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Member # 28427
posted 05-22-2008 12:17 AM
When I was in elementary school, me and brother each inherited $5000. A few weeks/months (cant quite remember) passed by and then my father came in and asked us both if he could borrow our money. I was in elementary, so of course I had no need for it and thought nothing of it So i said okay. At this point I thought my mother knew about this.
In junior high I wanted to go on a school trip to Europe and it costed a few thousand dollars, but my mother said that we didnt have the money and so i said that I could use the money I got from Grandma and she looked sort of weird and asked about it like she had no idea what I was talking about. That should have been my first hint. (I didnt end up going) Then in high school I wanted to go with the school to Europe and again I got the same response, and again I said I could use my inherited money. She still looked stunned and asked about it, so I told her again about how my brother and I both inherited it, and how he spend his on the car our parents were selling; that was why the car was now his. Thats when i started wondering if my dad had ever told her. (Again I didnt go) Now I am graduating and am going to start Uni soo, and the money would be so helpfull, the problem is... A few months ago we found out we were in debt that my father was hiding, and it is very significant. Now my mother is trying to pay it all back, and I feel guilty asking if I could have the money back because I know she dosent have it, and wont for a few years. But, it is my money. Am I wrong for wanting it back? And I've also been thinking latley about how much interest I could have gotten; by now it would have been a few hundred, if not thousands by now. Some people on other sites have said that some of the money was proabaly spent on me in some way, but then in my opinion also on my brother. So since he got a car and 'go out early' he dosent have to lose his money and then also gets part of mine? Somehow it dosent seem right, or maybe I'm just being stuckup. BTW, my dad didnt work while we were in school, so thats been 12+ years. My mothers job payed for every and she has an incredible salary, which if the finances were delt with properly, we never should have gotten in debt. To this day she/we still dont know what it was he spent it on. So how do I ask for it back? Shoud I even?
Member # 139
posted 05-22-2008 09:11 PM
My opinion? Yes, you're entitled to your money, but at the same time, you know that your parents aren't in any position to pay you right now.
I'd say talk to them, and work something out for the future, with an intent to pay you back. But be reasonable. Your parents HAVE raised you, and I'm sure have done a lot for you. Be flexible, and ask yourself what you'd want them to do if the tables were flipped. How would you want to be approached if YOU owed someone $5k?