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Member # 15998
posted 07-23-2004 09:38 PM
Recently I started hanging out with this awesome guy who I've known forever, after he begged me for weeks to see him. So I hung out with him twice, and afterwards I realized how cool he was and that I was starting to have feelings for him. We made out a few times, and got a little more intimate, and I really thought he was diggin' me. Until I started notice that he wasn't returning my calls. I confronted him about his wacky behaviour, and he confirmed to my horror that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend. They have been broken up for over a year, and for some reason he's still "in love" with her. This hurts really bad, because I thought he actually liked me and we had something good going on. I basically told him off on AIM, and then about two days ago I called him and he didn't answer. I'm not sure what to do, because he hasn't called me, and I'm afraid to call him. I still have feelings for him, and I hate that he's still not over his ex.
Member # 17910
posted 07-23-2004 11:13 PM
DONT CALL HIM. If I were you I would just leave well enough alone and not talk to him. Maybe you could be friends but after he played you like that I wouldnt ever date him again. Otherwise he WILL keep using you and if you give in to him he's going to think that he can just have you on the side. DITCH THAT LOSER AND GO FIND SOMEONE WORTH YOUR TIME!!
Member # 2971
posted 07-24-2004 12:41 AM
Do you really think someone who will be intimate with you while they're still in love with their ex is worth your heartache?
I'm sure you can find someone who's more worthy of your time out there. You may still have feelings for him, but what makes you think if you got through to him, they he just won't step all over them?
In my opinion, it's time for you to move on from this guy.
Consciously Naive Erin Jane ~Scarleteen Advocate~
Member # 3
posted 07-24-2004 08:41 AM
Of course, he may have not KNOWN he still had feelings for his ex until unto the relationship: often, people try and move on so fast, they rebound and don't realize they have until it's been done.
Which isn't to say this is a good person for you to date: obviously, he's not.
But it is to say you may not have been "used," and his motives may have been minsguided and unaware, rather than sinister.
Member # 19240
posted 07-28-2004 05:31 AM
this is what happens when people get into relationships without intending to marry--they are invariably broken off painfully
Member # 16923
posted 07-28-2004 09:34 AM
Whoa, monotheism, isn't that a pretty extreme generalization? To say that every relationship that doesn't end in marriage breaks off painfully?
Member # 11569
posted 07-28-2004 10:43 AM
I would be willing to say that eventually, every relationship (including a marriage) will end painfully in some way: breakup or divorce, or death, or circumstance requiring separation.
Marriage is not a magical barrier that protects someone from heartbreak, nor should people view it as such; those who do are liable to be very disappointed.