No one needs an abuser.It really is that simple. No (biological) father is ALWAYS better than an abusive one. No "man" is better than an abusive one. Period.
But lots of people who have been abused or battered by partners or spouses find themselves still missing aspects of the person it is WAY better they stay clear of. That's normal. It's also why support groups and counseling are VERY helpful when you're coming out of an abusive situation. have you sought either of these things out?
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