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CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-25-2001 10:23 PM
Well earlier in the year I met an amazing guy, we'll call him Mandingo, which what we really call him at school. We met at a workcall for the play 'Dracula'. I pretty much spent the whole evening talking with him about school and stuff. From there on everytime we'd see each other in the hallway we'd say hi. Then on the day of the homecoming game he asked for my number. I of course gave it to him and we become really good friends after that. We become best friends in a short time it was wonderful. He liked me and I liked him but not as much as he did me. We would always talk about how we were ment to be together and how we would get married, have 2 or 3 kids, and 3 houses. Then finally when the play 'Dracula' was performed I met this guy we'll call Spicy Cajun, because that's what we call him at school. Well anyways, Spicy used me. He took advanged of me. He pretty much scared me when it comes oral sex but anyways, Mandingo warned me to watch out because Spicy was known to use girls. But being the dumb freshmen that I am I didn't listen. I went back for more. One night while Mandingo and I were talking he let me know how much he cares for me and I mean alot to him. He said that it hurt him to see what Spicy and I had done. That made me relize how much he really does care for me and I started to fall for my Mandingo. I was still unsure of my feelings for him, till one day at another workcall for a differant play we kissed. It was one of those wonderful kisses where the whole world around you stops. Yes it was that great of a kiss, and yes we both liked it. I knew I had feeling for him but at the same time I had feelings for another guy,we'll call Diggy. Well I told Mandingo, I had feelings for him and Diggy. He asked who I'd rather be with, I said Diggy. The reason is I was affaird of losing his friendship. He was alittle upset then he surpised me with the un thinkable. He told me that no matter how much it hurt, he was getting me and Diggy hooked up. Well it happened. He did just that. Thing were going just fine untill I noticed something differant. Very differant. Mandingo stop calling. When ever I called they told me he was busy and he'd call back. He never did. I was crushed. Everytime I'd say hi to him he'd ignore me. I was like the wall to him. So I just gave up on him. Then one day he told me I changed. I wasn't the same person he first met. I wasn't Buffchick or Pugabear anymore. I didn't understand. He was the one who stopped talking and when he did he was bitter! Later that night he called me and said he was sorry for being the way he was. I said sorry too for "changing". Well the next day he was back to bitter Mandingo. So I just stopped talking to him. He then once again said sorry and we went back to our old ways. We started talking on the phone again. But the convo's weren't the same.
A few weeks ago after school, I was waiting with him for his ride. When his ride showed up I gave him a hug. Then I looked up at him and I saw him coming towards me. He was going to kiss me. I quickly turned my head and got a kiss on the cheek. Before I could move he did it agian. But this time it was on the corner of my lips. I pushed him away and walked off without saying anything. The only thing I could hear was him laughing. I was mad. Ever since that day we haven't talked much. At all. When we do they're just short talks. We don't talk on the phone anymore either. Well my problem is, I miss him. I miss talking to him. Joking with him. I miss it all. Everyday I think about him. I want to call but I'm scared of what he's going to say. I don't even know what I'm going to say. I really want his friendship back. It's not the same going through the day without talking to him. Can you help please?
------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid!
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
[This message has been edited by CallMeBuffChick (edited 01-25-2001).]
LollipopPoRNchik
Member # 2490
posted 01-25-2001 10:35 PM
that got so confusing but i think i got it.Call your friend. If you care about him and your friendship enough then you should get enough guts to give him a buzz and let him know whats going on.
thats my opinion..... its what i'd do. But then again.....I'm not much of a social butterfly
------------------ Do yourself a favor and open yourself up to love. Every kind. From men, women, blacks, whites, dogs, cats, frogs. From ANYTHING. Love is good and beautiful. "Any love is good love"
Lin
Member # 2050
posted 01-25-2001 11:13 PM
Buff honey, I think you just have to talk to him and ask him what's going on. He could be hurt and upset by all the wrong choice he thinks you are making but he doesn't want to say anything. He seems like he cares for you and all this weirdness could be happening because he is confused and hurt as well.
So call him and have a good talk with him. But hon, decide if you want to be his friend only or you want something more. And tell him that. Gd luck.
SurfGal
Member # 316
posted 01-26-2001 02:12 PM
The best thing to do in these situations is TALK to him. I know how hard it is, I have a hard time doing things face to face, but it's always better than letters or telephones. Sit down with him and ask him what's up. Good luck sweetie....your a freshman and you have 3 more confusing years of highschool to go. Talking to someone about ur feelings is always the best way to go, and is a good skill to learn when negotiating the perils of highschool. Good Luck!------------------ "Girl you can pick a field full of daisies...but he'd still be my baby!" ~Dream
***STACY***
lilnerd
Member # 1194
posted 01-26-2001 04:34 PM
Are you still with 'Diggy' ? He may have wanted it to seem like he was OK with you liking this other guy by hooking you up, although he really wasn't. Could be why he's having trouble being just friends with you (awkwardness) As everyone else has said... the best thing to do is just talk to him------------------ "Live a balanced life - Learn some and think some, and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some."
~~ Robert Fulghum, author ~~
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-26-2001 06:30 PM
*sigh* I'm scared to talk to him. You never know how this guy is going to be. He may nice and funny or cold and bitter. But I'm going to have to do it. Wish me luck... P.S. We all have alot of weird nicknames. Can you tell
------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-27-2001 08:23 PM
Ok well this is what happened. I picked up the phon, dailed the first 5 digits of his number then hung up. Why the heck am I so worried to call him. *Grr*------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
Lin
Member # 2050
posted 01-28-2001 01:37 AM
Okay, deep breath. Pick up the phone and dial again. Go girl.
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-28-2001 08:05 PM
I just can't so it. It's really depressing. I'll talk to him at school.------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 01-31-2001 02:09 PM
I called him!! Ok this is what happen: "Hello?" "I ______ there?" "This is him." "Hey yo! What's up?" "Not alotta. So who is this speakin?" "It's me. Christine." "Hey heffa! I was gonna call you tonight. But hey I'm gonna have to call you back, because you sound like something the wrong." "Um well not really" *which isn't true.* "You just miss me huh?" "Yeah..." "Well I'll call ya later. Bye." "Peace." Yep. That was it. He sound happy to hear me and it's strange how he knew something was wrong with and he'll know that I was lying when I said there wasn't. It's scary how he can read my mind. He still hasn't called back. Should I call back? *sigh*
P.S. Just in case someone of you were wondering, in his vocabulary 'Heffa' is just another word for homie.
------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
d1TzY8
Member # 372
posted 02-01-2001 09:41 PM
CALLMEBUFFCHICK...YOU SOUND JUST LIKE ME!!! OMG! Three guys...I liked Guy #1, Guy #2 liked me, and Guy #3 comes in later. I would be DUMB and mess around w/ guy #2 and Guy #1 would be hurt and he would tell me over and over not to do it cause he will use me..he did of course and so Guy #2 mande me feel so happy so I started liking him..well, Guy #3 is Guy #2's bro and i kinda like him...AHHHHHHHHHH!!!Sorry about my GUYS!!! LoL
Man!! It sounds SO real..its crazy!
Hope everything goes the way you hope! God Bless you and GOOD LUCK!!!
Angela!
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 02-01-2001 09:48 PM
It gets tuff after awhile huh?? But Mandingo still hasn't called me back He touched my hand in the hallway...is that a good sign? Gosh I dunno.------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*
Lin
Member # 2050
posted 02-01-2001 11:52 PM
Maybe you should try giving Mandingo another call. Glad to hear that everything seems to be working out.
Now if only you could have a good talk with him....gd luck dearie.
CallMeBuffChick
Member # 2101
posted 02-02-2001 05:45 PM
Guess what?!?!?!? Me and Mandingo are cool now. I saw him in the lunch line and we started talking. Then we walked around the hallways. He knew right something was wrong with and I was just about to tell him when everyone started to come up to us and talk. That was ok, it was a fun lunch.Then after school I saw again we we walked around the school and I told him all my problems, well maybe not all of them just the one about my brother being in jail and he knows there is more even though I didn't say there was more. Well anyways we spent about 30 mintues standing outside the FACs room begging for cinimons (sp) rolls. Didn't get any Oh well we had a good time begging. I'm so happy!!!!
------------------ ~*~Buff Chick~*~ *kiss*kiss* to my Karamel Kid! :)
"No one can stop you from who you love and the one love is who you love ."
"Never frown because you never know when someone is falling in love with your smile."
Watch out! I'm a awful speller. *hehe*