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Member # 43029
posted 07-15-2009 04:33 AM
ok...well, i have posted b4 about this other guy anthony....but we broke up. my ex had called me the other day and apologized for everything and he wanted to get back together...so did i so i broke up with anthony and got back together with eric...well eric just turned 16 and i will be 14 next month. we have dated before, but no onw knew even our parents and friends...do you think it would be a good idea to tell people or not? we go to church together and we are worried what everyone will think if it is ok "according to the Bible" or not....what should we do?
Member # 37835
posted 07-15-2009 06:10 AM
It's rarely ever a good idea to hide a relationship from your friends in family, so I do strongly encourage you to tell them. Maybe, when you tell your parents, ask if he can come over for a family dinner to meet them. And when you mention him to your friends, you can suggest you all hang out together.
I'm not sure how your friends and family will react, but being upfront and encouraging them to get to know him will likely help them feel more okay with the relationship. You should also keep in mind that, depending on the state your in, sexual activity between the two of you might be illegal, and he might be considered responsible, given that he's older. But, there's certainly nothing against you dating or being friends.
Member # 43029
posted 07-16-2009 12:46 AM
ok. and i dont plan on any sexuakl activity....yet...its just too soon. but i really care about him and i dont know what my parents will think...and my friends might think he is too old for me...
Member # 35890
posted 07-16-2009 10:18 PM
Two or three years can be a significant age gap for dating when we're young as opposed to when we are older. Even when we're young, it doesn't have to be a big deal as long as you keep your state law in mind, as atm1 said.
I agree with atm1 in that you should probably let your family and friends know what's going on-- there's certainly no harm in it, and you would not have to feel as though you were keeping a secret. And frankly, I am not Christian but I don't know of anything in the text that condemns people from dating if they had a few years age difference, (someone correct me if I am wrong.) I know there can be problems concerning sexual activity before marriage, but you haven't indicated that you are interested in that at this time anyway. As long as you can have an honest, healthy relationship with Eric and can be frank with your parents and friends, I doubt this will become a huge issue despite a couple year's age difference. Let us know if we can help you more.
Member # 43029
posted 07-17-2009 03:35 AM
ok. thanks so much!
Member # 43709
posted 08-17-2009 11:56 PM
Me and my boyfriend started dating when I was 14 and he was 17. I'm 17 now and we've been very happy this whole time. There are times when I feel that he's even less mature than myself, even with the age gap. I don't think your physical age really affects a relationship all that much anyway. Although, the legal things are good to keep in mind. If you ever do decide to have sex, you should look into states' laws about that, if that's a matter of importance.