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Member # 44482
posted 10-26-2009 03:31 PM
To jump right in, I met this girl at a summer camp, who is totally amazing, and I have had a massive crush on her ever since. Unfortunately we didn't really meet until the last 2-3 days out of more than 2 weeks at the camp, but we've spent a lot of time talking since then, and become really good friends.
I'd really like to pursue my feelings for her, but the fact that I've only ever had one other crush on someone before, let alone a relationship, and that I live 9-10 hours away by bus or car, really don't help things. On the up side, I'll probably have 2-3 chances to meet her again in the next 12 months (she lives right near where I used to live 5 years ago, doh. But I go there yearly or bi-yearly to visit friends, and then there's summer camp next year). And she isn't in a relationship. Final pertinent information would be that I'm 18 and she is 16, the age difference is 1.5 years, nearly exactly I think... Any advice, personal experiences, or encouragement would be welcome. PS. We both live in the same state. [ 10-26-2009, 03:32 PM: Message edited by: AnonymousBob ]
Member # 3
posted 10-26-2009 04:32 PM
Well, how do YOU feel about a long-distance relationship? How about her?
Member # 44482
posted 10-26-2009 04:41 PM
I really don't mind the idea of a long distance relationship, although it's obviously not preferable to the same relationship over a short distance.
I don't know what she thinks about LDR's. To clarify, she has no idea as of yet that I have a huge crush on her, as far as I know, I can be pretty unintentionally obvious at times.
Member # 3
posted 10-26-2009 04:51 PM
Just for the record, we can't really say what kind of relationship is "obviously" more or less preferable. For some people, with some relationships, or at some times, an LDR very well may be preferable to something daily or more frequently in-person.
It sounds to me, though, like you might not even be at this point yet. In other words, it's putting the cart a bit before the horse to consider what kind of romantic relationship you might want with someone if you don't know yet if they even have those feelings for you.
Member # 33078
posted 11-02-2009 04:09 AM
Speaking from my own personal experiences, it might not be such a great idea. I was in one in High school, and we almost never got to meet, even at semi-special occasions. Things kept coming up, the distance meant anything would have to be more than just a few hours, ruling out most weekends (School), and vacations didn't really overlap. It was my first relationship, and while we talked a lot on the phone and IM, it simply did not work out well.
I am something of a worse case situation though. We started out long distance, and stayed that way. On the flip side of the coin, my best friend is currently in a LDR, and having a blast. The differences is they are both in college, they were dating for a year before they separated, and they stay for the weekend at least when they visit each other. If either of you "need" the other to be around, to see/feel/touch, then it most likely won't work out too well. I wish you the best of luck with your lady friend ^_^