"This is maturity: To be able to stick with a job until it's finished; to do one's duty without being supervised; to be able to carry money without spending it; and to be able to bear an injustice without wanting to get even." Dear Abby, aka Pauline Phillips
i found this quote a few days ago in her column and saved it. i thought it might inspire you a little.
You can help coach your boyfriend along. if he genuinely has a goal, you can encourage him to get there. just don't step over the line and push him into anything he's not into.
take things stepwise. the way i see your post, here are the things he needs to do to improve his prospects:
1. learn to manage money.
2. finish his diploma
3. work more hours -- if this means getting a different job, so be it.
4. once his diploma is done, start junior college
starting with 1. it's nice to get gifts, but suggest other ways of showing affection, like having him cook for you, or taking you on walks. these things are free. with the money he saves, encourage him to put it into the bank. thank him for gifts, but let him know you want him to use his money wisely.
then with 2, suggest he take the GED so he can get his diploma. help him study. make sure he sets a schedule o take the test so he doesn't back out of it. that is, make sure if he's SERIOUS about finishing school.
then there's 3. if you're 22, there's no good reason you shouldn't be doing something full time, whether working or studying. he's old enough to be a productive member of society. if he's bored of his job, and if it's a dead end, suggest something more in line with what he wants to do.
lastly, onceh e finshes his GED, help him enroll into JC. help him with financial aid, and help him pick classes. study with him. make sure he's comfortable with his studies.
one more thing, you've only been going out 2 months. that's not a long time. it's good to ecourage people towards betterment. i do it all the time. in fact, i iwas thinknig i could make a pretty good life coach. but don't burden yourself with grooming him for YOUR future. chill out with that and give oyur relationship time to grow. and be careful not to prod him so mch that he feelsl ike he can't be himself, or worse yet, that he's not good enough for you. walk a fine line and be careful not to tread on his feelings.
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