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XxFIFxX
Member # 2109
posted 12-14-2000 10:40 PM
Okay, I have a boyfriend, and he's like, okay and all, I mean, he breaks our plans sometimes and it pisses me off. So... I ended up falling for this other guy, and he's like amazing, like the total opposite of my current b/f. He listens to my problems, and I can relate to him. Plus he's coming onto me, and that's new for me because most of the time I have to go after the guys. The only problem is that he's in a cult. His parents started this cult back in Louisiana and they came to California to recruit people because everyone left the cult in Louisiana (I am not kidding, this is seriously the truth) and I don't know what to do. I know I have a b/f, but he's never there and the guy in the cult is so nice to me, I'm just scared of what might happen since he's in a cult. what should I do?------------------ *I wish I didn't care, but I do*
KittenGoddess
Member # 1679
posted 12-14-2000 10:50 PM
Well, I can kinda relate to this, my boy's parents are in a cult, and he was raised that way. The difference is that he wants to leave the cult. I suggest that you talk to the cult guy about it. Talk to him about what he believes, what their practices are, how they feel about dating someone outside their cult, etc. Don't start a relationship like that until you know what you're getting into. And as far as your b/f not paying attention to you, TALK TO HIM! He may not even realize that what he's doing bothers you. There are two people in every relationship (well unless there are more than two people...but there has to be at least two), and you're both responsible for the health of your relationship. If you're upset about something, then you're going to have to do the responsible thing and talk to him about it, cause the problems can't be fixed if no one knows they exist.~KittenGoddess
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DarkChild717
Member # 139
posted 12-14-2000 11:20 PM
A cult is defined as "a group that worships God through ceremony or prayer."Occult is that "bad one."
Many things can be defined as such.
Find out exactly what they did, worshiped, etc. It may not be that bad.
ou2mame
Member # 1987
posted 12-15-2000 04:27 AM
As long as they didn't eat strychnine laced jello and hope to be taken away in a space ship....------------------just when everything was making sense you took away all my self-confidence now all that I've been hearing must be true I guess I'm not the only boy for you
Hanne
Member # 100
posted 12-15-2000 06:03 AM
Tough call, honey. Personally, I'd be wary of dating anyone if I knew that that person's parents were looking for recruits -- whether they were looking for recruits to a religious organization, a start-up business, or the military. I don't like having my social life get mixed up in attempts to convert me to any cause. The mixed motivations and conflicts of interest are too complicated and problematic.I'd also say you're suffering from a good solid case of "the grass is always greener on the other side" syndrome. So your current BF isn't perfect. So what? You can either keep seeing him or not, that's up to you... but I can *guarantee* you that Cultist Boy isn't gonna be perfect either. How can I guarantee that? Because NO human being is perfect. You trade in one set of flaws and foibles for another every time you have a new partner in your life.
So if you think that it'd solve your relationship problems to have a relationship with this new boy, think again. It wouldn't. They'd just be different.
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Gumdrop Girl
Member # 568
posted 12-15-2000 11:28 AM
I don't see anything to fear in dating a cult member unless the cult has dangerour practices. if you do not want to get involved in the cult, then make sure you hang on to your own personal beliefs, and hang on tight -- cult recruiters tend to have charisma.as for your current guy, seems you and he need to have a little talk.
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keoki_14
Member # 1312
posted 12-15-2000 02:17 PM
How is crushing on a guy in a different religion any different than a cult? I mean, let's say you are Jewish and he is Buddhist (example) You're not going to agree on everything faith-wise.I say as long as you feel comfortable with him and his surrounds, go for it!
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pink
Member # 1071
posted 12-15-2000 04:09 PM
That's kinda hard. First off, I think you might make it clear why he's coming on to you. Does he truly like you, or is he looking for someone to recruit? But if you can get through that, and he truly does like you and has no intentions of changing you against your will, go for it. If your boyfriend doesn't treat you justly, and this guy does, go for him. He may be different, but if you care enough, things will turn out for the better, with a little work.------------------ Yeah, well I'VE got blood dripping out of a hole between my legs, do YOU?!? there is a difference between being stupid and being ditzy. i ought to know
XxFIFxX
Member # 2109
posted 12-15-2000 11:18 PM
Some of my friends are actually for me being w/him... I talked to him about the cult today... he said they're looking for certain types of people and that I'm not their type. I guess that's a good thing. I'm just scared that he might turn on me and do something horrible. It did kind of freak me out when he told me his parents were rich, I kinda wondered where they got all that money...------------------ *I wish I didn't care, but I do*
Milke
Member # 961
posted 12-17-2000 05:17 AM
Cult generally refers to a group that's not yet recognised as a religion, occult means, literally 'mystery'.
Lin
Member # 2050
posted 12-17-2000 09:13 PM
This might seem really cynical but look at it this way, if his intention was to recruit you and he knew about your fears, would he be likely to say "Yes, you are exactly the kind of person we want to recruit".At then end of the day, none of us here know hs intentions. Only he does. If you feel uneasy about him and his family being in a cult, drop him. There will be other great guys around. Yes, he might be a wonderful guy but if you feel uncomfortable around him all the time, it is not going to work out is it? You have to make the final call, hun.
Before you proceed, have a good talk with your bf first. Very few of us have bfs who do not piss us off at all. Just because he is upsets you at times doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Gd luck.
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Sympathys_Sin
Member # 792
posted 01-21-2001 11:11 PM
What you need to do, my dear FIF fan... is chill out. Don't forget about this guy because he's a cultist. The whole moving to Cali thing because everyone left the "religion" kinda sounds like this isn't a bunch of people who are going to have some sort of strangle hold on you. If you're gonna forget about this guy, it should be because you feel bad about ditching your boyfriend, am I right?