully to people in your support even though English isn't your first language. It's lovely to have you round here! [ 01-09-2012, 07:05 AM: Message edited by: Seashy Rae ]
naplement
Member # 46362
posted 01-11-2012 04:38 AM
thanks!
SansNom
Member # 91788
posted 02-14-2012 01:53 PM
I love this thread and I think that it is an excellent idea To Eryn: Jill's compliment to you is worded so beautifully. I don't think I can beat that but I will try anyway. Eryn, I think that you have an incredible, innate, caring sensitivity towards others. From what I'd seen, you always lend a hand to those (including me) who have undergone tough issues and are in need of comfort. To me, this is a deeply admirable quality that I've seen in only a few, of all the people I've met and interacted with. I really appreciate you being there for me when I was in emotional turmoil. When I feel alone, a caring word is all that matters. I love your ability to understand such unspoken needs. To Moonlight: From what I had read in your post regarding your essay, you seem like someone who's extremely brave, intelligent, and perceptive. It can be really difficult to examine the misconceptions that many people cling to due to their hostility, unreceptiveness, ignorance, and unwillingness to change. Yet, despite that, you're challenging those beliefs anyway. As I have said before, you're an inspiration. To Jill: As Eryn stated, I believe that you are very strong in personality. One of the qualities that I most admire about you is your fearless honesty and unhesitant determination to challenge commonly held stereotypes. Your posts encourage me to think outside the box, and to not succumb to what other people want and expect of me. Thank you for being you. I am quite new to this site, but once I have gotten better acquainted, I am sure that I will have more than compliments enough for everyone, as Scarleteen is indeed awesome.