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Heather
Member # 3
posted 04-13-2001 04:28 PM
Where do your ideals for sexual or romantic relationships come from?Your parents or relatives relationships, your own life experiences, movies, books, media, your friends.....?
And how much do they influence the reality of your relationships? Do you face challenges or dissapointments in trying to hard to make the real the ideal?
------------------Heather Corinna Editor and Founder, Scarleteen
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Gumdrop Girl
Member # 568
posted 04-13-2001 04:49 PM
my ideal would be to find someone who will get real and take care of contraception and STD screens without me having to prod them. i am a very practical person. yes, I like romance, too, but spontaneously falling into bed without thinking about putting on a condom or forgetting to take a pill because you've been going at it for the past 8 hours isn't my idea of passion.------------------This space reserved for the free exchange of thoughts and ideas.
Baptist
Member # 3017
posted 04-13-2001 09:27 PM
My ideal romatic relationship is with a girl who is a virgin, pure in heart, who loves me and holds Christian beliefs as I do. But I don't think there is anyone out there like that for me. It stinks being lonely (sigh).
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 04-14-2001 12:09 AM
You'll find her Baptist because there's someone out there just for you...My ideal is someone who will share there dream with me as well as mine. Someone who knows how tender hearted I am and won't make me cry.
Or you can find my a Rob Thomas look alike
------------------If you're gone - maybe it's time to go home There's an awful lot of breathing room But I can hardly move If you're gone - baby you need to come home 'Cause there's a little bit of something me In everything in you ~Sexy Rob Thomas, 'If You're Gone.'
Lin
Member # 2050
posted 04-14-2001 12:42 AM
Books. No doubt about it. I read alot and previously alot of them were sappy romance novels and I got alot of my ideals about love and relationships from there.
I believed in a Prince Charming who was rich, gorgeous, kind and pampered me like crazy. And it hurt me alot to find out that books were just books.
And I tried very hard to face up to my ideal relationship which basically meant I would force my bf into doing alot of things he didn't want to do.
And it hurt him and it hurt me because I saw how hard he was trying and yet I could never be satisfied. Ive gotten over that, thank God, and I have become a more realistic person now.
But that doesn't mean I still don't read my sappy love novels.
towel42
Member # 3118
posted 04-14-2001 12:56 AM
Baptist, move to Chicago! There's a girl at my school exactly like that, I'm not kidding. And she's pretty. ;-)I've no idea where my ideals come from. I'm not entirely sure if I *have* ideals anymore. Well, that's a lie, but sometimes I feel like I'd be willing to accept anyone. Honestly, though, I'd like my guy to be intelligent, funny, not overly outgoing. He'd have strong beliefs, but wouldn't be extremist or force anything on me. He'd be respectful. And if I got really lucky, he'd be thin, have a nice face, and dress "alternative" (for a lack of a better label). But what are the chances of that happening? *coughs*
------------------ ...an angel who didn't so much fall as saunter vaguely downward...
Rizzo
Member # 802
posted 04-14-2001 12:01 PM
I'm not quite sure where my model for relationships comes from. Certainly I see parallels with my parents' relationship, but, shudder, being a teenager and all, I think I aspire more to good looking couples in movies, books, and on TV. Call me a weirdo, but I actually really identify with those Dawson's Creek kids. Even though I'm not gorgeous and popular. Then, maybe I'm a little bit overdramatic about everything. Ohya, and I like to read my thesaurus too.
lilnerd
Member # 1194
posted 04-14-2001 12:10 PM
Well, often after I watch a romantic movie it reminds me of what I don't have at the moment and I get all So media definitely effects me. But I'm also realistic and I know that most real life things are not like the movies... ------------------You should make amends with you if only for better health. But if you really want to live, why not try and Make Yourself?
locke
Member # 3212
posted 04-14-2001 12:18 PM
My ideals?I draw my romantic ideals from my my father. I try to basically do the opposite of what he does. Although I can't really complain about the end result of his romantic endeavours, *cough* *me* *cough* I can find fault in how he treats people.
I also find influence in literature. I have a rather extensive collection of books on morality and ethics (primarily of the military profession, but there are a few about humanity and such as well) and they have a lot of wisdom in them on how one should treat others and yourself.
As far as sexual ideals are concerned, I really don't know. I think this one really came from within me. While waiting till marriage never really appealed to me, I don't engage in casual sex either. My philosophy on sex is that it doesn't need to be within the binds of a marriage (this stems from my distrust of the institution in general) but its more of a mutual trust type thing. We trust each other to take the necessary precautions and to be there for each other if something should go wrong.
Kinda long winded, my apologies.
~locke
------------------ Above all else, to thine own self be true. locke@lockedown.com ---------------
Baptist
Member # 3017
posted 04-14-2001 01:55 PM
towel42,Do you know her ICQ number? LOL...
~*StarGazer*~
Member # 2066
posted 04-14-2001 07:15 PM
Movies.I get almost all of my ideal dreams from movies.
Have any of you seen the movie Teaching Mrs. Tingle? Well, the sex scene in that movie just kinda got to me, it just crept under my skin, something about it. That's my ideal.
No, wait, that's just ONE of my ideals. I have many. All romantic movies give me another.
But I wouldn't know too much about struggling to make the real the ideal. All I have is the ideal. Considering I have no relationships.
Why can't my life be a movie?
[This message has been edited by ~*StarGazer*~ (edited 04-14-2001).]
LilBlueSmurf
Member # 1207
posted 04-14-2001 08:18 PM
Ohhh dear ... I don't even know. I guess I get them from myself. I don't get it from the media or books or anything like that ... I see it all as being fake. There is no "prince charming", where i'm concerned. He's just too good to be true and i totally wouldn't deserve it. I dunno ...
But my current bf is like the female version of me. He's just a big ol' teddy bear and a 5 yr old trapped in an 18 yr olds body. It's adorable
margi007
Member # 1176
posted 04-15-2001 12:15 AM
My ideal would be a man who respects me, loves my intellect, body and soul. He himself has to be very intelligent, share my political views, I would love him to be a feminist, kind, affectionate, funny, a bit kinky, imaginative, creative, supportive and an inspiration to me. I would be very attracted by him and he would be secure enough in his sexuality to explore different, less conventional forms of sexuality with me. I think I would also like him to be bi. And I would like him to be the kind of guy you could be good friends with if you broke up.
glitter695
Member # 1515
posted 04-15-2001 01:09 PM
I get mine from the movies, you see the guys are so perfect. I always wanted a perfect guy like the ones on TV. My boyfriend is as perfect as I think I can get. My boyfriend gives me respect and cares for me, and I never had that before from a man besides my father, so right now I think I am set for my ideal boyfriend. Right now I am satisfied with my boyfriend, even if he isnt perfect. One think I would like that is that my boyfriend isnt ALWAYS RIGHT!!!!!
------------------ *~*~12/3/99*~* *~*~*~I LOVE YOU BOB FOREVER AND ALWAYS*~*~*~
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KittenGoddess
Member # 1679
posted 04-15-2001 01:28 PM
I think first of all, from my parents relationship. At least the emotional side of my relationship has been affected by my parents relationship. It was a bit scary the other day when I realized that my boyfriend is alot like my dad, and that when we're together, at times we're just like my parents! Also, my 'no sex outside/before marriage' view tends to come from my parents I think.And also from the media (ei. TV and literature). Part of me wants that storybook romance from the fairy tales...only I'd like to tack on the guilt-free/worry-free sex from the trashy romance novels, lol.
~KittenGoddess
------------------"What is the odds so long as the fire of soul is kindled..." ~Charles Dickens
DrQuack5
Member # 2748
posted 04-15-2001 01:40 PM
I'd definietley have to say movies and TV. Briefly, a friend and I were so obsessed with the Mulder/Scully relationship last year (and you Philes know what I'm talking about!) that it sort of set an ideal for the both of us as to what a perfect relationship would be. Y'know ... running around in trenchcoats chasing aliens ...
Duff
Member # 2176
posted 04-15-2001 02:59 PM
My ideal, is someone who will let me do what makes me happy, and can tolerate anything, and can whisper in my ears, and has lots a time to be with me, but understands that i need to do what my heart tells me, to. also he has to adore me, and tell me, but not overkill
and maybe he could look a bit like a kurt cobaine as an anarchist
ilovemypunk3eb
Member # 3148
posted 04-15-2001 03:47 PM
i've noticed that i get my ideals from my older sister. she is 30 years old. she is married and has been with her husband for over 10 years. they are so happy together and made a happy little family of their own. i've noticed that when i think mine and my boyfriends future, i compare it to how my sister and her husbands life is. like when me and my boyfriend talk about what our apartment will be like, i picture what my sisters looked like. stuff like that. i'm always thinking about the similarities of our relationships. stuff like that. my sister has kind of always been my idle.
Siren
Member # 3243
posted 04-15-2001 08:34 PM
I think a lot of my ideals come from my own self and other people's real life relationships. I always got jealous of people who had someone who was proud to be with them, who'd hold their hand in public, and just make them feel respected and important. Sounds simple but I never had that, so of course I wanted it. Most of the guys I've dated have liked me, but didn't want to commit to a relationship with me. So my ideal has always been someone who made me feel like I was worth his time.And I think I may have just found that guy now. He's someone who seems to think I'm pretty nifty, for whatever reason. I don't know what I did to deserve him!
------------------ Lil Siren
Read My Thoughts...
KittenGoddess
Member # 1679
posted 04-15-2001 08:44 PM
Siren, *hugs* dear! So glad to hear you've found a fab new guy! It's so nice to hear how happy you are...always makes me smile.~KittenGoddess
------------------"What is the odds so long as the fire of soul is kindled..." ~Charles Dickens
smittenkitten
Member # 2297
posted 04-16-2001 04:16 AM
An insight into insanity...Sex REAL: waiting for my parents to go to bed so I can masturbate. That or drunken, unprotected sex with a chick crushing on me. IDEAL: Two words: Gillian Anderson.
Love REAL: Singledom, and constant speculation on when my next date will be. (Single for 1 year ppls!) IDEAL: Romantic dates which evolved into steamy midnight sex, preferably with my redhead of choice, Gillian Anderson.
Friendship REAL: Whole summer breaks gone without a single sleepover, one friend that I annoy, and half a dozen friends who annoy me. IDEAL: Did I mention Gillian Anderson?
Now leaving the insanity zone...
Winnie :0)
Eclipse
Member # 2254
posted 04-16-2001 10:12 AM
My ideals come from my parents(-only-moreso), who've only argued once that I knew about in my entire life and have been together 25 years and love to do things together (they aren't particularly passionate though), and also from adventure/fairy tale books and computer games. Those were my pre-relationship ideals. I would be friends with someone and be very much in love with him and he would be in love with me and we would like all the same things and spend all our time together and if ever anything came between us we would overcome insurmountable odds to make each other happy and stay together. We would share each other's waking dreams and learn to share each other's sleeping dreams. We would be able to talk about absolutely everything. We would grow old together and our spirits would remain bonded after we died, whatever else happened. We would never be lonely. We would know each other's thoughts.Hey, you asked about the IDEAL.
My current ideals have been shaped by my three actual relationships. I had all those in place, and then I fell in love (age 13) with a dolphin boy on-line, and... well, that was such a powerful relationship. We did talk about everything. We did share waking dreams and plans. We imagined epic fantasy quests together. He was romantic and passionate and playful and we spent every moment that we could together. We survived four years of a long distance romantic relationship, half of which he was in college several states away. And we grew apart. Or I grew apart. It's still strange to think about it, because we're still friends, and also because so much of who I am now was influenced by him. Most of the music I listen to. The books I read. Nearly all of my knowledge of computers. Some of my aesthetic sensibilities. My choice of career (and hence my choice of this college, these classes...). A few of my friends. Most of my poetry. My sexual comfort levels. My high expectations for relationships. All that stuff would have been different without him. So it was actually kind of the all-consuming Love that I imagined as a child, and I'm glad. I like what we had and I like who I am.
My second relationship taught me that just because I was in love with someone and they with me didn't mean that it would or could work out well. I like to think that I'd catch on to the not-working-out part sooner if it were to happen again (that one lasted 7 months), but it hasn't yet been tested.
My third and current relationship is my first real-life one. He matches my personality needs far more perfectly than the first two, likewise my physical needs. And he pampers me more than I ever thought reasonable. We spend almost all our time together. We share interests and attitudes and plans.
I did set myself up for a few disappointments though, mostly from four years feeling sure that the relationship I was in would last forever. Two or three, really. The beginning of this relationship wasn't as pretty and romantic as I would have wanted. Primarily because I was still involved in the first relationship (yes, the second relationship came and went during the first one. Both parties knew.) The four years from 13 to 17 are awfully long years, and it wasn't exactly a clean break. I handled it with little grace, if not plain badly. I spent two months denying my relationship with Ryan, while at the same time spending every waking and sleeping minute with him. One consequence was this was that we hadn't talked very much about our relationship (or about sex! ) by the time we realized that we had one, and for the first several weeks we were pretty bipolar, because we were so happy to know that we were together but we didn't think it could last for very long.
The other two were that he had been sexually active in other relationships, although he'd never been in love before (whereas the opposite for me). Naturally I assumed that he'd already done "everything" with other women who knew what they were doing and I was kind of a disappointment, and while none of that was true, it took him a long time to realize that I really thought that and dissuade me of the idea.
And the only one that's not in the past now is that he's not in my field. I wouldn't ever want to change my love, but... I spent a long time expecting to always have someone who understood my work, both intellectually ("Hey sweetie! I was re-reading the McCowan paper and I don't think the population she picked was necessarily representative because...") and emotionally ("Hey, wake up, I was dreaming about Toby"), and simply someone who'd do the same things I was doing. Same internships, same professors. Particular places and people having the same significance for us. Our mutual enthusiasm would feed off of itself... he would motivate me, I wouldn't have to do it all by myself. That's a really huge expectation. Ryan is VERY supportive (took me to a conference this past weekend, helps me with my work, listens to me explain dolphin stuff, willing to follow me to grad school in Hawai'i), but he's a journalist/historian. I have found someone who mostly shares my perspective and passion though. Someone who furthermore is brilliant, articulate, funny, compassionate, playful, and even seems to like me. She's my professor, Dr. Harley, and I adore her just madly. I spend as much time working with her as I can manage, and she doesn't seem to mind, so really, I'm pretty lucky.
Phew. Probably more than y'all wanted to know.
PS - despite the few disappointments, I'm grateful that when I met Ryan I knew how to/expected to have a very honest, open, intimate, trusting relationship. I think it's done much more good than harm!
Lisa D
Member # 389
posted 04-16-2001 03:52 PM
It is wonderful when the real and ideal begin to mesh together a bit more. Honestly, that happens more frequently as you get older because you have a more clear idea of what you do, and more importantly, what you don't want in a relationship. When you are young, you *should* be investigating all of what's out there, because if you don't, you'll spend your whole life wondering if you missed out. As you move through different relationships, you soon find out what you can handle, and what you can't. You also learn that *Compromise* is the most important word you will ever learn.
My fiancee is both real, and my ideal. And boy, did I go through a motley bunch to find him! He is wicked smart, handsome, gentle, kind, and remarkably funny. We have our differences, which is the way it should be because we're different individuals. But, we have a super relationship, and I love him more everyday.
Baptist: It does stink to be lonely...what about your youth group (heck, maybe you could even check out a different church that shares your faith) Also, never underestimate picking up chicks in the Christian Bookstore (LOL!) I found a particularly wonderful guy that way when I was back in HS!
DC_WillowFan
Member # 631
posted 04-16-2001 08:54 PM
OMG, I never though at this before in a very serious way but since you ask.My ideal has been made up from all kind of pieces: books, movies, but mostly from persons I've been friend with.
It would have to be a simple girl, not necesserly the queen of beauty but she has to be somehow cute, who shares her thought and feeling in a sincere and honest way, and who'd love me for what I am. Someone who cares about herself when it's needed, who'd open minded and just sweet.
If it would have to be compare with from the board I'd say it's kinda like...
... I won't say it but you might guess who it is.
David
------------------ - I hope I shall be able to confide in you conpletely, as I have never been able to do in anyone before, and I hope that you will be a great support and comfort to me.
Anne Frank to her journal (1929-1945)
Aquamarine
Member # 3296
posted 04-16-2001 10:01 PM
I loved gumdrop's answer, it's great to have a realistic attitude. I guess I'd say that my ideal is someone who can help me compromise the sexual issues of the modern world (STD testing, etc.) with romance. I guess I wouldn't have one without the other.I think that in books, movies, media, my friends' relationships, etc. I didn't find qualities that embodied my ideal relationship; instead, I found mostly the qualities that would be *lacking* in it. Yeah, I think my ideal relationship has been built up pretty much from conversations with myself--assessing the lacking qualities that I observed in the relationships of others, and then imagining the same things not lacking in my fantasy relationship.
However, the ideal partnership that I have built up in my mind would require a pretty wonderful guy on one end and a newer, improved me on the other. Until I have time to make those improvements, I'm staying out of a relationship. Expecting one of my relationships right now to turn out resembling my ideal would be delusional and selfish--and boy, would I be disillusioned
Baptist
Member # 3017
posted 04-17-2001 07:13 PM
Lisa D,I would, but every girl around here seems to be taken.
[This message has been edited by Baptist (edited 04-17-2001).]
Moth
Member # 2606
posted 04-20-2001 10:29 PM
My ideals? I think they come from the longing I had when I was very little to have a companion who would always be there for me, would never hurt me, would wrap me up in her arms (hmm, early bisexual stirrings?), and just listen. In reality I've learned that touch can't really happen when you're 3,000 miles away, that, yes, accidents happen, and people that love each other hurt each other, and that time constraints make it impossible to always be there or always to listen. Nevertheless. The real relationship includes hilarity, and tickle fights, and poetry, and petty squabbles, and I wouldn't trade it for all the idealism in the world.
That's all.
-Moth
Late Bloomer
Member # 11408
posted 01-14-2003 05:36 PM
HiI have multiple ideals. For instance, I would like to slowly develop a relationship with a girl who excites me sexually and who has a personality and physique which make me want to build the relationship. We would slowly progress towards having intercourse as we talk more about sex and become more comfortable with each other's bodies. A second relationship ideal instance, I would meet a girl who I was really attracted to physically, and instead of working our way towards increasing sexuality we would see each other only on weekends and these weekends would be filled with endless passion. I think my first ideal is most ideal, yet sometime I think that I don't have the patience for this to occur. I am aware that I focus largely on intercourse in a relationship, for better or for worse.
The reality is my current relationship is with a girl who I care about, yet find at times unattracted to physically. We have been dating for two months, communicating increasingly about life and sex, and becoming more comfortable with each other nude and clothed. Recently, this relationship has lost alot of its passion. I revealed what I thought was a huge self-disclosure: at times I am attracted to men. I thought this would have shocked her, yet she revealed her own attraction to woman and that she has experimented kissing women in the past. The impact is finding myself thinking about her being a butch lesbian, hence the sexual excitement vanished. We have talked about this, and she knows what is going through my head. This is my reality.
I am faced with a decision: work through this relationship problem to find the spark again, or decide the relationship is not worth the effort using this moment as a reason to end this relationship and start a new one.
Any suggestions?
[This message has been edited by Late Bloomer (edited 01-14-2003).]
CutiePie4eva
Member # 7052
posted 01-15-2003 04:08 PM
my ideal guy... i actually wrote out a list, but theres probaly 5 million and 1 things yet to add lol i like the idea of "prince charming" and i seem to love all those variations of cinderella... i love the idea that a guy would love me for me, and nothing else.
i wannnnnnttttt... somone sensitive, funny, stubborn (but ives in to me a lot lol), flirty, talkative, open minded... and all around open (with feelings), honest, trustworthy, trusting, kind/nice, fun/cute personality, not always serious, shows his feelings with actions (as well as words lol), listens to me when we're talking (gives me his undivided attention on the phone or in person), doest give up when times are rough, happy, doesnt feel he's "settling" for me, someone patient (lets me take my time and goes at my pace), and someone who respects me.
i also need a guy who's crazy about me... so theres no chance he'll want anyone else (i get a tad bit jealous... lol). someone who wants to talk to me a lot and see me.
now realistically... i want a guy who is at least willing to fit to fit in the "ideal guy" criteria that i have made a nice, long list of. lol
i think that the criteria is pretty realistic... and i have formed them from what the ideals are from everything around me, but especially from past relationships (all... 3... lol).
physically... some pluses would be attractive with nice arms lol.
------------------ dont worrie, b happie!!!! it's all good (...i suppose)
Dont interrupt me when i'm talking to myself!
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Alabaster
Member # 3399
posted 01-15-2003 07:26 PM
Ahh romance?Without doubt my concept of romance was brought about by far too many love songs and far too much young adult fiction that always showcased the two very differnt people coming together in the end after some great trial. Love was dramatic, and I wanted a piece of it. I would watch shows like dawsons creek and litterly weep for joy when happiness abounded, and weep with sadness when it didn't. Love was the subject of poetry and song and story, and everything from mysterious tales of the first kiss to first blowjob mesmerized me.
Imagine my disapointment when I finally woke up.
I had the "Well i need to have sex" relationship, and I had the "Well you like me, and although I don't like you, I'm desperate so lets do it" relationship, as well as a few others that often fell somewhere inbetween. I found my drama and I found out that relationships with other peopel could be incredibly complex and uninteligable. Hence, I went on a 3 year relationship hiatus from 17-20.
Now my idea of romance is much differnce, influenced by "reality" and less on dramatic fantasy.
My "ideal" mate is someone who is plain. The britney Spears of the world don't excite me near as much as the depth and "plainess" of a pale girl with freckles. She is also simple, not requiring me to prove myself to her by slaying all her past lovers or by banckrupting myself with extavagant dinners by the sea. She is smart. She has a zest for life that matches my own. She has a love of learning. She is willing to talk to me about anything. To me communication is the single most important aspect of romance and any relationship. Without it, we are just blind. Finally she will have flaws. I cannot love perfection, as without the chinks and chips of her own imperfection, there will be nothing to match up with my own. Kind of like a puzzle I suppose. I see romance as a balnce, with her soul fitting snugly in with mine like pieces of a jig-saw puzzle.
Cup of Joe
Member # 10643
posted 01-15-2003 09:06 PM
As of right now, everything of mine is an ideal, because I have never had the opportunity to try anything in practice, but that'll all change. It happens for everyone. Anyway...I've gotten my ideals from mainly movies and television and perhaps the few stories I have read. You know, Hollywood endings, the kind of stuff you only read in trashy romance novels (though I have never picked one up). I'm trying to be realistic about things now so I don't get hit hard.
In reality, I get my ideas from my parents (who have taught me everything not to do ) and my friends. Although I don't have many examples from my friends. I can look at them and say, "That's what I want" or see something that is missing in their relationship. I like the idea of having a friendship as an important base for a relationship but this seems to become more an ideal by the day and is starting to sound downright hypocritcal to me as if it isn't possible.
As for sex, well my ideals and reality come from the same sources as my romantic ideals and realities, only for some reason I seem to have more to base my sexual ideas from my friends than I do for relationships. Oh, and my brother has had a big influence on my outlook towards sex.
HeavenlyPrinzS
Member # 11589
posted 01-24-2003 03:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by Baptist:My ideal romatic relationship is with a girl who is a virgin, pure in heart, who loves me and holds Christian beliefs as I do. But I don't think there is anyone out there like that for me. It stinks being lonely (sigh).
Babtist, I'm sure I've met you before cuz there's only so many of guys like u out there. But, hey, u just described me.
HeavenlyPrinzS
etherealgirl
Member # 10135
posted 01-27-2003 08:55 PM
As for long term view, my ideal view of a marriage/relationship is my parents! Out of all of the people I know, my parents are one of maybe two or three sets that are still together, and happy at that. I have never seen them fight in 17 years, so when they do, they must do it in a respectful, private manner. And they have a very effective parenting method, unfortunately rather effective at thwarting most of my not so wise/kosher ideas. If I turned out like them with my husband when I am in my 40's, I will be satisfied
Gumdrop Girl
Member # 568
posted 01-27-2003 09:54 PM
anyone ever seen the movie 'High Fidelity?' In the opening sequence, Cusack's character asks, "Do I listen to pop music because I'm miserable? Or am I miserable because I listen to pop music?"I have to say, I listen to a lot of rock music, and as silly as it sounds, when I hear a good love song, I wish my life could be like that, too. I soundtrack everything. When my lovelife is going badly, I feel like the Cure saw it all coming.
Yeah, for me, pop music describes love ideally.
What have I got in real life? I've got a nice boyfriend. Things are calm. They could be more exciting. And in the long run, it's not going to grow much more than this. But for now, it's not bad.
------------------ According to the experts, I am some species of badass .
Simple and Clean
Member # 11658
posted 01-30-2003 03:32 PM
MY ideal for a guy is someone who is smart, funny, but very respectful. I use the term "all heart" because they are themselves but have very realistic thoughts. My bf is all heart. Hes not the handsomest man in the world, but hes handsome to me. I think i get influenced by movies too, because alot of the ideas i have about a relationship comes from that. Sometimes i watch a really sappy movie, but i get really sad because it reminds me of how me and my bf is. I thank God everyday for giving me such a great relationship that i never thought i would ever have.
selenechan
Member # 10164
posted 02-21-2003 08:39 PM
My Parents definatly.Well,actually my mom.She's always been open-minded about everything and I love her for it.