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Member # 50853
posted 04-12-2011 01:47 AM
I started talking to this guy about 3 weeks ago..i'm not going to lie, everthing moved really fast. We started out talking online and exchanged numbers, although i already knew of him just from seeing him around campus and hearing his name. The first three days on texting it was obviouse that there was an immediate connection between us. He's not like any of the guys that i usually go for(which is the bad boy type)..he's a genuine good guy(well atleast i thought he was). Well anyway in the beginning he constantly stressed to me that it was not about sex and that we didnt have to do anything or even talk about it until later. We spent the night with each other about 2 times in the first week with out having sex, by the thrid night he insisted that we should get it out of way. Of course i was hesitant because sex usually changes things, and could also result in him LEAVING me.But against my better judgement i said yes and we did it.
For the last couple of weeks since then everything has been GREAT, he even said "I love you". I haven't been this infatuated with a boy, or opened my heart of up to a boy since my ex-boyfriend who i was with for 2 years.things couldnt have been better.... Up until about 3 days ago..He and I were doing our normal flirting on twitter..going back and forth saying cute things to each other. I dont know what i was thinking but in the middle of that i sent a tweet that said "one of my followers is so cute..all i can do it stare when i see him".and when he saw this he FLIPPED.he told me he was done with me, he told me never to talk to him again..i texted him begging and pleading with him not to do this to me.And he just didnt care he told me it was over.So i left him alone until the next day, he went on twitter and pretty much called me a "groupie"or a "slut" in so many words..so we had another arguement and i just told him to leave me alone altogether..i told him to delete my number and i would do the same.. This is my problem with the situation..i feel like things were going SO good and i have made it SO clear about how i feel about him and where i wanted us to go.Why would did he pick such a SMALL issue to fight over?i mean we were NOT "official"..why would something so small bother him. So im kind of starting to feel like he used that situation as a catalyst to start a fight so that he could stop talking to me.Idk if there's another girl, or if he's trying to sabotage the relationship.I just know the whole thing REALLY hurt me ive cried, and i cant stop thinking about him.I've just been all around depressed.Im so tired of trusting guys when they say they care, but have no problem leaving me in the dust. Im just SO hurt i dont know what to do..i havent felt this way in along time..the first guy i open up to in a long time and he does this...=( and now at this point im starting to feel angry..and if i see him i will most likley kick him in his balls. How do i get over this because i feel like i never i will?
Member # 3
posted 04-12-2011 01:12 PM
I understand you're hurt and angry, but let's not talk about doing anyone violence here or doing violence to people's genitals, okay?
The biggest thing I hear in your post with this is that you got AWFULLY attached to a brand new dating relationship, and it sounds like this isn't unusual for you. I'm not sure I understand why you put so must trust in someone when you only just were getting to know them: do you feel like you know that? You say, I think, you didn't want to have sex with him when you did but were worried if you didn't he'd leave. Do you have any sense of why you felt so intense about that happening with someone you were only JUST getting something possibly started with? Or, why you thought about this as leaving when really, with a dating relationship this new, no one has yet committed to stick around? Mind, I'm not asking the things I am because I think this guy behaved wonderfully, because it sounds like some odd stuff might have been going on with him, too, and he ended this in what sounds like a really insensitive, awful and crappy way.