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FlirtieGirlie
Member # 2510
posted 01-27-2001 09:26 PM
I am VERY in much in love with my boyfriend, we've been together for two years and I can't imagine being without him. However, there is a new guy in my school who I am extremely attracted to. I would NEVER dream of doing anything with him, it didnt even cross my mind that I would dump my bf, but why am I so attracted to the new guy if I have an awesome guy? I don't want to have a "crush" on him anymore! Please give me some suggestions!------------------ Kids in the backseat cause accidents. Accidents in the backseats cause kids! (So be careful!) Luvs to Jeremy!
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-27-2001 09:32 PM
It's human nature. As long as you keep it as a crush you and nothing more then you should be ok ------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
pink
Member # 1071
posted 01-27-2001 10:09 PM
I agree with Buff. As long as nothing happens, you're fine. And you ay you don't want to have a crush on this guy anymore? I've felt that way so many times. I've found that I can't tell my heart what to do, it likes who it likes. I can deny it all I want, but it doesn't help . Eventually, your crush will fade, and things will be fine.
If you expect to be with your current partner for a long time, then crushes like this will come and go, but if you really care for your partner, they'll work out.
------------------ Give yourself over to absolute pleasure!! With protection, of course.
magpie
Member # 2340
posted 01-28-2001 01:53 PM
You can look, just don't touch. Also, maybe you just want to be good friends with this boy. I thought I had a thing for my ex boyfriend's friend (Ben), but now we're just friends and I have a new boyfriend. And I love him dearly, but as a friend, not a boyfriend.
KittenGoddess
Member # 1679
posted 01-28-2001 02:22 PM
Just think about it like you're window shopping at Tiffany's. You see that gorgeous diamond necklace in the window, and you wonder for a minute how it would look around your neck. But when you really think about it...where would you wear that necklace if you had it anyway? School? The grocery store? Nope, probably not. Eventually you're going to go on and walk away, and be perfectly happy with your own necklace which is perfect cause it's there, and it's comfortable and you can wear it anywhere.As long as it's just a crush, you're ok. Be happy with your guy, be friends with this new guy if you want to.
~KittenGoddess
------------------ "You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip." ~Jonathan Carroll
XxFIFxX
Member # 2109
posted 01-28-2001 03:11 PM
Honestly, you can't help feelings. You should figure out why you're attracted to him. Maybe it's something your b/f is lacking. If you want him, it's not a crime, but remember that if you choose to get your crush, you've lost your b/f. It's not usually a good thing to jump at the first opprotunity that passes by, but if you want it bad enough, go for it.------------------ *I wish I didn't care, but I do*
FlirtieGirlie
Member # 2510
posted 01-28-2001 03:28 PM
Thnaks guys, i feel better now. My friend told me to tell my boyfriend about my "crush" on the new guy, but I don't think I will. I do think it's important to be honest in a realtionship but I wouldnt trust him if he told me he thought he had a crush on another girl, what do you guys think? ------------------ Kids in the backseat cause accidents. Accidents in the backseats cause kids! (So be careful!) Luvs to Jeremy!
Heather
Member # 3
posted 01-28-2001 03:36 PM
Sounds like you've got yourself a double-standard, that's what. You can have a "crush" and still be trustworthy, but he can't? Or you can have one, but if it's secret, it's somehow better or makes you more trustworthy?Look, you do what feels best to you: you can tell your partner you find someone else attractive or not. I think either way is fine. But relationships go both ways -- when you start to set up rules and standards that apply to one person and not the other, you're asking for trouble and not being fair.
------------------Heather Corinna Editor and Founder, Scarleteen
"If you're a bird, be an early early bird -- But if you're a worm, sleep late." - Shel Silverstein
FlirtieGirlie
Member # 2510
posted 01-28-2001 03:46 PM
Thanks Ms. S, I think I'll just concentrate on making my realtionship with Jeremy even better than it already is, I'll forget about the other guy soon.------------------ Kids in the backseat cause accidents. Accidents in the backseats cause kids! (So be careful!) Luvs to Jeremy!
FlirtieGirlie
Member # 2510
posted 01-28-2001 03:51 PM
And by the way, I'm not saying that it's okay for me to have a crush on someone else and it's not okay for him, I think it's really awful of me and I've felt like I'm betraying him by thinking the other guy is cute. I was just wondering if it would be the right thing to be honest about it, or just to wait until it goes away.------------------ Kids in the backseat cause accidents. Accidents in the backseats cause kids! (So be careful!) Luvs to Jeremy!