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Member # 23782
posted 06-07-2005 02:12 PM
Hey this is for all the ladies... but guys can answer to..i have noticed that when you play hard to get a guy wants you more...is that true? and if so how can you play hard to get but still let the guy know that your interested, and that you like him at the same time? I liked this guy and he liked me but i think that i made it easy for him to get me so he lost interest really fast...how can i fix that?
Member # 23120
posted 06-07-2005 07:58 PM
I think to a certain point, playing hard to get does work. Taking something off the table makes you more comfortable with it and therefore more open to the idea.
I'm not a big advocate for playing hard to get when it comes to relationships. I advocate keeping the lines of communications open. Don't play games. However, once you're in the relationship, the whole game of cat and mouse can be fun.
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Member # 23517
posted 06-07-2005 11:21 PM
If he likes you and you like him, whats the point in playing hard to get?
I mean if you keep playing hard to get, he might eventually get sick of the games, or this you arent interested in him, and end up giving up on you, and you dont wanna risk that, right?
I would say if you 2 have mutual feelings, just express it to one another, and see what happens from there.
Member # 568
posted 06-08-2005 02:14 AM
You know, a good relationship is highly dependent on good communication.
Silly mind games are not good communication.
Sure, some folks like the "thrill of the hunt," but in the end, if you're able to say what you want crystal clearly, then you're gonna run into problems.
A LOT of folks like clear messages and don't pick up on subtlety very well. nor do they want to figure out the subtlety.
so what's the fun part, in your opinion? Do you like being chased. Do you like pursuit? Or do you like to get into the real core of the relationship, and the relating and stuff?
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