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Post A Reply Login Name: Password: Message Icon:                                                                       Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. [QUOTE]Originally posted by Onionpie: [QB] Hi LookingForHerPeterPan, welcome to scarleteen! It's definitely not wrong of you to feel that you want a back up method of contraception. I'd say that's a very GOOD feeling to be having :) It means that you are considering risks and consequences and want to protect yourself against any negative outcomes as best as you can -- that's a very responsible and smart thing to do, so good on you :D I think you're right that backing up your pill with condoms is a good idea, especially if you forget to take your pill sometimes -- if you take 2 or 3 pills late in a cycle, it is strongly suggested that you use a back up method because the pill's effectiveness is severely compromised. And even when you take your pill perfectly, adding condoms into the mix ups your protection even more :) Condoms are also especially good to use paired with the pill because they protect against STIs while the pill doesn't. Even if you feel like you don't have a risk of STIs, it's always important to be protected against them, and you can't know for sure that someone doesn't have an STI until you both get tested. Is your boyfriend aware of all of this? If he isn't, it's important that he educate himself on the benefits of condoms. Here are a couple of articles from our main site that have lots of information on the importance of condoms as well as the proper use (even if you guys think you know how to use them properly, you might be surprised! A lot of people actually don't!) [b][URL=http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/love_the_glove_10_reasons_to_use_condoms_you_might_not_have_heard_yet]Love the Glove[/URL][/b] [b][URL=http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/condom_basics_a_users_manual]Condom Basics: A User's Manual[/URL][/b] [b][URL=http://www.scarleteen.com/birth_control_bingo_condoms]Condoms[/URL][/b] If, after he has all the info he needs on condoms, you guys talk about using condoms again and he still refuses to use them, then comes the hard part. You have to decide for yourself whether protecting your sexual health is a dealbreaker for you. Do you feel that you would feel comfortable with sex (emotionally/mentally, in regards to risks of pregnancy and STIs) without using condoms? Or do you think that participating in sex without condoms would make you worried and open you up to risks to your health that you are not willing to take? If it is a serious concern for you, I would definitely not suggest just "forgetting about it" and going without condoms. It is absolutely fine, and in fact GOOD, to have dealbreakers, especially around what you are willing to risk in terms of your health. So if you feel that you are not willing to risk your sexual health to have sex with your boyfriend, that is a decision you are allowed to make. You do not have to have sex with him. I know that that is a hard thing to think about, but an important part of one's sexual life is the ability to make decisions about with whom we participate in sexual activities. Feel free to come back after your conversation with your boyfriend for any more advice or information, or if anything I have said doesn't make sense or is confusing for you, definitely feel free to ask for clarification :) [/QB][/QUOTE]

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