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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by Destinee Carols: [QB] Hey. :) I'm bringing this up because I just saw a post about a topic that reminded me of this... I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over three months now. It's been great...relationship-wise. Bit of background. He's not got a great relationship with his stepdad - typical parent stuff, nagging, feeling inadequate, etc, etc. Nothing new. I'm the same with my mother. About two months into our relationship, he had a bad day and ended up sitting in his car and crying for two hours, issues with his stepdad, not having a job, getting fired. I sat on the phone with him for an hour because I couldn't go see him. At the end of that he told me his aunt said there was a job offer...in Alberta. Something he would seriously consider, but then he said that there was no question of going if I was not going to be with him. He would rather tolerate his stepdad (and tbh, his stepdad isn't a bad person - he cares, but there are always those parents who just get on your nerves, criticize a lot, so just for perspective, he's not an evil man or whatever) than leave me. We entertained that topic a little bit even though both of us knew it wasn't feasible for me. The topic's cropped up in our minds on occasion since then, but never seriously again. The issue is this: I mentioned this to my roommate and she said it raised a red flag- particularly the "rather tolerate stepdad than leave you" part. She said that to her, so early in a relationship, he shouldn't be so clingy. I worried about this briefly but for the most part ended up putting it out of my mind, because overall in our everyday interactions, I seem to be the needier person (ick) out of the two of us. Basically, my question is this...was my roommate's concern valid? Is it even something to be classified as being needy and clingy? He's 20. I'm 19. He needs a job. But he's on the search around here. It isn't as though it was a take-this-job-or-live-on-the-streets situation. Maybe it was more like 1.5 months than 2... I'm not super concerned over this, just curious... [/QB][/QUOTE]

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