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Member # 42926
posted 07-11-2010 01:41 AM
I'm really hoping this is an okay topic for this area of the board... if not, feel free to delete it.
As a 17 year old girl, I obviously have a curfew. After countless fights with my parents about it, it had me wondering... What is the "norm" for a curfew? Do/did you have a curfew? If so, was it strictly enforced, or could you be a few minutes late? Was it different during the summer or on weekends? What was the reasoning behind your parents' choice for that time? Did you argue with them about it, or were you fine with it? Did you ever break it? My curfew is dark, generally between 9 and 9:30 p.m. It is very strictly enforced, and it doesn't change in the summer or on weekends. Occasionally I can stay out until 11, but only for special occasions. Despite being almost a legal adult, I respect my parents' decision on this... no matter how frustrating it is.
Member # 37835
posted 07-11-2010 08:31 AM
In my experience, curfew norms depend greatly on cultural background, socioeconomic status, age, where you live, birth order, having a car, and a whole host of other things. So much so that it's hard to call any of them a "norm."
Still, I feel into the category that many of my friends were in when we were teens (for the record, everyone was middle to upper class teens in a a couple of very safe suburban towns). I didn't have a curfew, rather I'd just discuss when I thought I'd be home and my parents would specify a particular time if they thought it was necessary for whatever reason. Because there wasn't much to do in my town after about 10pm for those under 21, if I was ever "out" late, I was at a friends house and I would generally just sleep over. The main negotiation about things would be if I made plans to go into the major city, since my mom thought that public transportation gets iffy after dark (I flatly refused to drive into the city, even during the day. It's difficult, and I wasn't going to pay $20 to park. Some cities are fine for driving, but not the one my parents live by. Plus, plenty of people take it at night all the time, because they don't have the option not to). I was pretty responsible and my parents trusted me--I appreciated that. I'd call if plans changed, or when I was on my way home. Honestly, when I'm home now, it's actually more complicated. Because I live far away from my parents, I always fly home and don't have my car when I'm there. Because there's more car juggling, I tell my parents more about my plans now that I'm in my early twenties than I did when I was in my late teens.