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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by faifai: [QB] [QUOTE]Originally posted by selina: [qb] i'm confused. most indian women are curvy and in india, the sign of a healthy person is on how much weight they have on them. i really don't understand [/qb][/QUOTE]However, in much of Asia and the Middle East as well, the beauty "ideal" is being "fair" and petite (even with curves, it's still [i]ideal[/i] to be on the small side). Not saying that everyone buys into this, but many do. :( [QUOTE]Originally posted by allyice11: [qb] Well we had a chat today. It's kind of complicated why he wants me to lose weight. His family is of an Indian background and they believe all females should be stick thin. I just found out today that his mother was trying to pressure him into dumping me because I'm bigger than him, so he had a fight with her and told her he didn't want to. He just wants me to lose a bit of weight to get them all to back off.. which I know is still kind of dumb cuz he should be thinking for himself, but I know how important family is to him. And he told me he only wanted me to lose 2kg a month, which I don't think sounds too unreasonable...[/qb][/QUOTE]Honestly, this is a bunch of BS. You're sacrificing your dignity and losing weight to do...what? Appease his family? Family is important, but can you imagine what a nightmare this would turn into if you were to get even more serious in the future? Would his mother be allowed to tell you to lose the weight ASAP after you have a kid? Or dye your hair because you don't fit her ideal for her son's partner? They may have their son's best interests at heart, but he has no right to ask you to do such a thing. They don't get to tell you how to look, and it's pretty unsettling that he's buying into what they're saying. [/QB][/QUOTE]

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