T O P I C R E V I E W
Member # 37215
posted 02-25-2008 04:52 PM
Hello, I'm sorry first of all, if i'm doing something by posting here exactly...but I'm not sure where else. =\
Um, to start...this all began when I first met this one guy last year. We shared the same interests, and would easily carry out conversations, etc. To me, I knew him like as if he were my soul mate and as a very dear friend. Ironically however, he knew and was an ex-boyfriend of this one girl whom I've known since middle school. Now, really I was never a friend of hers...but was always just a mere aquaintence. She has gone out with almost every guys I've known before as well, including guys that my friends have "liked." [Just to make things short] 'Randomly,' this girl decided to really talk to me and become "friends," and my guy friend became her boyfriend again. I personally just didn't find anything wrong with this, except for the awkward spotlights they'd put me into sometimes. However, I merely just shrugged it off, and kept wishing them well. My guy friend however, during their relationship, would do weird things, such as always say things like, "I really care about you",or would constantly hug me whenever we were alone. Confused at first, I thought maybe it was normal, and just a phase or something. Later,he admitted that he loved me now, and did in the past. Stupidly, I admitted my feelings for him, but said, "it's all in the past", and how we're just the best of friends now, hoping this would clear things up. ..... I felt horrible afterwards instead, because he kept treating me as if i were more than just a friend. By now I've done something about this, but I still wonder...was I just overreacting and thinking this over too much? [ 02-25-2008, 04:54 PM: Message edited by: RedSharpie ]
Member # 139
posted 02-25-2008 08:15 PM
I think what he did was rather mean, in reality. I don't think you're overreacting. You cared for this guy, he led you to believe he did as well...and here you are, and he's with her.
Though, to your benefit, I'd be cautious dating a guy who'd be leading other girls on when I'm not around. I'd count yourself lucky in that regard. In the meantime, perhaps it's best if you lessen the amount of time you spend with these two, since I don't see a lot of positive memories for you. If you want to keep them as friends still, that's cool--but keep him at arms length if you can.