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Post A Reply Login Name: Password: Message Icon:                                                                       Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. [QUOTE]Originally posted by nighteyesv: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by BustaEve: [qb]I think it's time I end the association, although I'm slightly concerned that if I do I may regret it later[/qb][/QUOTE] [QUOTE]Originally posted by BustaEve: [qb]I guess part of me doesn't want to come across as the stereotypical (as imposed by the patriarchal system) female who's emotional etc. But I guess I'll have to say something to that effect. [/qb][/QUOTE]You really don't have to come across as the stereotypical "emotional female" nor does it have to be something you'll regret later. Wanting a serious relationship doesn't make you an "emotional female". If you don't want to come across as an emotional female then instead of saying "Hey [name], I'm in a really emotional place right now and want a romantic relationship so I'm going to have to end our arrangement" say something like this instead "Hey [name], I've had a lot of fun with you but after giving it a great deal of thought I've decided that it is time to look for something serious. Thanks for the good times. If I later decide I want a casual arrangement again you'll be the first I ask." Basically, focus on describing what you've been thinking and not what you've been feeling if you don't want to sound like an "emotional female". By telling him he'll be the first you ask if you want something casual again you leave yourself the opportunity to start up the arrangement again if you later start to regret ending things. If you do change your mind later he probably would only refuse if he was no longer single. [/QB][/QUOTE]

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