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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. UBB Code™ Images not permitted.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by steampunk: [QB] Is what my boyfriend did, rape? So I have been seeing this really great guy for a year now. Everything is really awesome. He cares for me, he isn't controlling or jealous, he's patient, he tries his best in bed etc But the other day this really horrible thing came up, that I had tried to bury for a long time. In fact, he was the one to bring this up because he was feeling terribly guilty about it. And he says if we can't resolve or move on from this issue then there's no point in continuing to see each other. So about two months into our relationship, we both were really eager to consummate but we never had the time or the right place to go at it. And the few times we were able to try, it was unsuccessful because it was my first time and it was really painful for me. But this one day, we were at my friends house all alone in her room(she was away). And we tried to do it again, I really wanted to do it, yes. But when he was about half way in, it really hurt and I told him to stop, but instead of stopping he pushed it in and he stopped after he was inside me(he wasn't moving) and he was just asking me how I felt. I was in too much shock to even say anything and for whatever reason I didn't think what he did was wrong at first. But looking back that seemed so wrong. And I called him out on it and he apologized(He says he doesn't know why he chose to ignore me and he said it's also because he had never been with a technical virgin, so he thought he was almost there anyway. Yeah, it has been a year and he hasn't really done anything like that again(Umm, except this one time where he decided to come inside me without prior consent. But when he said "I'm coming" I told him to pull out and he did. But the fact that he decided to simply go for it without asking makes me feel uncomfortable).Other than that, in every other aspect of our relationship he's great. He's been very supportive and kind to me. And there are really no other signs of him being abusive or controlling. I really love him a lot too, but this thing keeps coming up and making me feel shitty. I can't be in a relationship with a guy who possibly raped me. I mean, if the same thing happened to my daughter I'd tell her to leave the guy asap. But I really don't want to do that. Everything else in the relationship is great. Except for the trust issue. Because of which he suggested we stay abstinent until I feel safe enough and trusting enough again. And he said, if/when we get to the point he'll do it like it was my first time ever. And he also says he's not going to try to justify what he did. He thinks it was horrible and unacceptable too. And says he's not the same person who did that and even when he did that his intention wasn't to hurt me. I'm just. Very confused. [/QB][/QUOTE]

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