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Member # 238
posted 08-13-2001 12:06 AM
A few months ago, I started hanging out with this great guy Aaron. Basically, I had a thing for his best friend so I was around him a lot. We got to know each other, and I gradually figured out that his best friend was a total jerk. Anyways, since then, Aaron and I have become really close. He is one of the most awesome guys I've ever known. He's thoughtful and caring, intelligent, fun, athletic...just about everything I consider important, he has. He's not perfect, of course, but his few flaws are easily forgiven. The problem is, he's a year younger and still just a senior in high school, while I'm going off for my freshman year in college. That means I'll be in Boston and he'll be in Dallas during the school year. I had already gotten my acceptance to college when we started the relationship, but I guess I didn't realize he'd turn out to be so special to me. Now I'm not sure what to do: try the long-distance thing, or stay close friends with him but date at college! I'm sure someone has posted something similar before, but I couldn't just search for "college" because I'd get too many other results, and it's different from a summer fling. Anyways, any advice or experiences with this kind of thing would be greatly appreciated =)
Member # 1679
posted 08-13-2001 12:21 AM
Sounds to me like you need to have a discussion with him about it. Relationships are about communication, and there are two people in this relationship. What does he want to do...stay together, or date around? His opinion is just as valid as yours is in the situation. Definately time to talk to him about it.
"Not everything in this magical world is quite what it seems"
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Member # 4675
posted 08-13-2001 12:27 AM
Im in the same problem!
Im off to school in about 9 days! Eek!
Well I will be about an hr away from my bf. I was very very scared at first about how this was gonna work out. But I talked to him about it and he assured me we will make it work.
I am in resonable distance, so Ill be home every wkend, and hes coming to see me.
There is always a telephone, and email! If its meant to be it will! Im sure things will work out fine, if you 2 both agree to keep the ldr thing going!
Member # 5169
posted 08-14-2001 12:05 PM
um. i have a sort of opposite side of the story thing going on. i started seeing this lad who's a year older than me not long ago. and we agreed it wasn't going to get serious and stuff cos he's off to university really soon. (depending on the results he gets in 2 days it'll be either september or october). there's a slight problem. i started off sort of liking him but it was more a want-to-get-to-know like as opposed to full-on want-to-keep-now-i-know like. if that makes sense. i'm a compulsove non-committer which drives loads of blokes mad but he said he was ok with the non-serious pseudo-relationship thing i wanted. it's a long story but we've both expressed we like each other more than we planned to, but he's still talking about breaking up for uni. altho we say we're not serious and refuse to admit we're even seeing each other to our friends and other ppl, we're sleeping together, and in my op that rates as serious. i had intended to stay a virgin till i got married and managed to keep to that with all the other ppl i've been seeing, but with him it just seemed like the natural thing to do, and i don't have any issues about it. i told him i don't want a boyfriend but i can't stand the thought of not being with him, or knowing that another girl is. i think altho the former will upset me, the latter will just hurt like mad. he's said i'm the sexiest girl he's ever met and he has no intention of seeing anyone else even tho we're "not serious"; treats my far-from-perfect body as if it's some supermodel's; and picks me up from work to give me a lift home, then goes home again. that all sounds like good signs doesn't it? but then there's the fact that he won't let me meet his parents and that he promises to call and doesn't, until the next day. i get to see him 3 times a week at best and altho some weeks we'll be on the phone constantly, others i won't speak to him for 4 days at a time. not even a text message. does anyone know what he's playing at and/or if i should suggest staying together for uni? as you can tell i'm really really confused about everything. if anyone can shed some light on any part of this weird relationship, i'd really appreciate it.
i'm just a girl. what's my destiny?
Member # 1624
posted 08-14-2001 02:27 PM
kinda similar with ryan and i, but we never got serious. he knew back when i met him in january that he didn't want a relationship, with anyone, not just me. knowing this, i ignored it and still tried to hang out with him, and i did, and we ended up being close, but nothing serious.
similarities: he's going off to college on friday. he says he'll call, but he doesn't (he forgets but then feels really, really bad). i hate the thought of him with anyone else. he's going off to school, but i know, even though we never became anything more than just "close", that he really does like me a bunch and cares about me. he's told me and he's making some big thing for me for my grad present (i think it's a drawing or a painting! how sweet!)
so, in trying to shed some light on your problem, i failed. the one thing thought that seems to get me about your situation is that he refuses to let you meet his parents. that's where i see a problem.
Member # 2176
posted 08-15-2001 10:51 AM
hey are you Finnish Lintu??
anyway if you really like him, hang on to him.
Member # 5169
posted 08-16-2001 09:27 AM
yeah well, screw all that. he got his results today. he's going. we're over. i'm getting drunk. can't be bothered to do anything else