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Member # 36725
posted 11-14-2012 07:59 PM
So, we've been getting questions in text a LOT lately about how to show someone you like them. So, why not offer a helping hand to other users on what's worked for you in the past?
You have a crush on someone ... how do *you* show them how you feel?
Member # 95598
posted 11-14-2012 08:55 PM
I should preface this by saying that I'm in college and I'm very straightforward, so that's colored my experience a little bit, but I'll try and say a few things that seem to have worked throughout time.
First, I try to be nice to them. Strangely, the stereotypical schoolyard concept of "I don't like you therefore I'm going to tease you" doesn't seem to work... (And believe me, I've seen it tried!) I also try to see if I have common interests with them, and play to those if possible, especially if it means spending more time with them and getting to know them a little more as a person. I also make note of things I'd never known about them before (though not to the point where I have to follow them around to realize--I just naturally pay more attention) and try to bring those up naturally in a conversation. I tend to be a bit more physically affectionate, as well, but only if the person is receptive to it. This usually just takes the form of longer hugs and resting my head against their shoulder--nothing more than that. Lastly, I will, after a while, just outright say "I like you". But, of course, I do this at a time and place when privacy is assured so that whatever goes down stays between the two of us if need be.
Member # 2297
posted 11-14-2012 11:25 PM
In my experience, the best way is to tell them "I like you" but it takes a bit of courage to do that. I seem to have gotten better at it as I've gotten older though.
Subtle things I do though include wearing outfits that make me feel sexy or offering to pay for meals/drinks or buying smallish gifts (usually books) I want them to read. Great topic! Marion
Jacob at Scarleteen
Member # 66249
posted 11-15-2012 05:34 AM
I've balanced my ineptitude at outright telling someone I like them with realising that a lot of that nervousness can actually be about incompatibility. For me, good communication/sex/a-relationship is just easier/better with certain people.
So focusing on letting them know that I like them is maybe just one part of finding out for myself if I'd like 'us' as much as I think I do. I think that approach really often leads to having fun with someone, them feeling that I'm interesting in knowing more about who they are. And it can move pretty quickly from there if they feel the same way. [ 11-15-2012, 05:37 AM: Message edited by: Jacob at Scarleteen ]
Member # 36725
posted 11-17-2012 07:31 PM
I can't help but say that I totally remember passing the "do you like me? Check yes or no" for a couple of friends over the years. I was always more of the,"I think you're awesome, maybe we should hang. I like coffee, do you like coffee? Great lets do coffee sometime!