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Member # 31269
posted 05-20-2008 12:40 PM
Well its been a long time since Ive posted anything on here, but i guess everything has been ok for me for a change.Yet all good things must come to an end.
I am in a predicament but first I'll give some background info Well ive been on here before ranting about my ex but I can finally say i am over her.Only took me 4 months but its over now and now i have my eye on someone else. I have liked this girl for ages. Even before i started going with my ex i liked her but it died down as i was with someone else, but it has came back. Big time. But when i was at a party i ended up making out with this other girl and a few days later we ended up going out. But it ended in disaster as i couldnt shake off my feelings for the the girl i liked. So i ended it to chase after her. Now i am a very open person and i admitted it to her that i like her and to my suprise she also said that she does too. We are pretty close and i was worried that telling her this would sever our friendship, but thank god it didnt. Anyway, after a while I hinted about going with her but in all honesty it wouldnt hav worked at the time as I was up to my eyeballs in exam revision etc So we decided to bring the subject back up in the summer. Everything was great. Then she broke the news to me a week or so ago that her best friend likes me Nothing against the girl but i have my heart set on the girl who i like who for names sake i'll call Nikki. And the girl who likes me Amy. Now after this I felt crushed, still do. Nikki says she still likes me but now i feel that i wont ever be with her because her best friend likes me. Should I give up or continue on. I have my heart set on her Any advice ?
Member # 33665
posted 05-20-2008 02:39 PM
Just because her friend likes you doesn't mean that you are suddenly forced to like her back or go out with her. Think about it. If movie stars had to go out with every person who liked them, well, they'd be pretty busy (though I'd be pretty happy; I've had the hots for John Cusack for the longest time
). Feelings have to be mutual, or there's just nothing there. Have you tried explaining to Nikki that you only like her and not her friend? You can even say you are okay with being friends with Amy, but that your feelings don't extend beyond friendship with her.
Member # 31269
posted 05-20-2008 03:49 PM
Thanks for the reply orca
Yeah I have tried to explain to her after one night she was convinced i liked Amy. But i managed to let her know it was only her I liked. But i feel theres not much hope as shes not willing to go with me unless Amy stops liking me but i understand someone cant just stop liking you. Its a difficult situation. I have no idea what to do.