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Member # 20094
posted 09-25-2004 04:26 PM
I'm not sure exactly how to phrase this question so that it'll make sense...it doesn't even really make sense to me (and I've given it a lot of thought). The thing is, for the last few days, for no reason at all, I've felt like I should break up with my boyfriend. There's nothing wrong in our relationship, we love each other, get along great, etc. I feel like I'm going crazy!
I have been a little bit depressed lately (and have been treated for depression in the past)...school started a few weeks ago and I'm feeling kind of overwhelmed; also we don't get to see each other now that we're both in class and doing homework a lot of the time.
I guess the main problem is he can tell that something's wrong, but I don't know how to explain it to him so that it'll make sense...like I said, I have no idea why I'm feeling this way! Help!
Member # 15584
posted 09-25-2004 07:08 PM
well, if u can't say what is wrong, then why don't you write it. i personally think that writing things is so much easier than trying to say them. hope i helped some.
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Member # 19806
posted 09-26-2004 08:33 AM
I've been through the same thing before. It happened at kind of a boring (lack of a better word) part of our relationship. It was like everything was routine, and it crossed my mind a couple times to break up with him. I can't remember my exact reasoning, but about a week later, he did something really sweet and funny, and I just forgot about wanting to break up with him.
I guess when everything gets a little routine people start to crave change. That might be why your feeling that way, or it might be something completely different. It's hard to say being an outsider. But that's my experience. Hope it helped.
Member # 18235
posted 09-26-2004 10:27 AM
Telling him that you are feeling mixed-up right now could help, even if you can't define how you feel. You could also consider asking for a break in the relationship.
If you need some help sorting out your feelings, how about talking to a school counsellor, or even a trusted adult or friend?
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Member # 20094
posted 09-26-2004 12:34 PM
Thanks...appreciate all your advice, everybody! Very helpful!
Member # 20075
posted 09-26-2004 06:50 PM
I agree with the writing idea. Try doing that. I'm sure he'll understand. How long have you two been going out?
I don't know if this will encourage you or anything but I was once in your shoes with my boyfriend. We had just started going out & we wanted it to be a serious, long term relationship but all of a sudden school was just weighing me down & making me feel so hopeless. I tried explaining it to him & he understood, but I still felt terrible about everything. So, I told him that I wanted to just take a break from him for a while. I mean, I still called him & we still talked at school but I needed time to focus on school & get into my own personal schedule. It only lasted about 3 weeks before I had to be near him again, but I found that the little break really helped me out & made me prioritize my life a lot better. So, I suggest maybe trying something like that...I'm sure that if he's having the same stresses he'll understand your reasonings.
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