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Member # 21227
posted 03-07-2006 06:20 PM
My boyfriend has always seemed really sweet and mild. He doesn't get angry very often and he's usually really mellow with everyone. The only exception is his sister. She's extremely hard to get along with and I can't even count the number of fights (verbal) I've witnessed between her and my boyfriend or her and their mother.
About two days, my boyfriend and his sister got into a huge arguement. His mom beeped in while we were on the phone and he told me he would call me back. When he did eventually call me back, he informed me (actually rather calmly) that he'd punched his sister in the back and that it took all that he had not to punch her in the face. Yeah. I was shocked. I cannot believe that he would stoop so low as to hit a woman...especially his own sister. I'm really afriad that he might get angry and hit me. He's upset with me now because I told him that I was a little afraid of him. He keeps saying over and over that he'd never hit me. Do you think I'm out of line? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks. [ 03-07-2006, 06:22 PM: Message edited by: luvinhp89 ]
Member # 3
posted 03-07-2006 07:36 PM
No one is ever out of line to feel they are at risk of harm by someone who has clearly harmed others. In fact, that's good self-preservation kicking in there.
So, what would I do? (In all honesty, I personally would seriously reconsider a relationship with anyone who struck another person in anger. ) If you want to maintain the relationship, I'd simply be very wary, and keep an eye out for any signals of abuse. I'd likely also suggest my partner and his family look into family therapy ASAP.
Member # 5375
posted 03-07-2006 08:55 PM
Signs of abuse can be found in this thread:
Member # 16296
posted 03-08-2006 08:52 PM
Well, to be honest, you were completely right to say what you did. That was on your mind and he needed to see it because when you are in a relationship you share things. Just explain to him that when he told you this you were shocked because you never seen him act like that. You've always seen him really calm. He will understand if he's never said anything like that. My boyfriend is the same way, but my boyfriend would do anything for me, and I'm sure yours would too. Dont worry honey, talking is always the key!! Hope this helps.
Member # 3
posted 03-09-2006 08:50 AM
And by the by, is that also this boyfriend?
• http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=3;t=006710;p=1 • http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=3;t=006556;p=1#000000 Because if it is, I'm seeing other reasons to also have concern here.
Member # 21227
posted 03-11-2006 08:22 PM
Yes, this is the same boyfriend. We've been dating a little less than 6 months. I'm having serious doubts about our relationship...I don't know. He's changed a lot in the past month or two and he's been having terrible mood swings. I'm so confused. I have no idea what to do...
Member # 139
posted 03-11-2006 09:10 PM
What ever you decide to do, make the decision for yourself only. Ensure you're own safety, even if there's the slightest doubt in your mind.