T O P I C R E V I E W
Member # 54253
posted 09-03-2012 05:45 PM
Hello everyone, I'm back (again)
. I was at my ex-friends-with-benefits' new house today so her family could see our new puppy. While her mom, her grandma, and my own mom were outside talking, she got really over-bearing at even the slightest word or mumble. She even judged me on my change in appearance over the past two years or so we've been apart. Then, when she said she wanted to ride bikes with me starting at my own home, we had a little conversation - and what she said really cut me deep. Like: "we never dated", "that never happened", (and this was when I was mentioning her taking my virginity ~2 years ago) and "that doesn't mean anything". I then decided that this was the last straw and that I was moving on - there's no chance of ever rekindling this relationship ever again. We'll just be distant friends. And now I'm torn apart, emotionally. I'll have to take Lacey to homecoming, I'll probably never find that special someone for a long while (not even to go to prom with!), and I'll have to spend my high school/college years in the "friend zone", a loner, and/or having to live with a bunch of stupid bachelors for life I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO! She's taken it all, ALL i tell you -jbf
Member # 3
posted 09-03-2012 05:50 PM
Hey, justin: I've been wondering how you might be doing lately.
(And as one person with a new puppy to another, fistbump in solidarity, including with the total lack of sleep it tends to require.) I know it's hard not to do this sometimes, but projecting a never-ever-never, or some such, onto one situation, or just a few months or years in life is really something you want to avoid doing. One, because it's usually totally unrealistic, but even more so, two, because it will make you way more miserable than you already feel. You don't have to take anyone to homecoming. Nor this one girl (who probably wouldn't want you to take her anyway if you only would because you "have to," or feel she's your only option. I mean, jeez, talk about what sounds like a night from hell for that girl.) One person, this ex-FWB was insensitive and crummy with you. That doesn't mean that every other person will treat you this way. And she hasn't "taken it all." What is "it all?" Did she steal your soul? I get you're feeling like crud, and I certainly get why, but I think talking about this after seriously dialing down the drama would probably go a lot better, don't you?