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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. UBB Code™ Images not permitted.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by luanne: [QB] Here's my story: I took my road test about a month ago. I felt pretty confident going in because I was a good driver- hey, I could even parallel park!- and my reckless brother who forgets to shift and brake had passed no problem. So the tester climbed in the passenger's seat. I said hi, he said, "Where's your certificate and permit?" But he said it in a way that made me feel like I was deliberately wasting his time, like a teacher's tone when a kid won't settle down and behave. I had done nothing, but felt a little guilty, and a little embarrassed. And then I pulled away from the curb, and at the very first stop sign, after I had stopped and was inching ahead to see past a tree obstructing my view of the intersection, he asked me what the heck I was doing and told me I was wasting his time. For the rest of the ride, everything I did had some sort of flaw that he pointed out. At the first turn, I had gone too wide; at the second, I cut it too close, and so on. My limbs were like jelly, and soon I really did begin to drive poorly because I couldn't really control my movements. Before I had even gotten a chance to parallel park, he said, "Alright. I've seen enough. Go back." But in the "how could you be so STUPID?" tone that really made me feel like I was doing something terrible on purpose. When we got back, he told me I failed and that I was nowhere near ready for a license. I meekly agreed and after he left I sat on a park bench and cried. I still felt like jelly- during the walk from the car to the bench, my legs felt like I had just run a marathon. My mom tried to help me up so she could drive me home, but it took a long time for the feeling to go away. My mom tried to talk to me about what had happened, and for a while I couldn't speak, and she became very worried. She asked if he'd sexually assaulted me, and he hadn't, so I felt obligated to set the record straight. I told her everything. She has a background of abuse, so she flipped and ranted about how the tester, a man I had never met, had "abused" me. I was alarmed to hear her say that because I didn't want any trouble, and I already felt guilty about the whole situation. Hearing her try to make a victim out of me just made me feel worse. I'm not sure, but I think abuse only applies to actual relationships, not a few minutes with some guy in a really bad mood (rape excluded). It's been almost a month and I just want to forget about it. My mom wants to get this guy moved to a different job where he won't be able to harangue young people, and she's making a big fuss about it with the state. I want her to drop the whole thing. Who is right? And can that incident really be called abuse? [/QB][/QUOTE]

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